If a girl invites you to sleep in her bed is that an invitation for sex?

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  • In nearly all cases, it's going to be assumed to be, unless clarifications are made. And women should operate under that exact expectation: that it will be assumed to be an offer of sex, and that if she makes no further clarifications, then she should expect the man to expect sex.

    • I would never assume that and I would hope a friend wouldn't assume that if I made that invitation.

    • We were talking about a girl inviting a guy. The reverse is a different dynamic. In any case, one simply needs to add some clarification if they don't want the assumption made. Absent the clarification, the assumption should be expected.

    • How is it a different dynamic?

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  • I would certainly assume that. If it weren't, I would expect she would make that clear. I have shared a bed with a woman I after a date where we both had a bit too much and she didn't feel safe driving. I gave her the bed and was going to sleep on the couch, but she invited me to platonically share the bed and we did.

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  • I, personally, wouldn't think so. It's all of how you feel it is. Is it because of trust, care, sex, she's lonely, she wants a warm body? Could be any one of those depending what one thinks it might be for.

  • No. My ex slept in my bed for a while, until we finally had sex.

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  • No, but they won't believe it most of the time.

  • Not necessarily, but it will likely be assumed. If sex is not the intention, then that should be said up front. Also keep in mind that hopping in the sack with someone you are attracted to can get the juices flowing, even if that was not the intention.

  • It might be yes , we need more context

  • If I invited a guy to sleep in my bed with me, I would assume that we would have sex. The only exception would be if it's a friend I've known since kindergarten and with whom I've slept over many times.

  • She is inviting you to sleep in the bed ! Of course its a sexual invitation , its hardly rocket science.

  • I was with an ex of mine where we still had feelings for each other but life took us different ways. One night, I’m at her place, and she invites me to sleep next to her. We had been talking all night, convo got really steamy and then she invited me to bed. She got into the spooning position so that my crotch had to push into her ass. But when I tried to initiate sex, she said she didn’t want to and went to sleep. I was so confused, so I’m not sure what it means.

  • Depends on context.

    Like if I was in need of shelter and she only has a bed in a studio then no it could be her doing me a favor.

    But if we could go anywhere and have many sleeping options and she says "let's share my bed" then yes I'd assume she wants intimacy

  • Absolutely

  • As for me I would have to say no it wouldn’t be however it could definitely lead to sex if both want to heat the sheets up.

  • no way to say here for sure

  • It's definitely going to cross my mind so yes , think positive lol

  • No, it's an invitation for sleep.

    If, while I'm in her bed she removes all her clothes and starts handling my cock stating clearly and distinctly "fuck me" then as long as she's conscious and sober then THAT is an invitation for more.

  • Most likely it is

  • Most men would assume that sex was on the menu.

  • I think the girl would be aware that inviting a man to sleep in her bed could be taken by a man that he can have sex with her. So if a girl didn't want it to be construed in that way she wouldn't make the offer.

    So yeah the invite would be an invite to have sex. practice.

    In any case men can have sex whilst fully asleep - sexosomnia is similar to sleep walking.

    So even if sex is not intended by either it could still happen. When it has happened with me I don't know if the girlfriend tried to stop it by waking me up. Maybe she thought it funny or even exciting. I just know she enjoyed complaining about it the next morning.

  • Not always.

  • I thought girls shared beds?

  • I would take it a a big greenlight.

  • Not always but most of the times

  • I'd love it if this happened but it wasn't obvious. The sexual tension under the sheets would be almost too much! And what if I woke up with morning wood?

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