If you're having a 3 some with your boyfriend and a female friend is it cheating if you fall asleep and they have sex without you?

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If they have sex while you're sleeping is it cheating or still part of the 3some?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I voted “C - Unsure tricky question” because “IT DEPENDS”…

If you had intended on having (or just had) a 3 some with your boyfriend & a female friend, and you fall asleep and your boyfriend has sex without you he MIGHT BE cheating on you—IT DEPENDS on what sort of “relationship agreement/understanding” you have with your boyfriend regarding what is “allowed” with a non-Significant Other (non-SO).

Note: There isn’t an “absolute” definition for what “cheating” is — cheating is different for each different couple. In general, “cheating” on a SO is “doing ANYTHING with a non-SO that is NOT ALLOWED by your SO” (and which goes against that couple’s “relationship agreement/understanding” of what is allowed with non-SOs).

BOTTOM LINE: If you somehow let your boyfriend know he could only have sex with another woman while having threesome sex with you, then it IS CHEATING if you fall asleep and your boyfriend has sex with your female friend without you.

Also:
See my detailed explanation about cheating in my opinion to this question…

What do you consider an emotional affair?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yes it is it's a clear cut answer

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

This is something a guy would think is alright but a girl may not.
It's tricky grounds but to be on the safe side a guy (or gal) should avoid this situation as much as possible... It's not a threesome if the third person isn't included... Guys (or gals) do the wiser thing wake the third person up.

GenaBaby1995 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, when I was younger my boyfriend pressured me into one and that happened I wanted to run over him the next day

Koppi00 · Answer

Are you serious? You're already having a threesome and you are concerned about cheating? Why do you think your boyfriend agreed to 'him and 2 girls' in the first place? You don't stop the party, the party stops when everyone runs dry. If you got jealous and want to have fun yourself, why not have 2 guys and yourself next time.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i had a 3 some with a number of couples and all of them were adament that they all be in the room at the same time as sex occured... so technically it would be but you were in the room just asleep... which is a tough call

Red_Arrow · Answer

No. They should not have to stop just because you fell asleep.

summiter · Answer

I think it is part of a 3 some.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Not really, it's part of the 3some, its just you chose to fall asleep.

GlitchyDisc2590 · Answer

This is 100% up to you guys, depends on the boundaries you set for your relationship. If you're cool with it then yes it's okay. If it bothers you then no it's not okay. All depends on how the couple defines the parameters of cheating.

Fireguy17 · Answer

that would have to be the worse 3 some on the planet if I/you fell asleep.
I can't ever remember a time when 1 of us fell asleep until we were all done and just couldn't move any more, so we would pretty much fall asleep together.

Passion_Devil · Answer

I didn't think of this. Maybe. It should be discussed.

JennBITx · Answer

That is tricky, but it is usually part of the agreement of having a threesome

Macnelon · Answer

I think unless it was explicitly said that either of you could have sex without the other no it’s not cheating. If you only agreed to engage in sex with the 3 of you, than it’s cheating I think.

Kabluie · Answer

Nah, I actually been in this situation.. If we have a 3some it’s likely we all like each other. I’m also poly so more to like.

Browneye57 · Answer

Gee... such a joyous relationship. Three morons.

The-Senko-San · Answer

It shouldn't be

Ironic_Method · Answer

We generally have our boundaries talked about beforehand so this doesn't happen. But in our case my wife gets sore quickly and often makes food or goes in the other room while we continue.

BobbyC65 · Answer

Rules of the threesome. 💞

karaspara · Answer

Tricky one not sure where i'd stand on that to be honest

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's part of the threesome lol. Not their fault you fell asleep. That's on you.

kellytheman · Answer

That is a tricky question. I going say no if you got sastified and they was making you the center of attention. Then if you fall asleep from pleasure overload and exhausted and they are still having sex they are not sastified yet so that why no. But if they are being selfish and you feel like you can't get involved then yeah I consider cheating even though your there. It's always good to talk to each other and the third person so everybody knows what the rules are so no one has regrets or hurt feelings.