If you had just started seeing someone and you felt like your emotions towards them are weirdly strong, do you pull back?

[VIVANT]

The question is in the title. By strong feelings, I don’t mean sexual desire I mean emotional bond. That may include sex for many of you but I’m just specifying here, I’m referring to emotion feelings so there’s no confusion bc often there is. 🙃

[ohsheeT]

No this is who you are why would you want to hold back you take a little breather think about it and then explain the reason why you feel the way you feel and say it in the manner that you want them to hear at the same time you want them to understand that you are their friends still and let them go from there never hold yourself back you miss out on great deal of Life by holding yourself back it is what it is you are who you are this is your journey your experience take It to the limit never hold back

[Lliam]

I wouldn't pull back. I would enjoy conversing and having fun with them.

But I voted 'B' because it might depend on how they feel as well and/or what our aim in dating is.

[VIVANT]

Thank you Lliam I always love your answers, you know yourself well

[KatherineJ]

I got emotionally attached to my now husband really quick. I tried to keep my guard up, but failed. Good thing too, since we are about to celebrate our 11th anniversary.

[empathylove]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes it's impossible to resist the beauty. And I prefer to go with the flow.

[VIVANT]

I wish I could be like that 😇

[empathylove]

You never know what the destiny has to offer you. Sometimes it's better to take initiative rather than regretting later on for losing something precious

[OlderAndWiser]

If I feel that way, I may not express it immediately, but those feelings just tell me that she is potentially someone special.

[VIVANT]

That makes sense. 😌

[lightbulb27]

At your age id run thenother way. Lifes lesson is there are reasons for the feelings in sub conscious mind. Probably worth exploring to understand

[Dargil]

Other. It is INFATUATION. You know it has to end, but like a hot shower on a cold day, but you indulge yourself in it while it lasts. Girls have called this A Fling.

[VIVANT]

I don't know. A doing is only a going if you make it a going. people can fall in love and stay together too. I guess it just depends on what your aim is. I’ve never had an aim in dating so it always bothers me if I develop feelings. But that’s not the same for everyone. Interesting tho that to you it must be a going, I Jean I can understand but I wonder why you assume it’s a bad thing. Sone do sone don’t. So I’m just curious. It’s why I asked the question after all.

[Wonderingguyy]

I don’t pull back, full speed ahead for me! It’s not often I really like someone, and I feel like my judgment is really good

[VIVANT]

Good for you!! I think I am exactly that way in an alternate universe 🤩

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I go by my feelings and how things are going with me and that person and just go with the flow.

[humanearth]

Go with the flow

[MysticDevice]

I'd say its about 50/50. Sometimes I'll be more forward if she feels the same, otherwise I'll be much more cautious.

[Lokiion]

I don’t pull back I just go with the flow from what I’ve experienced most of the good relationships/friendships come from going with the flow and if it’s doesn’t workout then it just wasn’t meant to be

[AmeerX]

If my feelings are strong, I just tell them

[VIVANT]

I Respect that.

[AmeerX]

What would you do if you had strong feelings for someone?

[VIVANT]

Honestly, Walk away and then regret it and maybe try again later when they already hate me 😂 👀👀

[AmeerX]

🤨 that's the most girl thing a girl would do

[VIVANT]

No I do not think so. I don't know any but go kid do that if she really liked someone usually they I’ll hope it works out.. unless they play games but I don’t do it as a game. It’s just I’m not comfortable with the feels I have known guys to do this but I never met a girl who did 😯

[AmeerX]

Really? It's so opposite in my country 😑. Sometimes I wish the world was reversed except the physical intimacy and things would be great for people like us haha

[VIVANT]

Lol I just wish everyone was HONEST

[AmeerX]

If everyone was honest, then we wouldn't have hypocrites and most problems would not happen before reaching a critical level

[VIVANT]

Yup life would be completely different, it’s unfortunate.

[Alex-Snow]

This has not happened to me yet.

[Jamie05rhs]

No, of course not. Why would I do that?

I don't need to "pull back." Because I'm going slow anyway.

[TallAnon]

I got plenty to think about, so with relationships I tend to just do what feels right/comfortable

[VIVANT]

Makes sense!!

[Alex8736]

Pulling back is the last thing you would want to do because it will make the person think you are uninterested

[VIVANT]

I think this is true but I meow think it’s is often very tempting bc it can make you feel a loss of control. That is how it is for me so I was just curious and yeah I think it’s often destructive but oh well, humans 😂

[Alex8736]

But TBH what really is the worst that can possibly happen and you are right about being human but myself being a glass 1/2 full type of person is when you see an opportunity go for it where if nothing is gained nothing is lost 😁

[VIVANT]

Yes I agree. Ironically in both cases it’s an emotional reaction. Both of you fall fast turn are repelled by it. It can be dressed up as pragmatic to walk away but it’s a reaction. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Alex8736]

So very true sweetie 😀

[VIVANT]

😂 🫠

[Alex8736]

Keep on smiling 😁

[VIVANT]

What wise can we do 😂 😭 😭

[Alex8736]

Hee Hee

[eagle1951]

depends