If a girl you're dating tells you, you have to wait til marriage for sex but she didn't make the other dudes wait for sex in marriage is that unfair?

What do you think about that situation? Should the current guy respect her religious views she has adopted in regards to sex and marriage?
If a girl youre dating tells you, you have to wait til marriage for sex but she didnt make the other dudes wait for sex in marriage is that unfair?
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  • Her simply wanting to do things right on the second (fifth?) go is not the issue. It's her motive for you. Does she express a desire for companionship because she believes in who you are as a human being, or is she looking only at the pragmatic advantages of using you?

    Is her faith truly in God, or in gold? And are you, in her eyes, God's job for her, or are you a golden ticket?

    Because that determines whether she's reformed, and wants to do right by you, or she's a spider, setting a clever trap.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yes, it's unfair. The question is, if that's a good thing or not.
    If she makes you wait, because she sees husband material in you (whereas she didn't take the other ones nearly as seriously and didn't want anything more than sex), that's a huge compliment. It could mean you're too important to her to just jump into bed with you. She may be worried you're gonna lose interest if she makes it too easy for you, and she doesn't want that.
    If that's the case, all you need to do is figure out what you're OK with and what you're not gonna go along with and tell her or act accordingly.

Most Helpful Girls

  • So, because a person had sex before, then they are obliged to have sex whenever it's expected of them, from then on? They don't get to decide that they'd rather set new priorities in their lives because you think that it would be unfair to you, because other guys got what you didn't?

    Wow! You might just have knocked yourself off the list of guys she might have been considering for marriage.

    • @buntyp No... she gave it up for Chad with no rules, but now she is going to make a Beta beg and jump through hoops for sex. Women make rules for Betas and break them for Chad.

    • @KrakenAttackin Precisely.

  • No only virgins can place that expectation. For instance I am a virgin so I would say that I want to wait until marriage.

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  • he should respect her regardless of whatever she's decided to do. same as he deserves respect for any of his views.

  • No. Bish, wtf? You sayin' I ain't worthy or wha?

  • Yes it is. You should have the right to try her before you commit since she's not a virgin anymore anyway

  • I don’t see how it makes sense, but she must have her own reasons for that and yes, it is unfair for the guy.

  • People ARE allowed to change their standards. Besides what are you gonna do? Leave? There's not much else you can do if you're not a psychopath.

    I would think it's unfair if she cheats on you. Then she's a liar and doesn't really wanna wait, just making you wait. But if she waits with you then I'd say it's fair.

  • It's the worse of both worlds, she don't worth all those troubles.

  • Well it's not exactly fair no, but it is her choice, it's also my choice to end it.

  • No people evolve

  • Absolutely! No one is entitled to another persons body based on their sexual history. If that as an issue for you, move along.

  • this shit cracks me up. It's alpha fucks beta bucks every time.

  • yea that's a deal breaker

  • I wouldn't date anyone who wants to wait for marriage before having sex with me, regardless of whether or not she did with another guy.

  • OMFG, a woman who does this has ZERO respect for her man. She sees you as a beta provider simp, and she will still bang Chad on the side. Hard, hard, pass

    • It's not me.

  • Shouldn't date this girl. This is called "alpha fucks, beta bucks" she's basically just being disrespectful and doesn't want you. Just to have you on the hook for marriage.

  • I wanna wait till marriage anyways but yeah that’s unfair

  • I mean peoples views can change with time. Just because she didn’t wait herself doesn’t mean her views haven’t changed in the time since

  • I think she's perfectly right about this she learnt from her mistakes before and now realizes that your supposed to wait until marriage and perhaps she got saved since then and now has different values

  • She doesn't like you as much as the guys she fucked, find another girl. She wants a simp to trick you into marriage.

    • It's not about me.

    • Ok, she can do what she wants., but it tells you something about her. Whay does she make you wait?