If you’re abstaining, what should the line be for physical intimacy before marriage?

[Anonymous]

[21Cowboy21]

You should always see if you are physically compatible before you sign any legal document permenently tying half of your life savings and posessions to the other person.

Would you ever not take a car you are considering for the next 10 years for a test drive or two before you buy it?

Is the engine still working? Can it handle well in all conditions or only wants to work well in some? Maybe it doesn't perform well on the highway and you buy it planning to drive it ling distances?

[21Cowboy21]

I once started to date a girl and personality wise we clicked well. But a few weeks in after meeting we started to fuck - I gave her a light slap as I like to get dominant and have a little light hair pulling if I feel like it. She didn't like either of those things and was 100% vanilla. The only exception to very soft gentle slow sex always - I got bored pretty fast - was she loved anal - and that is one of the very few things I am not into. So we both are still friends but we decided after 6months to part ways as there was EACH someone out there whow would make both of us happier individually than with each other - but still respect her as a great person a lot.

[Asker]

Sounds like objectification lol

[21Cowboy21]

For both of us having separate kinks? No its more just than rather us being incompatible sexually together - but still really good friends - there are other people who would likely be better for each of us separately so we mutually broke things off and went back to being great friends still is all.

[Twalli]

It's your choice but people generally consider oral and not really counting. Although it was the plot of a porno (so I know it's bullshit) anal was considered as not really counting as sex.

[Mmmariaxc]

The line is wherever you want to draw it, it won’t make much difference. If anything the closer you get to sex you’ll be more comfortable together and excited when you actually get to do it.

[jennifer_bloom]

The bible standard is nothing sexual

[Asker]

No kissing?

[jennifer_bloom]

You kiss your brothers and sisters so a face kiss is allowed

[Asker]

I don’t kiss my brother 💀

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't do anything that you know is wrong (inappropriate.)
Don't do anything that you would get a ticket for if done in public.

[Rudon00]

Kissing for me and I'm not going further than that

[Preeti161101]

No penetration

[Anonymous]

Handjob/fingering.

[Anonymous]

No intercourse.