If you feel you are hurting the woman during sex, would you have a hard time finishing off (orgasm)?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

I wouldn't want to hurt a girl who didn't want to be hurt - I would stop. But I've been with women who are not only are okay with experiencing some pain during sex, but would be upset if I stopped just because she's experiencing some pain.

So, really, it depends on her and what she wants (and you shouldn't assume that everyone wants the same thing!).

[AustinMan]

It depends. We're kinky so I like to hurt her (within reason) and she gets into it. What's your situation?

[Bri_Happy]

The only time I would expect a guy NOT to stop is if we were doing BDSM

[JM20022018]

I too love femdom bdsm

[ThomasTKay]

I would stop. I cannot be turned on knowing I'm hurting her. I want her to feel good.

[Mystery1900]

I would stop and not finish or orgasm.

[Dargil]

I would stop.

[0112358]

Probably, unless she was into that. I'm concerned about her enjoyment and arousal, I'm okay with the fact that's sometimes a mixture of pleasure and challenge, at least for some people.

[Asker]

I think this is what happened between my boyfriend and I. I don’t know what it is, if it’s his strokes, his size or me but it hurts when we have sex. Like something is stabbing me and now he just gets frustrated and stops altogether also, he initiates sex less now probably thinking it’s a waste of his time. I want to fix it and talk to him about it. I’m thinking it’s something we can change, try new positions, him going slower or something.

[0112358]

Have you had this issue with other guys? What positions have you tried? When does it hurt?

[Asker]

It hurts the most in the doggy position and I never had problems with other guys because he’s the biggest I’ve had since I’ve started having sex

[Asker]

I really want to talk to him about it but I don’t know how to start it off without it being awkward.

[Chiefbenttwig]

No.
I would stop even if it meant not finishing at all.
What do you think cold shower are for?

[Ripper_E]

It depends. If having sex with her causes her pain then I stop. If it's just one particular thing then I stop doing that. Getting her to orgasm is far more important to me than getting one myself anyway.

[genericname85]

well i would obviously try to avoid that and do things she enjoys. then i can get off easily. if i know i hurt her, that isn't gonna happen.

[Rippersavage]

Yes.
I care about my partner's pleasure and if I could tell that she wasn't enjoying it then I probably wouldn't be into it.

Obviously it's different if she actually enjoys the pain

[crmoore]

Assuming she doesn't want to be hurt, no, I'd imagine I could still finish. However, I wouldn't want to continue so I wouldn't end up finishing anyways.

But it she did like it hurting, I'd probably have an easier time finishing.

[JamesBlackDragon]

If I think I would ask if she says no then I have no problem

[JM20022018]

U can say it openly

[CubaPirate]

No because I'd immediately stop trying to if I thought she wasn't enjoying the experience

[Yellovv]

İf she hurts not possible to carry on for sex..