If sex has become boring and I haven’t reached an orgasm ever with him is that really ONLY my fault?

[nspencer]

Significant other literally blames it on that I don’t put in the effort.

[summiter]

It is no ones fault. However both can find ways to improve the odds. Try a lot more foreplay... just get naked and have him explore every inch of your body. Teach him how and what you like with oral sex. He may not know his way around a vagina/clit. Some guys need some feedback and coaching. Use some lube even if you are wet.. it always makes things better. Have you had an orgasm with a different boyfriend? Was this one a virgin before he met you?

Do you orgasm when you masturbate? Maybe get some sex toys like a vibe and use it before sex. As you know many women can't orgasm just from penis/vaginal sex. They need oral stimulation. My wife has a vibe that we both use on her before sex and it is wonderful. The fault is not always the girls. Your thoughts?

[DaveJord]

Well honestly I am would not say its your fault, it could be attribute to all types other subconscious or conscious issues you may be having within the relationship or with the person, and his blaming you for it probable not helpful.

At the end of the day if you are with someone that you can't be comfortable with they you need to do some self reflection on that, and determine if this a relationship you what to pursue.

[Apple1996]

I believe so yeah. You need to take control of your own body and learn what makes you orgasm. Your orgasm isn't his responsibility

[Still-alive]

Best answer

[Apple1996]

@Still-alive thank you!

[nspencer]

Eh well it’s def not him that makes me orgasm😅

[Still-alive]

you can always communicate with him after you know y our body better and tell him what to do to help you out.

[DonkeyDan]

If he ain't pushing the right buttons that's his fault. If you're not into it, then maybe you can try to work out what's going wrong, either way the blame can't be laid solely on you. Guys who are generally shit in bed will always blame it on the woman.

[slatyb]

Have you asked him to stop something differently?

[Dargil]

Nope. He should improve his technique and diversify his menu.

[bowenw]

If you've told him what he needs to do plus give him feedback, and he doesn't get you off, it's on him, assuming there is nothing physically wrong with you.

[Sophia001]

Why do you depend on only him

[AndrésC64]

I guess it would depend. But I would say that at least half of it would be on you. You need to communicate and tell him or show him what you need. As long as you've done that, then it should be an equal effort. If he's not putting in the effort, then perhaps it's time to find a different partner.

[Iron_Man]

Nope

[michol123]

A womens sexuality and orgasms are tightly tied to their emotional state, how do you feel when you’re with your partner relaxed? Or nervous, on edge, try flirting throughout the day via text as for-play really get your engine revved up so a orgasm will be easier

[Tamii69387]

No he should make you orgasm

[In_Trance]

I think it's 50/50

[Zolly99999]

Nope. .. " it takes two to tango" he is not working hard enough to get you there !!

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely not

[Anonymous]

Mostly no... only yes it is the girl's fault when she is not tryna focus n then sayin i feel nothing