If you've decided to take it slow with a relationship, but you know there is something abnormal about yourself sexually, should you discuss it?

If a couple decides to take things slow but you already know there is something about yourself that affects sexual compatibility with most partners, should you talk about this with them or wait for them to find out a few months down the road?

Hypothetical examples could be abnormally large or small genitals, conditions affecting sexual activity, past trauma affecting how you approach sex, or abnormally high or low libido.

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  • I would wait until the conversation gets to that point. The whole point of taking it slow, is to get to know each other aside from the sex/relationship point. A person will value/ won’t care about your sexual issue when they actually know you and love your personality

    • What I'm trying to figure out right now is we're approaching the point where we know we like each other for who we are and have started to discuss escalating the relationship and have begun to talk about sex. We won't have the opportunity to actually do so for at least another month for various reasons, but now that we're talking about it there is one thing I'm concerned about because it's been an issue with a past partner, yet at the same time we're clearly going to cross that bridge as soon as possible, so I'm not sure whether it makes sense to give "advance notice".

    • @asker hmmm this is a tough one. I guess you can totally just do the experience and see if it is a problem to her. Some people are so infatuated with you that they don’t even care. My ex used to always wear his shirt during sex and I thought it was pretty weird but I didn’t even care because I was too infatuated with the experience

    • I'm thinking it's something I should discuss at this point. It's not something like "Hey I wear socks all the time", it's more like "Hey, this is going to be a potential problem at least initially and will impact our sex life"

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  • Yes I would talk about it otherwise it will just get awkward later or make things even worse. Be upfront and if it’s meant to be then it will all work out.

  • Sex is so personal. What is an issue with one person may be a turn on for another.
    dont overthink and have fun with your new partner.

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  • Yeah, why waste sometimes time?

  • You should let them know

  • I think you should tell that as soon as it seems apropriate. Once you become more relaxed with eachother and talk more freely is when you can sort of feel the mood and determine if now is right.

  • Definitely discuss it with your partner.. it could be a deal breaker and the longer you wait the worse it will be