If you’ve ever cheated OR been cheated on (physically/emotionally) what do you think specifically made it hard for you/them to remain faithful?

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I remember with one guy, I thought it was the lack of sex/wait til sex, but even once he got it, he admitted, he could never be satisfied because he just wanted a variety of 🐱 🤷‍♀️. I don’t intend to every physically cheat on anyone but I think i caved emotionally when this one guy was not giving the attention and communication skills that were discussed before hand. Plus when the physical attraction started to decline from what was there in the beginning, and he refused to work on it, that continued to turn me off. The lack of common interests could be another since it took away from quality time together. And overall likely due to just not being who I thought they initially were (which of course leads to the actual breakup that shouldve happened in the first place instead of cheating or constantly trying to make the wrong thing right/work). I don't know, just throwing some reasons out there. But yea if i don’t feel they suit me BOTH physically and emotionally, then I don’t want to stick around. Like lets just end it #FeelFreeToList

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Okay well you asked LOL
I think she had an emotional connection with somebody and she might have connected with him I don't know but here's the crazy part

At night time she would pick fights with me and she would tell me that I was sleeping with one of her friends it was a different person every other night

And I would say no I'm not and she would say yes you are and she would say tell me your f****** her and I would say I'm not going to say that because I'm not,, and I said and you know that I'm not,,

And then I would say you know I'm not f****** anybody but you and she would go on and on and on

And then she would say I know you want to f*** her then

And I would say no and she would say yes you do tell me you do and I would laugh a little bit and I would say no I don't she's going to come out show me how you would f*** her

Come on show me and I would look at her and shake my head and she would just keep going and going and going.

I think it was one of her Kinks I'm not sure finally I would say enough I've had enough it should say come on f****** just like you'd f*** her show me how you would f*** her and every once in awhile I would say you know what I'll show you exactly how because I'd be so pissed off

And then I would f*** her exactly how I would f*** that girl and then she would get pissed off at me because I was f****** her as that girl better than I would f*** her LOL is what she would say I couldn't win I just finished laugh I said enough I'm so tired of this crap

This went on like I said every third fourth day of the week different girls and one time she said that to me and I said well one of these days you'll let me f*** you is you and I'll show you how good I f*** you but that never happened I got tired of it and I had to go

Fabiloso · Accepted Answer

I think it's usually for those reasons. A lack of understanding or caring for needs. I also think sometimes it's easier for people to be the bad guy by cheating and fuckin it up that way instead of talking it out. Like ripping a bandaid without the deep conversations and just the puches thrown by the cheated. They'll talk like they didn't mean to or something just to get out as the good guy probably hoping you'll be a future booty call kinda gig. Catching hands and leaving it be seems the prefered way for a lot of breakups like that. I dont get the mentality still but I will say when girls are physically flirting with me, I'm suddenly drunk and unaware of my life at that moment. I feel like I've seen the mind control methods of hoes. I guess men do it too. It could be for reasons or not for why they cheat though. It just makes love look to me like a nice tasting meatball of stupid but its really made of dog shit. And I've just seen what cheating does from afar. No personal experience with it yet. My current suggestion is to keep it in small towns for love. Outside of there I only see feeding grounds for good hearts.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I had inappropriate friendships according to my ex.
I was always open to meeting someone and just going with the flow, no pressure.
But when I met him I decided to commit to him, and be exclusive.
I had male best friend's where we talked openly about their lives, relationships, loss of a parent, type of bodily functions like constipation. Tbh these guys were my brothers (I'm an only child ) so even if we talked sex it was in relation to our relationships.
He on the other hand couldn't handle it, during a particularly bad period of time where he was blowing hot and cold, I called him out and he didn't fight to keep me so I ended things.
It turned out that one guy I was friendly with through work did want more and during a gaming night he made a move and I didn't say no.
A month later I received an email from the ex basically wanting to reconcile.
When we talked I told him I'd been with someone else. He said he was hurt and felt cheated on as he hadn't been with anyone else and regretted not doing anything to keep me.
So I simply explained we were over. I'm in relationships through all circumstances but he left me no choice but to end it..
I didn't expect to reconcile, so I moved on.

I'm not a player but like others I'm desirable. So yea...

If you want me. Be sure!

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

My ex cheated and that’s simply because that was in his nature and I wasn’t smart enough to realize at that time. He was dating 4 women including myself. Clearly wasn’t hard for him at all because he was so damn good at it.
Im happy I didn’t stick around to know how bad he really was. 4 months wasted is better than years.

