If you’ve been dating for a year, is it no longer just about sex?

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  • To me, the way you worded that implies it was just about sex, and “dating” wasn’t an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, more of a situationship or seeing each other. I feel like entering a situation on those terms leaves no room to assume anything more unless he specifically states otherwise. Doesn’t matter if it’s been a year, until you two are locked in then it’s just about the sex. Of course this is just my perspective and I could be wrong. Like if you two are actually together with a title and there’s more to your interactions beyond sex, like going out to do things, interacting properly throughout the day, involved in each other’s lives (like you know his family/friends and vice versa), then I’d say it’s no longer about sex.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Time has nothing to do with it. What do you feel, do you feel there's nothing there and it's just sex or do you like him?

Most Helpful Guys

  • it's more like a subconscious thing it's never the adrenaline u used to get with them when u r about to have sex, you still enjoy it you like it but your not hyped or as excited when it's going to happen, because we'll you've been able to have it and if y'all are doing good u can continue to have it... it also depends what you got in the relationship for, if you got in it only for sex then well ill be honest that was a mess up from the start, if it was a mix of the sex and just the person in general then again like I just said that adrenaline eventually goes away

  • Talk with him. Find out where your relationship stands and if you're on the same page or not.

    • Already have. He’s seeing how it goes.

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  • I feel like yes it's more about building a future

  • Can be whatever u guys have made it

    • I know what I’m making it. I’m asking because I’m trying to gage what he makes it.

    • But that won't come from u reading into signs lol understanding how he views the situation requires a conversation

    • No but it reduces any naïve beliefs that one gender can have and then misunderstand the other gender with. You see.

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  • I guess not

  • With me it was never just about sex.

  • It should never just be about the sex!

    • I agree if one person doesn’t want that. If both do then actually it’s fine for them, although I wouldn’t choose that myself. But that’s more of a judgmental response and doesn’t really answer the point of the question.

    • It actually wasn’t a “judgemental response”, it was an honest one. Sex is such a small part of any physical relationship that if it’s “just sexual” then it isn’t going to last long.

    • You’re assuming the casual crowd want it to last long.

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  • Sex can keep it exciting. Otherwise, what are you then besides friends?

  • What makes the sex really good at times?

    • Connection, enthusiasm, rough, gentle, positions etc.

    • I see. So it’s only good at certain times when he is giving more energy and you feel a closer intimate connection. Other than sex in what parts of the relationship does he give that energy?

    • It’s good like it’s not ever bad, but I guess I’m comparing it to the best I’ve had which isn’t really fair. Well he’s bought me expensive and thoughtful gifts for holidays. We’re planning to go away together, we aren’t seeing anyone else, we’ve met each others families etc and I suppose we’re just seeing how it goes.

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  • No; it can still be just about sex.

  • Is there any romance? Do either of you do things for each other? Share interests?

    • Yeah we do things for each other and try to create romance, we share some basic interests but not unique ones really.

    • The way you worded your question, does that mean it was about sex?

    • No it wasn’t for me in the beginning and I made that clear. It’s more of a hypothetical question in case a guy saw it like that despite what he said.

  • Usually

  • Most definitely not all about the sex.
    God Bless

  • If you've dated that long and NOT moved forward... Yeah, it's about sex.

    • How do you define moving forward…

    • To redefine the relationship as somthing else than "dating".

    • Such as…

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  • for me if a girl and i have sex with no condom that makez us an item due to sex being a bonding thing for me

  • it always evolves sex but yes you begin a relationship with many other thing involved

  • I think then more about companionship.

  • Usually you're past sex as a priority, and gain substance as time continues to go on.

  • It’s never about sex to begin with

    • Good for you. Can you expand more? I’m sure it is for some though.

  • Depends. How is the sex?

    • He says he likes it. It’s okay for me too, really good at times.

    • That’s good then. Are u wanting more?

    • I never wanted just sex and made that clear from the beginning. He says it’s not just sex but we all know that people can say what they know others like to hear too so… hence the question.

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