If you find out your 31 year old female coworker/friend/acquaintance is still a virgin what would your reaction be like?

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Would you laugh about her? Have pity on her? Think she's weird or a loser?

Hulk_kitty · Accepted Answer

I don't care what someone sexual history is, to an extent, as long as they weren't a prostitute or an escort. Or the body count was off the charts.

Been a virgin is not a loser, I think people who save their virginity for the right reasons, should be admired and respected, cause it shows they have self respect. I would much prefer a women who is a virgin than a women who has a lot of boyfriends, because she would be comparing me to her exes in the bedroom.

However I am not saying all women would compare me in the bedroom, but I think some would compare to their exes.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

If she was pretty and had the same hobbies as me, I'd hang out with her, and something better might come out of that. If I'm not attracted to her, or she doesn't share my hobbies, I'd be indifferent about it.

I'm also a virgin, and I'm older than 31, so why would I laugh at her or think she's weird or a loser? Saving yourself for a match is the smart choice. People who have casual sex risk catching stds and getting stuck with exes they had kids with, all for an orgasm they could just watch porn to get.

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

It's definitely rare, but nothing that is ultimately my business. I'd probably react the way I would finding out anything about someone that isn't so common. For a moment I'd find it interesting that she had not yet been with a man, but after that, forget about it and let it be her own business.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

Why the fuck would I care? Technically speaking, (going with legal uk sex age), she's only "been virgin"/aka "when virginity started to become "important" at 16. So that's only 15 years.
It's literally just if you've had sex, it's not that big a deal in the grand scheme of life.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

I would have no reaction to it, I don't see it as a problem. In a way i would even respect her for it

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I wouldn't think much of it. But I'd think it'd be nice since I'd have an older person to relate to.

TipsyFr · Answer

Wouldn’t give a hoot, but If she felt bad about it or needed to talk I’d be there, I wouldn’t judge her for choices she’s made in life or not made. One of my guys went to jail for murder. I heard the story, he’s a nice guy on time not violent, has a family he cares about. Made a dumb mistake as a young man I’m not judging him I certainly won’t judge someone for being a virgin 😂

Sour-rose · Answer

"same. But between you and me, I'm a goddess. And gods don't engage in mortal behavior."

summiter · Answer

It would not change our relationship... everyone has different timelines or opportunities

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I always say to each is own & I wouldn’t judge her or look at her any differently.  Who you are is who your are & who we all are is who we all are.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Indifferent. A friend of mine is 34/35? And a virgin. Doesn’t mean anything and her sex life is none of my business.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I can't imagine thinking anything. I see no reason to care.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Honestly, It would attract me to her. I might or might not translate that attraction into action. …but I would always have it in the back of my head that I could be her first and really male it special (for both of us).

patrick994 · Answer

Personally no, I wouldn't laugh at her, I wouldn't think she is weird or lame, being a virgin doesn't mean being a loser, there can be many reasons why a woman is a virgin, one of them is her experience, past traumas and too strict upbringing, I would never allow myself to judge her, just because I don't know her, even if it was by her choice I would never allow myself to judge her negatively.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Not at all! Actually, I wouldn’t think anything of it, unless it looked like we were getting together. And even then, only to understand her desires, fears and needs, so she knows she’s valued and cared for.