Billlewis · Answer

My first serious girlfriend was going home to her parents' house every weekend, and, as I found out later, having sex constantly with a guy whom she went to school with a few years earlier. She candidly acknowledged that he wouldn't be a viable option as a husband or long term partner, but she gushed effusively about the mind bending orgasms he gave her when he was fucking her. So, in this particular case, it was the enticement of the intensely pleasurable sex that prevented her from being faithful, and within days of finding out about it, I was literally begging her to keep seeing him.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

So you both cheated?

Never cheated. After talking with some of my buddies about some of the things that my ex did that seemed odd, there is a possibility she was cheating, but I had no way to prove it and was only operating on assumption and gut feeling.

RonanAN · Answer

Lack of sexual compatibility, which later just turned out to be lack/fear of communication.
Ironically so because we went back to having a physical relationship a month later, and she cheated on her next partner with me afterwards.

iron_ninjs · Answer

The reason I got, was because I wasn't paying enough attention to her. This was while I was in college. I had classes 8-9 hours a day. And most of my classes were mandatory. I also needed to study. She couldn't get that. So cheated. Later, I found out how shallow and self-centered she is, so I didn't care that much.

RavVid · Answer

Not so long ago, relationships were more important and more valuable to us. They still are. It is a lot easier for a couple to buy a house; a single person is competing against dual income couples who can afford to pay more (and will). Economically coupledom is advantageous.

At the same time though a failed relationship is economically a disaster. Particularly in the long term. Once the economic aspect of relationships is removed they become more dalliances. Something that is done for fun and short term pleasure.

In reality, fun and sexual pleasure has a short shelf life. A new partner is going to be more interesting. From my male perspective a new female body is going to be more sexually exciting than one I am quite familiar with. This goes for the emotional side of us also. A lot of us are broken records emotionally and the needle keeps skipping back to the same stanza again and again. "I've heard it before" is our eventual reaction and not only is it boring but it becomes goddamn annoying.

In short once life time economic benefits are removed, than we are only in it for fun/pleasure and one of the couple will inevitably see fun/pleasure being higher elsewhere.

That's my take on it.

exitseven · Answer

I had somebody go back with her old boyfriend from high school. It was a real surprise and she really hurt me. Now I see that I was mired in the limitations of my crappy life and maybe was not much fun to b round.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Never cheated nor been cheated on.

MysticDevice · Answer

She was a little naive and had trouble telling people no. I do believe it was just a momentary lapse in judgement and not anything intended to hurt me at all.

I didn't want to leave her and she did ask for another chance but that's where I draw the line.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have never cheated or been cheated on

collie22 · Answer

I walked in on them, that wasn't pleasant at all.

jahaims · Answer

They are able to lie to thereselves to justify what they are doing. It's just manifested undealt trauma.

kellytheman · Answer

I never cheated on a girl in my life in anyway but I have been cheated on more than once my multiple girls. Had had one girlfriend who I really loved which I thought she might be the one but one day I came home I heard noise from the bedroom I open the door and she add riding the hell of are next door neighbor who was married. I couldn’t forgive her and kicked her to the curb and the guy got thrown and shit burn by his psycho ex wife.

BryanMoore · Answer

there was a physical incompatibility between us (which she always blamed me for) so she cheated with someone more "normal" 😅

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

I got home from work one day and my girl was not home and she was 9 months pg at the time and I decide to call her immediately and she didn't answer like 15 times and finally she said hello I said where are you she told me shopping with her mom and I was like okay and moments later her mom calls my phone and ask where she's was and that she wanted her car home now.
I said what the hell she just told me she was with you.
Her mom said nope she that she borrowed her car hrs ago and I was like wtf. And hung up with her mother and tried to call her back and she never answered the phone. She didn't come home until the next day at 11pm. Turns out her childhood crush just got released from prison and his sister was her BFF and told her he wanted to see her and she went to se him while 9 months pg and even spent the night with him so womenare really something in my book and that's nothing my next relationship she was the worst ever and is living with my oldest brother right now and our son stays with me so yep women are the worst in my book

LavLavLuv · Answer

He’s just… a cheater 😁

TallAnon · Answer

I would never. If I am not happy with my current situation, I end it.

SunnyRS · Answer

Unless double booking on a date count, I have never been cheated on and I prefer breaking up with someone rather than go behind them, so never cheated on someone.
But if double booking on first date counts then I have been cheated on once.

DreamGhosters · Answer

Because they are disloyal, unfaithful, **whore-spirited, their faces don't say what they are worth.

Slim57 · Answer

Don't know or don't care really, whatever it is is a horrible reason that's never justifiable

justabuddy · Answer

I'm sure I have been cheated on, but I have never cheated before. I would feel like crap for doing so.

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