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Once upon a time I would’ve thought this is a bad mindset to have as a guy, and growing up I would always be irritated by people saying how guys just want sex from women, but now as a grown man things are different and I don’t get upset about stuff like that anymore. In fact nowadays it oddly turns me on when women get mad and say how that’s all guys want, but that’s another story. Life and experiences have shown me things about women and sex, and eventually this world will show you those things whether you believe it, expect it, or are ready for it or not.
I understand some guys won't agree with me or advocate what I'm saying, and that's okay, but I still want to say it for other guys who are looking for a romp.
Women are doing the same things...
Before now I would never promote a guy going out to get just sex from a woman, but why have I changed my mind? Because a lot of women themselves are not innocent and are seeing guys just for sex. So if a guy wants to see a woman just for sex, so be it.
Some women will read this and might say, “Just because some woman is a whore and sleeping around doesn’t make it okay. Two wrongs don’t make a right.” And that would be a fair and correct argument in another situation, but wouldn’t apply here because I’m not saying guys should just go out to fuck as a get-back-at-her kind of thing or try to prove something or compete with women. I’m saying that a lot of women are getting mad about guys who just want sex, but are lying and being dishonest about their own sexual behaviors and pursuits.
Many of them are having sex with guys and don’t care about a relationship yet are trying to demonize men who are either doing the same things or are looking to do it. So my point is that basically guys really should not be worrying too much about how they look for wanting just sex if that’s what they want, and that women are really in no position to judge them for it either.
The real truth…
Are all women doing the same thing? No, and I’m not even necessarily sure I’d say most women, but I do know that a hell of a lot of them are not innocent, especially in these times. A mean but true fact is that women really are crooks about sex no less than men are. That really is the bottomline. And if you’re new to interacting with women frequently or even dating, then you’re gonna find that out pretty fast. And they’re doing no good by lying or denying their activity.
A lot of us guys know the stuff our female co-workers, neighbors, bosses, classmates, even family members, etc. are doing while they think nobody knows it. Hell, even my ex-coworker was sleeping with guy after guy - some who were married and one who I think was a teen - and at one point she even tried to get me into her, but got annoyed because I wouldn’t take her bait. One of my other co-workers even recently got knocked up by her neighbor and he’s married. Last year we even had a Muslim female manager who was sleeping with the other managers, and she was married, and got fired when corporate found out. And on my last job? My 19 year-old co-worker at one point was trying to ask questions about me and my age to see if I might be game for fucking, and I wasn’t into her.
Females are not as angelic about their sexual habits as they’d like you to think, and a lot of us guys already know it anyway. So if your own habits and intentions as a guy aren’t angelic either, why try to pretend to be? Be up front. If females are labelling guys as being preoccupied with sex and only wanting women just for that, who cares? It doesn’t affect you. Do what you want to do as long as you make that clear to her. However, you don't have to - and shouldn't - try to get sex from women who are taken like those women are doing, but stick to ones you know are single. Seek the sex, but keep cheating out of it.
They’re proud of it too...
Another truth is that a lot of women seeing men for sex are actually bragging about it in private with their girlfriends - and sometimes even other men! You have two-fold situations where some women who sleep with men fast don’t talk about it for fear of the slut factor, and then you have others who actually like to brag about it because they see it as empowering and a good sign that they’re attractive and can get any man they want.
And honestly? Women are being hypocritical. They’re proud of their own sexual activities, but hate it if guys are proud of theirs. They don’t like being treated as easy lays for men, but will treat men the same way vice versa. They will hate it if they find out that a man they’re sleeping with has 10 other women on his phone that he’s meeting up with, yet these same women were texting and messaging 10 other guys too. They don’t want a guy who’s fucking her to brag about it with his friends, but she’s bragging about the same thing with her girlfriends, how she finally got him, how good he is in bed, or even how big. They want to sleep around like they want and not be called sluts for it, but are getting mad at guys who fuck lots of women or want a woman just for sex.
Women are getting used in turn...
Women aren’t being honest about the stuff they do and why. They’re complaining about guys always wanting sex or how hard it is to find a guy who’s not focused on it, but a lot of these same women are really only complaining about it when it’s inconvenient for them or if the guy who wants to sleep with her isn’t her type, but she’ll be perfectly fine with giving it up easy to some other guy she’s really turned on by. That’s when she’s okay with random sex or hooking up, until she finds out that that guy is using her on a string along with other women he’s fucking. Then she gets mad and her opinion about guys changes - or gets worse. They think they’re winning by getting sex with all these guys, when in turn even these same guys are usually still using them and a whole host of other women. That’s how the cycle goes.
