Guys, if you had sex with your female friend and regret it would you still contact her?

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  • This is a very good question and I will answer that I am not sure because I don't think there's a universal answer.

    First, I am going to tell you a story that really happened.

    In March 1988, I was 25 and going for a PhD at a STEM school in upstate NY.
    I grew up on Long Island and my buddy from home decided to visit me one weekend.

    At this time, he was working with a real job, but I was an unpaid grad student living in a shithole room for 3 years since I got my BS.

    So, he got a decent motel room with a double bed and invited me to stay.

    HOWEVER, he also brought with him his girlfriend, Gerri, who had been a friend of ours before they became a couple.

    Now, you need to know that this girl Gerri: She was "radioactive"... very dangerous...

    So, here we are - the 3 of us - in this motel room. Maybe my buddy wasn't very perceptive, but she was hot for me. And, she knew that I was hot for her. Even worse, she knew that I was hard-up. I hadn't had sexual intercourse in over a year since Fall 1986 when I broke up with my girlfriend.

    Long story short, when my buddy was out, she and I started making out.
    And again the next morning! (Yes, I slept over in that room in my own bed.)

    My guilt was unbelievable. This guy was my BFF! But, my God, I was like a wounded gazelle and this woman was like a lioness; I had no power to stop her. I know that sounds like a cop-out, but she deliberately did things to tease me and get me aroused and it was obvious to her that I was responding.

    After they returned to Long Island, I went back to my dreary life as a grad student with a shitty reputation, shitty situation, and shitty apartment.

    She called my office a few times, but I did not know how to respond or what to say. I certainly lusted after her, but I wasn't going to wreck my relationship with my BFF over her. So, I never responded and she stopped calling - although I have to admit, my attitude was that I finally had the courage to answer her call, but she never called again.

    The next 2.5 years were interesting and are something of a sequel to this story, but I need to end this story.

    Today: I am still friends with my BFF, but I spoke to him much less after that because I didn't want to hurt him if he discovered what happened. To this day, he still doesn't know, I believe. He's not on Facebook, but I am Facebook friends with her casually.

    It wasn't until 32 years ago today that things changed for me and that all that past could be put safely into the past.

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    So, to answer your question, in this example, I did regret it - (but, secretly, I didn't. God, I wanted to fuck her!).

    Now, if this was a generic female friend and we were both unattached, no, I don't think I'd regret it. Chances are I might want to become a couple.

    *sigh*
    You know, I should tell you the story of the nymphomaniac roommate who I met about 2 months after the incident with Gerri. That's another example of a friend and having sex with her. But we were roommates and so we saw each other all the time.

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  • Yes. Have had drunk sex with friends. Made sure afterwards that it didn't get awkward or spoil the friendship while making it clear I didn't want more than friendship in future

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  • Your friends why not be friends forever why would he not want to be friends anymore was he embarrassed because of what he did or because of what he didn't do there has to be a reason

  • If a female friend wanted to have sex with me I’m all for it if I weren’t in a relationship. Would I have contact with her absofuckinglutely & I would never regret having sex.

  • If she is my friend, I wouldn't let such thing ruin it. I wouldn't go for it again that all.

  • I wouldn't regret that anyway. But of course I would contact her a friend is a friend.

  • possibly regret it, for sure it would change the dynamic but if we are 100% honest, its probably something that most guys would like to do with their female friends

  • Sure... But amount I would regret the sex entirely depends on how she acts after our encounter.

  • Yes, it might not have been the best decision but to throw her away…if she was really a friend…that’s fucked up

  • I don’t have sex with female friends they are a friend for a reason

  • Yes and why not?

  • Yes. And that’s happens to me.

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