If I have no sex drive because I’m depressed, does that mean I’m asexual?

I’m still a virgin, never had sex. Wasn’t a big pervert to begin with but now I really don’t care if I have sex ever. Should I just label myself asexual and keep it pushing or am I still straight? The thought of having sex with another girl makes me feel a bit sick not going to lie
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  • I don't think you're asexual. I think your overall mood determines to a large degree how you feel about things on an everyday basis.

    Depression is exhausting. It takes away from your joy in life in general, and you often lose interest in things that interested you before you became depressed. I know from experience. There was a time when I lost all my motivation and drive when my depression and anxiety hit. I felt completely exhausted and I wasn't motivated to do anything. I totally lost interested sex. It's like, you have to be in a good mood to be "in the mood"!

    Your lack of sexual drive is totally understandable. I think you need to focus on the root cause of the problem: your depression.

    Has there been any recent negative changes in your life recently that might have caused you to be depressed? (I'm sorry, I know this is a personal question and please feel free not to answer if you don't feel comfortable). Or have you had issues with depression for a longer time?

    Coming from someone who's had issues with depression and anxiety, there are many things you can do to treat your depression. You could get counseling (I did and it did help). And also just stop in at the doctor's; they may be able to prescribe some anti-deppressents they could really help with your mood.

    But the bottom line here is that you shouldn't go through this alone. I would definitely share your feelings with someone you trust and also a councilor. I think this could really help you feel better, and along with that, your sex drive too. 😊

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  • Asexual or asexual-like, does it matter? and many girls are borderline asexual anyway. If you a virgin it's good. Most asexuals are straight, but many girls are into lesbian stuff, while you not, I don't often hear a girl that find lesbian sex disgusting. The thought of having sex with another girl makes you feel a bit sick? and the thought of having sex with a guy also makes you feel a bit sick or you are more okay with that, despite your asexual feelings?

    If I have no sex drive because I’m depressed, does that mean I’m asexual?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Being asexual has nothing to do with being gay or straight. It has to do with how you feel about sex. There are several degrees of asexuality, and an asexual person can be gay, bisexual or straight.
    You probably don't have sex drive since you're depressed. You shouldn't push it if you don't feel it, if you do it might go wrong and you'll regret.
    Besides you're not forced to have sex. It's literally your body, your choice.
    If you don't like the idea of having sex with another girl, that means you're heterosexual.

  • Being asexual is totally different than your sexual orientation. Being asexual means you don't really desire sex or any sexual feelings toward anyone period.

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  • It only means that you are depressed and have a suppressed libido.

  • No I don´t think there´s a need to give you that attribute too quickly especially if you never had sex. Because as you stated in your question you have no sex drive because you´re depressed right? Don´t stress yourself with having sex soon because there are way more important things to life than that.
    I would first try to get rid of the depression since that could destroy any further relationships with guys than you can try sex.
    Maybe you´ll enjoy it if you´re not depressed.

  • It means the depression killed your libido.

  • Not really, I thought I didn't have a high sex drive till I met my last partner and I was a virgin so depends who matchs u

  • No, it means that you are depressed. Are you getting any treatment?

    • I’ve tried so many therapist, hospitalizations, it’s like me and life don’t click

  • Not necessarily. Just means you’re turned off to the idea of any form of intimacy

  • It's possible but unlikely.

  • Oh sure not why you think this way

  • No that means you are depressed.

  • No it causes even guys to feel this way so no

  • I think I'd say wait till your mood and depression lightens up a bit.

    The way people feel can effect their sex drive

  • You aren’t ready for sex, have sex when you’re ready importantly

  • No it means you are depressed...

  • No it doesn't

  • No, asexual peoiple don't have sex drive all the time. Depression has a treatment. You should see a therapist before saying you are or aren't asexual.

  • Allow me to fix that 😏

    • Sigh

    • You know, what's the worst that could happen?

    • You give me aids or a child

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  • Are you feeling horny sometimes?

  • Nope, you are just unhappy. Your mood doesn't determine your gender. That is determined by your DNA.

  • Absolutely no