Guys, If you have great sex on the first date does that impact the way you feel about the girl?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's generally not in a woman's best interest to have sex on the first date IF she is hoping for a committed relationship. The reason is because most men will assume that if she slept with him on the first date, then (despite whatever she might claim) she likely slept with a lot of other guys on the first date too - which means she lacks boundaries and impulse control, and therefore can't be trusted to remain monogamous when in a relationship. This leads to men looking at her as only being suitable as a Friend With Benefits and not for a relationship. (Note: this doesn't specifically apply to me personally; it's a more general truth about how men look at women in this situation.)

Obviously if you're just looking for a casual relationship, then, great! Great sex is great sex and who doesn't want that? But if you hope to have a committed relationship with a guy, save the great sex for at least the third date, and your chances of getting the commitment from him go way up. Just saying.

RebornFrmA5h5 · Accepted Answer

That depends on how long we had known eachother prior to that first date, and whether I saw a possible relationship with her. I've learned through harsh lessons how to disconnect most emotions before they grow to strong, should the need arise. Usually all it would affect with me would be how aroused id feel for her after, and if id be willing to have sex again, then or at a later date.

ohshee · Answer

In a positive way yes if it's for a long time slow passionate seductive in slow motion it's going to be hard. To leave lol kidding

InfobotsMom · Answer

It's not going to make feelings happen if they're not there, but it would likely make you interested in having sex again.

Avicenna · Answer

It does. It makes me want to spend more time with her.

reptocarl · Answer

Hmmm. This is actually a good question. Just the sex alone no. There has to be other factors for me to want to continue

Shiver · Answer

Yeah, I'd be more inclined to take a more sexual and aggressive approach.

MrMilti · Answer

Depends on if there is more on the table, than just "great sex"

pigoat · Answer

Nope

worldscolide · Answer

Not really no. Sex and how I feel about someone are two different things. I know if sex happens on the first date and it seems like it was out of desperation I will be less likely to go back out with her.. I prefer sex to be a second or third date thing.