If it weird that I know he's just using me but I still kinda like it?

Question

I've been texting with a new guy for a few weeks. When we went on the first date we ended up having sex and continued to do so since then. But after the first week he started to talk a lot less and it's at a point now where he clearly only messages me when he's horny and wants sex. When he does that when I'm not feeling horny it annoys me a bit but then I still go.

Once he finished he shows little interest in getting me to cum too if I haven't done yet. I get the feeling that he wants me to get out as soon as possible again, therefore I don't even take the time to shower and just do that at my place instead. I know he's a bit of a dickhead but I can't blame him because I run back every time despite knowing better. When taking the bus back home I often have to think about the fact that he's just using me and honestly it kind of gives me an oddly satisfying feeling, even more if I still have this slightly warm wet feeling from the cum leaking out of my pussy. I don't know if I'm just weird or if it's a kink I'm not aware of but I kinda like it tbh.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

If you both understand that you are using each other for sex, then that is okay. But he needs to satisfy you, also. Usually a guy's sexual interest dies for a while after he cums, so he is not going to be helpful to you. You need to talk to him about it and make him understand that he needs to satisfy you first, then he can have his satisfaction. If he is not willing to do that, then dump him and find another (better) guy. I guarantee many are out there who would be thrilled to be in that kind of a relationship with you.

JamesMI616 · Accepted Answer

I think it's fuckin hot that you're into it. No one should be kink shaming you. You can and should do whatever gets you off. Maybe the strictly physical activity is all you need. Plus you know that he's kind of a dick and doesn't have much to offer beyond the sex. I find a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it is sexy AF.

Babybelle · Accepted Answer

Yes it's weird. I'm thinking you would benefit by trying to respect yourself by giving your body to people who have the same interest in you. Why do you like being degraded this way? I would try counselling and find out what happened in your childhood that made you feel so inferior to others.

Billlewis · Answer

A lot of people just enjoy being used. I love it when a woman just uses me for her own selfish pleasure, and doesn't even let me have any physical contact with her, other than kissing her feet and butt, etc.