Are you using a woman if all you're seeking is sex? In a way, yes. But by being real and letting her know that's what you're interested in, she knows what to expect. You're not pretending to be a good guy just to get between her legs while you have other hoes on speed dial. You're making it clear what you're about, and if she wants to then it's fine.
As long as you’re honest about it…
My mantra has always been that if you want sex with a woman, be up front with her about it. That’s how I’ve always been. You don’t literally have to say, “Hey, you look sexy, would you be interested in sleeping together?” This would probably work online more than real life, and if you’ve at least talked to her for awhile, but in talking to a woman in real life you don’t exactly put it that way.
Just be honest and upfront about what you want. And while you will get women who look down on you for it and think you’re a no-good, you will be surprised that you will also get other women who will respect your honesty, even if they still don’t want you because of it, they still respect you because they know where you’re coming from. And there will also be others who actually think it’s hot that a guy knows what he wants and they get turned on by it. So don’t play the game of putting on a goody image but really having dirty intentions in private. It’s just a waste of time.
Men and women accept sex differently…
One thing I’ve learned in life is that women often are much more likely to be persuaded into sex if you two are completely alone. In public where they can be seen by other people, women are not generally going to be receptive to a sexual invitation from a man in the open. And this is because by nature women are more self-conscious and paranoid about how they look in public than men are, and they especially can be worried about how they look while a guy is talking to them in front of other people. But things are different if a woman is in private with you. When you get a woman alone you are 10 times more likely to interest her in sex if you’re good at conversation, very relaxed and playful, and can make her feel good with you.
A lot of people like to live by the logic of the street experiments on YouTube that show how easy a woman can get laid by asking random guys in public while a guy asking random women gets almost no takers. Genders accept sex differently. Although I doubt most men themselves would really say yes to a woman in public, it can still happen if she’s quiet about it. But to reel a woman in generally can’t be done in the open like that. A lot more women than people know are game for fucking as long as the invitation allows her more secrecy. As I mentioned early on, they really are no more angelic than men, they just want that to be what most people see.
Be confident and suave…
By this I don’t exactly mean trying to seem smoothe or slick, but taking each situation with a woman lightly. With no high expectations but seeing it as a possiblity. Treat it as fun casual interaction when you’re trying to make a move, and if she’s not game for a fuck just be playful and maybe laugh about it, and just smoothly move on like a guy hopping back on his motorcycle and revving up: “Okay, that’s cool. See you ‘round anyways.”
You’re gonna get both hits and misses. That just happens. If sex is all you’re seeking right now then go for it. Who cares if women are labelling you as whatever? Has that ever stopped horny guys all this time? Do what you want.
#GoGetSex
What Girls & Guys Said
17 41In my experience it has been this way for at least the last 25 years or more. But maybe it is just where I live.
yeah
yea thats funny
I only want a woman for sex and money.
Man this shits hard to read and follow
I still don't think i know what i want?
I want a relationship that will hopefully last the rest of our lives. I would NEVER date a woman who has had casual sex. I'm realistic, so I don't expect to find a woman who has had as few partners as me (1, and we only did oral), but there's a huge difference between someone who has had casual sex and someone who only had sex within a committed relationship (I'm perfectly fine with the latter).
And for the record, I was in a relationship with my one and only partner.
As long as both parties are not consenting.
You can do what you want in this country, that's what's great about it, but, there are always consequences for your actions..
Also, remember, women like to wear white on their wedding day, just sayin'
Interesting Take
I wouldn't date a man who'll got aids. so NO! I wouldn't pursue to go for some random guy.
Just go for it if you wanted. Lets wait until you got the AIDS
lets see who's crying in the end
That's what condoms are for. Or are you the no condom user type. lol
Utter Rubbish. AIDS is a scare story with politically conservative motives. Yes it exists, but its extremely rare. You have to sleep with over 500 people to run a small risk of getting it - lgbt people, 'African fetishists' and intravenous drug users being the most risky. I've slept with loads of girls, and each time I get checked out, I haven't even got chlamydia, let alone HIV, never mind AIDS. And no-one I know closely has AIDS. Thats impressive - I know people whove died of skin cancer, breast cancer, pancreatic cancer, road accidents, even drowning and drug overdoses. But AIDS? Nah. Anti-sexual feminist scare stories.
