If an ex keeps trying to sext with me, if I just go ahead with it to get it out of his system will he possibly stop?

[Anonymous]

[Andres77]

Never ever ever do anything for anyone just because you feel obligated.
It's either the right thing to do or the wrong thing to do.
Especially if it has anything to do with sex.
And if he's an ex and you give in he'll think he won at manipulating you and no, he won't stop.
If he won't control himself at least you can control yourself.

[Asker]

I never would. If I do it it’s because I get something out of it. You really think a well rounded guy would be that petty as to play around just to see if he can manipulate someone? That’s a pretty sad existence.

[Andres77]

He's an ex for a reason.

[Asker]

Yeah distance. I still respect him enough as a person.

[wheist9095]

No he will only be encouraged by it. Because it got results he will continue to do it

[wheist9095]

No he won't get it out of his system, he will just keep trying to feed the fire. You have to starve the fire out.

[Asker]

Why would he do that? If he’s an ex surely he’d want someone else.

[wheist9095]

just because you're not together doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive. Also you can find people physically or sexually attractive without being emotionally available or have a desire to be in a relationship with that person. He's just trying to masturbate, or if he can get you to sext, to see if he can get you to have sex with him again.

[Asker]

Exactly, so it’ll die out right, that’s my point. So I wouldn’t be leading him on no?

[wheist9095]

If you don't send him flirty messages, nude pictures, etc and just talk to him like a regular person with regular people boundaries yes. If you do sext him It will not die out, It will keep it alive and keep it annoying. honestly unless he's a good friend of yours you might need to set him down and tell him hey quit this shit. Pm me If you want to get into more detail about it

[Asker]

I don’t get what you’re saying, either there’s an emotional attachment there or there’s not right, so how is it that I can be leading him on if day he didn’t want it to go anywhere? Surely that’s just casual..

[Asker]

Like I meant I’m not leading him on I’m expecting anything more than mutual pleasure...

[Asker]

*if I’m not expecting anything more

[wheist9095]

It could be that he is emotionally attached to you, and you are more emotionally distant but you appreciate the physical aspect

[Asker]

Yeah. Well if someone’s not that into it I’m hardly going to be.🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

You don’t invest in someone who can’t or won’t invest in you.

[nevernevernever]

no he definitely will not stop, you'll be telling him if he just harrasses you enough you'll do what he wants. I would suggest blocking him

[NaughtyByNature719]

I would tell him straight. If you don't stop trying to sext with me I'm gonna block you and screenshot these and send to everyone.

[loves2learn]

No. Block him.

[loves2learn]

No. It will fuel the fire and make him do it more.

[Adam-eg]

Dm me

[cheapshotbob]

its lie to keep using you, your dumber than him if you keep doing lol
you need too block him so he can contact you anymore

[Asker]

Not at all, if I get something out of it I do it for me. If I don’t want to I don’t.

[JPrez]

He won't stop if you let him once. He'll assume you like it and will want to keep doing it.

[buddysboy16]

No. He will want more and more until you are fucking again

[Asker]

So say we both end up having casual sex for ourselves and our own needs, that’s not leading him on right?

[buddysboy16]

Just make it clear you only are in for the sex. Don't want any misunderstandings

[Asker]

So he wouldn’t already see it like that... so many people here say that’s all guys ever come back for 🙄

[ItsTheNephilim]

Nope. Just block him.

[Asker]

Why block? Bit extreme.

[Kas19]

If you don't want to, don't enable him.

[Asker]

Yeah I wouldn’t

[Gwenhwyfar]

No!!! He’ll keep bugging you

[Gwenhwyfar]

No. Definitely not.

[madisonk]

No, he will keep coming back. Either block or ignore, he'll get tired of interacting with himself.

[douride2]

You would be better off if you blocked & ignored him.

[SirJohn42]

Nope because your opening the door to maybe dick pics or talking to him while he masturbates.

Some exs see what your willing to do.

[Asker]

But why... casual sex?

[SirJohn42]

I have no desire to even have casual sex with an ex. So I have no clue.