If a guy is very horny for you does it mean he is only using you?

[Radiate143]

I am seeing a guy and we've had clashes about how far we want to go sexually. He's a guy so he wants it all but I am not there yet. He said he wants a committed relationship. He will go a bit far with the teasing and laughs when I get pissed off. But he will stop when I ask. He has a bad habit of sulking. He's about four years younger than me.

If I make one little cheeky comment, he will just go nuts and be really horny. If we have a simple conversation about anything he's rock hard. He sulks when I only want to go so far. So we argue. He will say he is mad. I will accuse him of not loving me. Then he says he loves me and I don't love him.

I get distrustful because he is just so sexual and I have always believed that when I guy is really sexual he only wants to get sex and move on.

[Billlewis]

In my relationships, I'm generally very horny for the women whom I serve, but because I'm never allowed to have intercourse with any of them, they're able to harness my ravenous sexual desires and channel them to serve their own selfish pleasure, as well it should be.

[Radiate143]

Alriiiigght 🫤

[Billlewis]

If you want to maximize the attention, respect and of course, the pleasure you receive from your relationships, all you have to do is to restrict your boyfriend's sexual access to providing oral service exclusively, until such a time that you're ready to allow him to have intercourse with you. You may even decide to refuse him any penetrative sex whatsoever, while you're seeing other men who are allowed to have intercourse with you -- and he'll often be thrilled that you're doing so! Don't believe me? Try it!

[Radiate143]

Uuuuhhhh. Ok.

[Billlewis]

I know it probably sounds strange but as the character from 'Sex And The City' once famously said, 'Don't knock it till you've tried it' By the way, I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if it's alright.

[Radiate143]

Well, that's certainly not conventional. I don't DM but I can follow you back.

[AydenHazor]

It sounds like he's really only interested in sex and trying to guilt you into going further than you want to. The best thing you can do is ditch him and move on

[RoseySarah]

From this yes he wants to use you and will probably dump you after he gets what her wants!

Men love to say "the right things' to get into our underwear! Does not mean that he means them! Just lies

Listen to your instincts! They are usually right 👍.

[Radiate143]

Yeah, you're probably right.

[RoseySarah]

Sorry to burst the fun but yeah sadly right wish he wanted more

[Radiate143]

There's a whole history. I had went NC for a out 6 months and he had been calling, texting and showing up near my house. I don't feel like getting into all of it. He had always wanted a full on relationship but there were behaviours that pissed me off so there were hiccups.

[RoseySarah]

Even so all this points to just not caring about you personally. More just wanting a girlfriend and sex. If you say that you don't love me after some one says you do then your just manipulative and uncaring using it to hurt them. Watch those red flags those are his real behaviors not the small stalking things he does and a few romantic Your right to not want a relationship no matter how much he does and him being sexual is so off putting for you! Get the police to put a restraining order on him if needed! I have for 2 exes

[Radiate143]

If you say that you don't love me after some one says you do then your just manipulative and uncaring using it to hurt them. Oh then this would me the manipulative uncaring one according to your assessment. I'm starting to realise that I do have some manipulative traits and can be controlling. Every relationship I'm in seems to disintegrate into a competition and an ego battle. It's a pattern.

[RoseySarah]

Wait I thought he said it to you? Sorry I miss read! No what you were saying is true he probably really does not love you when women say it! It might be but also it's the guys not mixing well with you! Your smart and head strong but also guys need to mix with that not fight it... Which is rare that a guy won't have a bad ego

[Radiate143]

Well he said he is fine without sex. I've only let him kiss me. I just have mega paranoia about being used for sex. I don't want to feel conquered. He had a crush on me for awhile. I'll never forget the day we first exchanged numbers his hands were trembling. The main issues are 1) his immaturity 2) ego I get pissed because we will just sit in the park for hours and he doesn't really talk and I get anxious because I think he's bored and he's just happy to sit there with me. He likes kissong to and I do to. He even came in his pants one time. I did nothing. He is a really horny guy though.

[Radiate143]

He wants to do more than kissing is what I mean.

[RoseySarah]

All this sounds like your not enjoying it! So end it keep it ended and move on! Really I spend like an hour in the park laying on a picnic blanket eating talking snuggling with my hubby. I'd leave if he did nothing but be there! Don't let him do more you keep your boundaries and him cumming in his pants huge red flag if you did nothing! Ew! He had to be imagining some things while kissing!

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yup this is exactly what I was typing u nailed it @roseysarah

[RoseySarah]

@SUMAIREBRAHIM Thank you

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Guys have two zones sex zones and commitment zones just like girls have friends zones (for guys having sex with multiple girls n not committing any resources is win ) just like girls who keep guys in friendzone n not give sex n consume emotional, financial n physical investment from guy. Even if he did u get will not marry u n find other girls on the side it's guys very common strategy..

[exitseven]

Not necessarily. He could really care for you or maybe he is just a horny guy

[Wise4myage]

Follow your gut Instinct.

[Radiate143]

I do my best. He's your age. What makes you extremely attracted to a woman.

[Wise4myage]

Her looks, and especially her personality.

[Radiate143]

That's reasonable 💯

[Wise4myage]

Thanks, being friendly counts too.

[Radiate143]

Really? How about being funny but also not a pushover?

[Wise4myage]

Yes, both work for me.

[Radiate143]

Do you mind elaborating on the personality part?

[Wise4myage]

Just be outgoing and open minded.

[Tomisworthless]

Yeah he means looks aren't everything otherwise your just a devilish person only seeking to satisfy your flesh

[Radiate143]

@Tomisworthless thanks for adding more. So if you ask guy why he likes you and he responds "because your pretty" is that a red flag?

[Twalli]

Some guys are like that, some guys just like to move at a fast pace.

[Tomisworthless]

Well you chose a healthy attractive younger man so not sure why you're now trying to domesticate him

[Radiate143]

That wasn't the question.

[Tomisworthless]

That was the answer i gave tho

[Radiate143]

Oh so you came to not answer the question? You wanted to just chastize me for my dating choice?

[Tomisworthless]

Im not chastizing you it seems you're him tho

[Radiate143]

Do you mind answering the question?

[enterr10]

Mostly guys are horny and sex crazed.. while girls don't want to give sex. That's fact.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Cut off the guy immediately. Nothing good will come of this for you

[rebeliouse]

guys are very sexual beings @radiate143

[Radiate143]

I can't argue with that. So is that a yes or no to the question?

[rebeliouse]

just wank him off but nothing else see how he is then as you give him pleasure and release but dont have to give yourself to him

[rebeliouse]

dm me

[Radiate143]

Interesting.

[rebeliouse]

so u gonna dm

[rebeliouse]

got more to discuss

[Radiate143]

No, I don't DM.

[rebeliouse]

so whats your plan?

[Radiate143]

We aren't speaking at the moment.

[rebeliouse]

so u gonna find a new guy?

[Radiate143]

I'm focusing on other things at the moment.

[rebeliouse]

cool whats your focus?

[eagle1951]

maybe

[Anonymous]

Most guys use women. Only a select few are genuine.