If I suck my boyfriend's "morning wood" while he's sleeping, would that be rape? Should I even do anything about his morning wood?

Hey, people. Weird question here. My boyfriend woke up with a boner this morning and I'm tempted to help him out but I don't want to feel like I'm raping him. I would wake him up but he has been working long hours this week and he'll be cranky for the next couple of days if I wake him up. What should I do?
It's rape and you shouldn't help him out.
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It's rape but you should help him out.
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It's not rape and you shouldn't him help out.
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It's not rape and you should help him out.
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  • My girlfriend does that to me all the time. Well, not ALL the time, but you know what I mean. (In fact, she did it to/for me yesterday morning - we had quite a nice morning.)

    Trust me, I do NOT complain. It feels great and is an amazing way for a guy to start his day.

    Beyond that, all I can say, in the legal sense, much depends on your boyfriend and the nature of your relationship. However, suffice to say, if you are sleeping together and he is naked - how else can you reach his penis while he is sleeping? - it seems safe to assume that he would not take what you are doing as an attack.

    Only you can know that for sure, but it seems a safe assumption. As a strict legal matter, he could theoretically charge you with sexual assault - such is the era we live in. However, I would not dream of doing that to my girlfriend. My hunch is that your boyfriend would not to that to you.

    • Do you ever wake when she does it?

    • Absolutely. How could I not? It feels amazing and it usually starts off our morning on a very good note. As with the other morning we ended up pleasuring each other and sharing some quality time together. We tend to a kind of raw sex - not in a BDSM "chains and whips" way, but in a sort of primal, instinctive way. We are like two animals breeding in a field with licking and sucking and even a bit of biting and scratching. Not always, but more often than not. When she wakes me up that way, it is as if she is submitting to me. I wake up to find her lips around my penis and she is servicing me and making me feel every inch of my manhood. It is incredibly arousing and satisfying.

  • Your boyfriend should be waking up with an erection almost every morning. Even if they had sex the night before. Morning wood is a health indicator. Lack of an erection in the morning can point to circulatory or low testosterone issues.

    As to whether it is rape or not, that is tough to tell. If he feels violated by your doing it then yes it is. If he doesn't then it wasn't.

    Basically, unless you have explicit consent then you can't be sure.

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  • I would be uncomfortable if someone did this to me, so I would establish your boundaries and ask when he’s awake once in a sexy way if he’s okay with you doing stuff to him in his sleep. Then you either have the permission or not. For right now, I would just wait until he wakes up

  • Funny how I see this question at least once a week, from an anonymous lady 18-24 years old.

    • I don't. Must be a coincidence.

    • No it isn’t.

    • It’s you again

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  • It’s best to ask before you do it.

    • But he'll be cranky for the next couple of days if I wake him up. So should I not do anything?

    • Yeah just don’t do anything then

  • Oh I would be very happy to get a bj or morning fuck.

    I did not vote because if you and him are already staying together, you should had discussed matters like this with him instead.

  • I wouldn't dream of doing that while he's still sleeping, but he does like to wake up with me holding or gently stroking it.

  • Would you be ok if he woke you up with some surprise sex?
    It really does depend on whether or not you're in a relationship where your consent is mutually assumed.

    • Depends on what kind of sex. I don't want to wake up to his dick in my vagina but I'm fine with oral. He likes oral when he's awake so I assume he wouldn't mind it if he's sleeping? Do you think he would mind?

    • I don't think he'd mind, he'd probably enjoy it. But if he's anything like me, he might not enjoy any possible double standards that's best to iron out before an misunderstand/argument in the future breaks out. For instance, he might also like the idea of waking up being ridden by you. One day after assuming your consent in your relationship is assumed, he might want to wake you up in the middle of the night in the same way. If you stop him there and then, or tell him the next day that you feel violated, he might take that badly to the point of not trusting you anymore. So... id be careful. My advice is either; a. have the talk with him before hand to lay anything out so everyone knows where they stand, and even then he still might not take kindly to knowing you'd draw that line with him that you're prepared to cross yourself. or b. really do some soul searching to find out how close you are, to the point of mutually assuming sexual consent or not. If you can let yourself trust him to wake you up by riding you and not feel violated (or however it'd made you badly feel), then wake him up with the BJ. But if you can't bring yourself to that, then don't, it's not worth opening that potential Pandora's box.

  • Talk to him about his feelings on the subject.

  • Ask for his consent beforehand and talk it over with him.
    If you do that in his sleep without his consent, sounds like rape to me.

    If you do have his consent, it sounds like it could be a fun time.

    Also, just to be clear, "morning wood" happens a few times throughout the night as a natural part of sleeping, not just in the morning.

  • if he's really asleep he'll piss in your mouth.

  • By feminist standards, yes. Realistically... no, it's not really rape, but if you should do something with it or not depends on what your boyfriend wants.

    • He likes when i give him bj's when he's awake so do you think he would be fine with me giving him a bj while he's sleeping?

    • You don't have to answer. You obviously aren't in his head.

  • Unless you have asked him first, technically it is.

    • So i shouldn't do anything?

    • ... util he wakes up?

    • *until

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  • It might be rape but go for it anyway and relaxe 😏

  • It's a nice gesture but it'll wake him up, wait until he's ready to wake up on his own.

  • It's rape but you should help him out.

  • If you are sleeping in the same bed, there is a degree of implied consent for just about anything. Morning wood is often a body reaction for needing to pee. When I have fapped it, I have not gotten off.

  • Ask him if he would be okay with you waking him up that way

  • I'm PRETTY SURE he'd actually REALLY appreciate you doing that!! If I had a girlfriend in bed with me and she woke up to my soldier standing at attention, I'd consider it a HUGE treat if she helped herself, climbed on board and took a nice little ride around the mattress!
    I'm also sure that if he doesn't like you doing either of those, once you try to do it, he'll let you know! If I was you, I'd try to taker advantage of his morning surprise for you!

  • Yes it is rape and you should have a permission slip signed and notarized hanging over the headboard prior.

  • Depends if you've talked about it beforehand. Not every snigle time you aim to do it, but generally having a conversation about it.

  • Morning wood is normal.
    And i'd love to have my morning wood sucked.

  • Ask before you do it

    • But he'll be cranky for the next couple of days. So do you think I should give him a bj or not?

    • Ask or you might get punched

    • He knows better. Should I just leave him alone?

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  • It's not rape if you yell, "SURPRISE!"

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