@DonRomeo there's also STD thats not even a different story
@DonRomeo good luck with that.
@DamnMan nope goodluck with the sickness you'll catch eew
I can't the judge was very specific a about me being on campus with a rope and ski mask
Are you shading me?
Sorry?
Who are you?
The girl you made the take about, I will find you, and I will kill you.
Lol. No idea who you are but I do suspect that's why not many females have commented, cuz they know who they are.
Ah we meet again, I still want your head evil man.
Honesty and consent...
Interesting points here, almost all the profiles I see on dating sites say no hook ups and want a relationship so I guess guys keep trying, Tinder is probably best for that I guess
If you see "No hookups" in a dating profile, you know she's there looking for a hookup. That "I'm not looking for a hookup" bullshit is just a way of weeding out the stupid, weak chumps. The kind of guys she'll be looking for once she's post-Wall and looking for a nice fat wallet to marry. In the meantime, if a guy that makes her pussy tingle texts and just wants a hookup, she'll be blowing him in the bathroom of the bar within an hour of meeting.
@Barrabus_the_Free This is extremely true.
@Barrabus_the_Free So I should just do the opposite and ask for a hookup instead?
If you are one of the guys that has women throwing themselves at you, absolutely. If not, absolutely, it can't hurt.
@Barrabus_the_Free I SORTA am, but only with particular groups of women.
@Barrabus_the_Free Unfortunately not but I guess it's worth a shot anyway 😊
You really don't have anything to lose. If she thinks you're hot, she'll be ok with it. If she doesn't think you're hot, you wouldn't have gotten anywhere with her anyway, so it's not like you'll have fucked anything up.
@Barrabus_the_Free LOL, that's true
I wish it was acceptable for women to be more open about this.
I have a male friend, whom I met this year. I'm attracted to him, and I've told him so. He said he's not interested in a relationship right now.
I wish I could say to him, "Alright, but what about friends with benefits? I'd be down for that if you are."
Problem is I have no idea if he'd find that sexy, or feel like I'm "degrading myself". If we both want the same thing, why does it have to be so complicated? We could be having so much sex right now...
I doubt he would look down you for that, unless you perceive him to be innocent?
I don't think he's innocent, but he has shown some disdain for slutty women. Not sure if he would think I'm slutty if I proposed that to him.
Mmmm. Possibly, but I kinda doubt it, especially if you 2 are already familiar with each other.
you are degrading yourself. Just offering yourself up for sex and getting nothing in return? So when the right guy comes along, are you gunna tell him you were some guys fuck toy for a while before you decided you were worthy of having a devoted partner? Don't sell yourself short, keep your fking legs closed for a while and you will have an amazing life, shit is complicated, and life isn't about sex. Good guys like girls who haven't slept around, and have only been in devoted relationships...
@Goochbreaker I don't understand this whole "getting nothing in return" attitude. Because I'm a woman I can't just want a regular partner? I have to want expensive dates, or flowers, or jewelry or to meet his parents, or I'm not doing it right? Nope, I can decide for myself what I want, thanks. It's not important to me that a man spends money on me, or that we see each others' families right now or any of that. Often, the early stages of a relationship are similar to friends with benefits anyways. You never know if it's going to work out anyways, so I feel like being "friends with benefits" is just an honest version of starting a relationship, in some cases.
we are a sexually dimorphic species. If you are a gay man in a relationship with another gay man, you can think the way you do. You will age, and you will understand... good men don't want a woman who's been with a bunch of dudes and all they were getting in return was what is freely available to any woman who opens her legs. You don't have to listen to me, but you'd end up a lot happier in later years if you did
I think if more women just did it, it would be "acceptable" (ie, not care so much about what others think). And I thought I'd point out, my girl did exactly that with me, said "what about a fwbs". Not only was I ok with it, but I didn't think any differently about her (ie, "a slut" or anything). But, I don't judge people in general and certainly not about sex or nudity so I know not all guys are like this. I would just go ahead and ask your friend! Don't know if you don't ask and just be ok with yourself, no matter what he thinks or feels. You know you're a good person, so don't feel like you're "degrading yourself"
As long as both parties are consenting adults