Nobody will mind if you have not had sex at 16. Only about half of the guys will have sex by age 18. This has recently climbed from 17, as the kids are living on social media instead.
If you are in that condition still at over 30 then something seems to be wrong, unless it's your religion or you are asexual.
Here in Switzerland there is special sex therapy for such "absolute beginners" in which they can experience closeness and sex. In neighboring Germany, especially in Hamburg, there have always been prostitutes who are good at initiating men. I'd say this could be an option. Not sure how it's done where you live.
Otherwise conversation training and workout. Ideally, it should not be a coaching for dating, but general conversation and small talk.
Well in a nutshell I grew up watching trashy shows involving dysfunctional relationships, early pregnancy and other such stuff. I also grew up seeing pregnant high schoolers casually walking around like it's the most natural thing in the world. So I decided that I would just focus on my grades, and get myself together before even trying to get a SO. ... This backfired HORRIBLY. As by the time I got to a point in life I was comfortable with, everyone in my generation already had their fun and were ready to settle down and I didn't even know where to start. And when I confided in people with this... all I got was mockery.
Sounds reasonable. You need to find only one woman who has a bit of patience. If you are in it for a long-term relationship or marriage it will not matter that she has to initiate you a bit. However, if you just want to try it first I think the commercial way is better. This can give you confidence for the real deal later and you are creating employment rather than heartbreak.
So make my first time with an escort essentially?
You're in your early 30s and a virgin?
Yes, it's either you've great self-control (bravo) or failed in relationship (no offense intended).
But that's you, your private life. And truly, I don't really care until I attempt to share an opinion here.
Likewise, if you don't ask this question, probably no one in GaG will care that you're still a virgin.
Hence my conclusion is, you over think. You being a virgin is to you and you alone. Others won't look down on you. Neither should you. Just live life and if you plan to lose it, then find yourself a girl. That's it.
Those kind of people sound like assholes and insecure. Not someone whose opinion you should care about.
Everyone lives through life in their own pace and time.
And yet it still bugs me. Even thought i know you're right.
Well I would wonder why you haven't done it at age 35.
Just gonna copy/paste what I told Eric summer "Well in a nutshell I grew up watching trashy shows involving dysfunctional relationships, early pregnancy and other such stuff. I also grew up seeing pregnant high schoolers casually walking around like it's the most natural thing in the world. So I decided that I would just focus on my grades, and get myself together before even trying to get a SO. ... This backfired HORRIBLY. As by the time I got to a point in life I was comfortable with, everyone in my generation already had their fun and were ready to settle down and I didn't even know where to start. And when I confided in people with this... all I got was mockery." Besides Im currently caught up in work and have no idea where to start.
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Dude I'm 18 and only had sex with two girls... no one ever said or implied that something was wrong with me
... I mean... that's still more then me...
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