Guys, If a guy talks after sex?

[SarahNicks90]

If a guy tells you stories from his childhood, dark stories that aren’t easy for him to tell and opens up to you about his past and then after sex stays up until 6:30am talking and laughing with you while cuddling and then the next mourning after sex while you’re lying in bed he shows you old photos of himself on Facebook and things he did in his life and explains to you about his past is that a good sign he could potentially consider you for something longer term then just a casual hook up? Or is this normal behavior even with booty calls and or casual sex partners ect? And the next morning while you’re getting dressed he says “last night was so much fun! (Then tells an anecdote from last night) Did you have fun?”

[Holyguga]

To be the devils advocate, if he was opening up about his darker past, it could also be his self therapy. I know plenty of men (myself included) who have some fucked up pasts. If a woman will listen to them and seems to care it feels good. Doesn't mean I want to be with her forever. It's like a free therapist in the most fucked up way.

Once again, being devils advocatw.

[SarahNicks90]

Ouch. So great instead of being used just for sex I’m now worried about being used for free therapy... cause why would a guy open up to me just bc he likes me, it’s bc he’s using me for something else and I’m just “there” I’m not special

[Holyguga]

Sorry to add to the stress. The chances of this are extremely low, and it doesn't mean you aren't special. He definitely trusts you. What I'm trying to say is that he might open up about things very quickly because he has some deep seated emotional issues. Just use caution with him, he may very well be looking for a life preserver in the sea of his emotions, and as much as you may want to help him you can't hold both his and your emotions. Sorry if I caused you any undue stress. But understand that male emotions can be very complicated and that you should just deal with them cautiously, especially in a new relationship. Try honestly asking him how he views you. If he is going to open up about his past he should be open about his intentions.

[SarahNicks90]

It’s ok, you didn’t it just triggered something in me. I appreciate whag you said though, he does have a fucked up past and you’re right I can’t hold his and my emotions. It was our 5th date so I just thought maybe he was sharing bc he is starting to trust me and he wants me to know him better and know the real him... but when you said “free therapy” it struck a nerve bc friends or so called friends and family have used me for that in the past

[BigRob420]

I'd say he wants something more.

[djmzes]

What do you think it is?

[SarahNicks90]

Well my instinct told me it was because he was starting to really like me. This was our 4th date and honestly this was the most open and present he felt to me and the most cuddly. I felt a connection but I’ve been burned by guys who had serious commitment issues so I don’t trust my instincts anymore... hence why I’m asking on here and looking for your genuine opinion

[djmzes]

It is simple Ask him to marry you if you think it is serious and ask him that we will have a legal agreement on which it will be written all our duties as husband and wife and you both will sign. And if someone miss one of it, there is a penalty. If he is ready yo sign it then you find the right person, if he runs... you find another ex.

[ScaryCool]

Is this like a sex friend or? If you guys are close outside of sex and talk all the time and you don't think he is doing this with others, I'd probably say so.

[SarahNicks90]

It’s a guy I’ve been dating. This was our 4th date. I met his best friend of 10 years last night and after he left he texted him saying “she’s very pretty and a cute personality. I like her” so I thought that was a good sign too

[SarahNicks90]

His friend texted my guy that. Just to clarify

[ScaryCool]

Well then what more do you need? Sounds like someone looking for a relationship more than likely haha. Just ask him himself to get the best answer.

[SarahNicks90]

Yea not happening. I’m not asking a guy if he wants a relationship. That’s like the quickest way to push him away

[ScaryCool]

You're speaking to a guy right now so just saying that's not really always the case lol Plus I don't mean ask him "Hey you want a relationship?" Just ask him what was up with his comment to his friend. You know, put him on the spot in a flirty way. We sometimes actually like being caught in those situations.

[i_am_me_you_see]

So he did get back in touch after the silence you wee worried about?

[SarahNicks90]

Yea actually he texted me the day I posted my question and spoke to you. We were talking all day and he asked if I would like to see him so I did and we had so much fun and it felt like we are getting closer. I even briefly met his friend of 10 years who after she met me sent him a text saying “she’s very pretty and has a cute personality. I like her” and his friend said “I’m sure I’ll definitely be seeing you again” and then we just talked so much and he opened up to me a lot. We also were silly and joked. It felt really great

[i_am_me_you_see]

Sweet deals went the way I was originally thinking about. Can normally tell by side I elaborate more on but have to say both sides so to give or take to much hope. I do wish you nest of luck and when I get back inside cell service I'll answer other question some

[happyguy1978]

Sounds like he's hoping you're interested in him.

[King_Herod]

Definitely interested in longer term relationship.

[Anon-ymous1]

Means he likes you and feels comfortable with you.

[HalloPeoplz]

Sounds like long term

[illuminnati]

It's not possible for anyone to tell long-term/short-term but one thing is pretty sure he is getting some affection from you to move ahead in relationship with you but last question should never be asked verbally you have to understand from other sign

[Chris69438]

Long term for sure