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If you were to pick ONE sex (either man or woman) which would you blame more for today's "dating theme" to be more hookups, etc. than meaningful?

Not social media, not celebrities. Pick one sex.

Personally, as a woman with self-respect, who dresses conservatively, doesn't sleep around (only been with 2 guys), etc. has a good career, etc. I am getting to the point I'd rather die single surrounded by cats than date a guy.

I've tried a few over the last few months and most of them are looking for sex early and/or are talking with multiple people at once. And I am ***not*** meeting these people at bars or clubs as I don't go to such -- they're friends of friends or colleagues.

And while it's easy to blame the men I personally blame today's women for becoming cheaper and cheaper (dressing revealing, being a free prostitute by sleeping with whoever shows them attention) and having less & less standards - if a guy has success with cheap women why wouldn't he come to an erroneous belief most women are cheap?

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For the record, I haven't slept with any of these guys. We go on one maybe two dates and that's pretty much as far as it goes. Being intelligent & trained in mental health I'm pretty adept at sousing out things.
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  • I think it's both. On one hand you have many guys players that fake their personality and don't have conscience. On another hand, you have women who rarely give a chance and many times are multiple dating due to human nature I guess.
    I think the solution is to practice ethical dating and be honest about what you are looking for.
    However... Sex is a very strong factor. Believe me I thought it was not as strong as true emotional connection but it is strong. You don't need to go to bed with 1 different men per month, but if it happens and you protect your mental and physical health it might be good for experience.
    In my previous relationship sexlife was simply bad and we tried many things. We just didn't have good chemistry with sex and we kept trying for long.
    So now, each time I'm interested in someone, before having a relationship I will want to have sex and see how it goes. It doesn't need to be perfect, that will improve over time. But not having sex for more than 3-5 dates would be a bad sign for me.
    I noticed you speak about mental health, maybe should I refer to you that sex therapy helps into deconstruct some things like sleeping a lot around being a bad thing and other common sayings.
    Bad is playing with people's emotions or not being honest and hurting people or yourself in the process.

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  • I like your question and how you phrased it. I couldn't select one gender... isn't it both? Somewhat chicken and egg-ish? Guys want to have sex then women are owning their ability to have more sex more often more freely so guys start to push for/expect/[fill in the blank] more sex more often sooner and the cycle feeds off itself. You could read what I just wrote and say that means women, but I really think it's both. Another analogy would be supply and demand.

    • Yes & no. If there were not cheaper women with less standards who dress revealing, sleep around, sleep with anyone who shows them attention then men would not be under a belief that this is "normal" because they've had success with cheaper women.

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  • This is a very difficult question to answer and I do think that, to a certain extend, both genders are responsible for the lamentable situation today.

    However, given that the porn industry is mostly ruled by men, that men are less capable to control their sexual drive and sexual hormones and that sex practically rules their lives 24/7 from the start of puberty until their late 50s, I would tend to say that men bear a higher responsibility of our decadent society.

    But women are also to blame because they are incapable to resist the marketing strategies of those companies that promote promiscuity, be it with advertisement for clothing but above all, they are the weakest link in social media.

    It is sad that in our totally corrupt society, people of both genders lack the necessary maturity and need to do exactly what their neighbors are doing because who wants to be different in our world nowadays?

    • "I would tend to say that men bear a higher responsibility of our decadent society." And women with no standards, who dress revealingly, sleep with anyone who shows them attention, etc are not predominantly to blame? Men are merely taking advantage of cheap women and making it harder for decent women.

    • Women are to blame because they lack the strength of character to oppose those that instigate that they should dress poorly (or not at all). Society in a whole is responsible and that includes women as well. If women had a little more brain, they would realize that they are being played by society, which incidentally, is still being ruled by men for the major part.

    • No sweetie women are to blame because they have no self-respect. I said in the original post that I dress conservatively, so such things as ankle length skirts, etc. A person requires self-respect to be able to dress suitably and not be so easily pressured into dressing in a way that is demeaning as many women do dressing too revealingly & acting like tramps

  • I''m going to pick Men as I think they are much more into hookups without connection.

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  • Women. Women control the dating world and always have. Women initiate and control Hookup Culture. And maybe 10% at best of men, can benefit from it, while 90% or more, cannot. Women do not get to hold all the cards, call all the shots, and then blame men when dating now sucks. They're mostly at fault here, although simps and loser men who suck-up to all women, are to blame, as well.

  • Women, due to the Feminist movement which produced it.

  • Probably men, since we've had that reputation for longer than women. No shit a lot of women start lowering their standards when a lot of men already had low standards. Now it's more even. I don't know maybe I'd say current "dating theme" isn't totally ruined. Just different. And people still learning how to navigate it to find those who want same as them.

  • It's pretty even but, I'd still say men are more to blame, unfortunately

    • Why?

    • The horror stories I've heard from all these women

    • Uh-huh. Due to their lack of standards & not vetting people properly.

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