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If you date someone, do they have a right to know how many people you have been with before them?

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  • No. Only if you have any diseases or kids. Your past is your past. It might help some relationships to share but it also might hurt. Personally, I’ve always wanted to know every sexual adventure and thought and fantasy of a girl. There’s a way that I approached her that, in the end, made her feel comfortable enough (even excited) to share her past with me and accentuated our relationship. If a girl had trauma and it came out I’d be very supportive and help her work through what I could and help her get further help if she was in need of it.

    Waking up with a girl screaming and kicking and scratching my face (this happened with two separate girls) because they were having a nightmare remembering their rape…really heavy stuff. In both cases all I could do was grab their wrists and say their name until they woke up and realized it was me. Then the tears and sobbing. Breaks your heart. Than the long talks. No judgement, just support.

    with the right partner, your past should not be scary nor shameful. Of course, you don’t HAVE to tell them but it might also be a huge indicator of how supportive that partner might be in the relationship. And it’s an indicator in how serious you might be about the relationship. Is he just a fuck-buddy or could he be the future father of your kids?

    its delicate. Tread lightly. It could also lead to intense passionate bonding. Good luck. I hope you find what you need.

  • No. They have a right to ask, sure, but I'm not obligated to tell them. And if they don't want to date me unless I tell them, they are also not obligated to date me. I can tell them or not, and they can leave or not. That's our rights. I've never had this kind of problem personally though.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Hm, I'm waffling. I'll explain my reasons for wanting each.

    Yes - especially if you're getting sexually active. Being safe isn't just wearing a condom - it's also, for some folks, knowing their partner's sexual history and testing for STIs. It's not owed and the other party CA certainly refuse, but if I don't get a partner's clean STI test then they don't get my pussy.

    No - it's not information owed. However, if I refuse to give my sexual history to a prospective partner who wants to know it, I have to deal with the fallout of that. Maybe that means I get no pussy. Maybe that means pussy with conditions. It's up to the other party. Then it's up to me if I accept or bounce.

    Personally, I'll be open about it. I see no reason to lie or obscure.

  • Absolutely not!

    • Couldn't agree more.

    • Yep. He'd need a very long sheet of paper too haha

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Let Sleeping Doggies Lie. xx

  • A RIGHT? No one has a right to know personal shit.

  • Yes.. if you can't be open and honest about your past how could I trust you in general, when the only reason you wouldn't want to disclose that info is if you are ashamed of what you have done.. They would be an instant write off.. because what other things do they do in life that they are ashamed of but continue to do time and time again lol I can love a hoe but if you can't own up to what you yourself choose to do.. well then move along..

  • Nah, fk you. that's none of their gawd dam business.

  • If she genuinely wanted to know how many people I've had sex with, I'd gladly tell her, but since I haven't gotten much pussy, she probably wouldn't have a whole lot to worry about. On the other hand, since I always prefer that the woman I'm serving is considerably more promiscuous than I am, I wouldn't push her to tell me exactly how many lucky guys she's been with over the years. However, she'd certainly be encouraged to give me some of the details about her intimate sexual encounters.

  • People have a right to ask, but it's not like you can force them to tell you. I would exercise my right to cut off someone if they didn't want to tell me though.

  • Nah not really unless you feel like being honest with them

  • They don’t have a right. I can disclose if I feel they should know but it’s not a right or a mandatory.

  • I think generalities are okay. I've been in the situation where a woman [not even my girlfriend, but someone I'd dates a few times] assumed since I was deployed so much that I was "pretty inexperienced." How that equated in her mind I'm not sure. She asked me if I'd ever been somewhere I said that was around the way from my exgirlfriend's place, so we'd go there for nightcaps. She countered accusatorily with "you said your ex was in [a different state]". I said "no different ex girlfriend." She then proceeded to go thermonuclear about how I had hidden an ex from her and I've "just had soooo many OTHER women." Blah blah blah. She either walked home or took a taxi. Those days were before Uber. Hope she made it back safe.

  • They don't have a right to know my body count, but if they ask, I'm honest and tell them... and then ask them their body count, which I expect they will freely tell me.

  • I like to know, if they tell me voluntarily, and many do, or most of the time I don't ask. I like to know out of curiosity, but NEVER to use it against them in any way, which is childish

    As an example, I wife told me that 30 men had fucked her, including her brother-in-law, (her husband's, sisters, husband) she said he was hot in bed and that they fucked all day Saturday at La Quinta Inn near the mall we shop.

    It is stupid and naive to feel your lover/wife/girlfriend has not had sex with a few other men, in this day and age, and I would not want an inexperienced lover.

    I would say more, but don't want any criticism from those that don't share my POV.

  • It depends on how long you date. If it gets serious, then yes, they do have the right.

  • Should we provide resumes? Number of visitors and things we have done? Nope.

  • I wouldn't call it a right, but if they ask I will tell them once I tell you I can't unwell you, so if you aren't prepared for the answer don't ask the question.
    If they still want to know I will be as accurate as possible.

  • If it comes up in conversation then just be honest but I'm not really that curious about it in the first place.

  • Yes and no, if you don't want to respond you don't have too but you shouldn't act surprised either if they stop dating. They're free to ask and you're free to respond or not and they're free to react according to their belief.

  • Yeah. There is no reason to be secretive about your past relationships. Unless you’re hiding something if course.

    • Oh I just realised you may have meant body count… no they don’t need to know that lol

  • Best not to talk about that kind of thing

  • I said no but eventually I would like to know.

  • Only incels care about it, and you stop keeping track over time too. Too many negatives and no positives.

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