If your 18 year old daughter came to you with being a Porn Star as a career choice, what would you say, why?

[Angelacandy1]

Please give reasons

[Reaperbot666]

tell her in this modern age with the internet. once the films or scenes she is in get uploaded online. they will be shared with most of the world. which can then be copied, saved and shared again countless time. so if she chooses to one day quit and try to have a normal life. her past is likely to haunt her everywhere she goes. because random people will know her face, body and name. plus after all the money is spend from her career in adult films. she'll need to think about finding a new source of income. unless she can get royalties which continue to pay her. so long as the companies that make the films earn money off them. but in the mean time also look up what happened to Mia Khalifa and how just doing adult films for a few years. now causes her much discomfort years later. just like main other former adult workers. or look into what happened to Olivia Lua, Olivia Nova, August Ames, Turi Luv, and Shyla Stylez. all of which died in 2017 due to hate crimes and online bullying. https://www. foxnews. com/entertainment/5-young-female-porn-stars-dead-in-3-months-what-is-behind-recent-spate-of-deaths https://www. naukrinama. com/stressbuster/10-famous-porn-stars-who-suffered-depression-and-committed-suicide/

[Reaperbot666]

links failed in my post i guess. you'll have to copy and paste them to read if you want.

[normalice]

I'd tell her that "star" is far from a guarantee. Most girls in porn are used, paid poorly, and disregarded. I'd point out that whatever she thinks will be easy or fun about the job is what every girl thinks, and it is enthusiasm for the tedious or irritating parts of the job that are precisely what makes a star. It is, above all, an acting job and as such not one you can expect a career from past the age of 25 or so. As such if she wanted my "blessing" she would have to show me her financial plan that accounts for that. If she doesn't have one we would come up with one. And if she's squeamish about bluntly discussing the sexual acts required to meet financial plans with me then I would suggest that she might not be cut out for the work- because it is, indeed, work.

[DianaWest]

i would be repulsed, shit would hit the fan, but in the end, she is still my baby. I could never disown her. i would still have a lot of bitter resentment towards her though, and humiliation for not being capable to use her brain instead of her _____. i don't really care what other women do with their life. i know some women were abused when they were younger, and some have suffered other horrible experiences, so I cannot judge. But a lot of women in this industry are also just very lethargic and just want an easy buck, which i find repulsive. clean toilets if you are not able or willing to do anything else. one thing that bothers me though is that some people assume that if a woman is young, beautiful, and has a nice figure, that she automatically must do porn or some other thing on the side.

[laurieluvsit]

I would just want her to talk to several of the girls who do it and find out all the pro's and con's of doing it so that she knew she was making an informed decision.

Also, talk to ex-Porn Stars as well, then after that if she still wanted to do it, I would support her 100%. I know the industry where we are in California is well regulated and much safer than in the past.

I would also encourage her to do some amateur ones first to learn more about the business that way first as well.

[Angelacandy1]

That is remarkably forthright and sensible. I am sure you would be an exception though as almost everyone has a very "clear" understanding of what can be done. And what can't be.

[laurieluvsit]

Well, I know I do since I have actually made amateur porn and I have met and been trained by professional female porn stars, but anyone thinking of entering the industry I think would be best served with my advice since what someone "thinks they know" is not always the whole story :)

[wolfcat87]

I would point out the high level of STDs in the industry and ask her how this might have an effect on any future career choices when she may be fired or harassed for these videos online. Where does she plan to be in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years? How would this help her or hurt her with that? How will she feel when her friends, neighbors, co-workers, spouse, in-laws, children, and grandchildren see this for the rest of her life and judge her for it? Then, I would ask her why she is interested and what she hopes to gain or accomplish from this choice of career. If she has a really stellar game plan, then I might be supportive. If not, then it is her life and she is an adult. I can only offer wise advice and hope that it turns out for the best for her.

[meetkitty123]

No I raised you better than that.

[Bananna]

Sex is for adults. It has so many consequences so I would treat my daughter as an adult. I would maturely & calmly discuss what came about this decision. & at the same time figure out her sex health practices if I dont know already. I would discuss other options & explore other forms of happiness &excitement and show her possibilities. Since I am religious I would mention my religion perspective if she had similar religious beliefs. Pretty much I would dig deeper & see also give her a chance to explain her thought process. But what I would really wanna do is SLAP THE SHIT OUT OF HER but we all know that wouldn't solve anything but my anger lol

[OlderAndWiser]

I would faint, because I am 65 years old and, at age 46 was married and faithful to a woman who could not have children.

[MrHopper]

Support her, see if i can help her in any way to ensure its a safer environment for her (i rather she trusted me 100%) ... and see if she can get me a job ;)

[MotherEarth2020]

Well your 18 and it's your life. I don't like it, but if you must. Be the best you can be and make the most of it

[pajamasam]

Hard no. I can think of tons of reasons yet I watch porn myself so I know im a hypocrit. So I'm just gonna say its an instinct thing. I know im probably wrong but my answer is still no.

[ohshee]

Your grounded. Get ur ass in your room lol

[ThiccBoai]

It might take a little while before I would be totally fine with it, but I don't think I would tell her not to do it. We will have a conversation about it, but if she really wants it, who am I to tell her not to do it. As long as she is save and happy

[Apple1996]

I'd tell her to do whatever makes her happy. I'll always support my kids in any choices they want to make

[ImSparkly]

I'd hope she was respecting herself, and not doing it for external validation. She was being tested and working with responsible people. Would it be my first choice, not even close. But its the choice she made, and acknowledging it is the price I have to pay to still be part of her life.

[Natashakir72]

I would probably ask my boyfriend to go get his belt...

[Tiffanyrosebarbie]

Follow your heart, be extremely careful and above all don't be fooled into anything you don't feel comfortable with.

[jenna92]

As long as she did her research and was shooting for reputable companies, I wouldn't have a problem with it. The actors today are tested regularly so the risk of disease, while not non-existent is very minimal.

[ecfresh]

I would say let’s have a conversation because I’d want to know why she is not thinking clearly.

[wankiam]

i woulds sit down with her to see if it was something she really wanted to do rather than something she felt she needed to do just to get paper or make some pimp happy. if she understands all the pitfalls then at 18 i would have to say its up to her... even if im not happy about it im still going to love her

[wankiam]

its a great question but can i ask if its a dilema you are facing yourself or was it just totally hypothetical

[Kaneki05]

Good on her. If she wants to do it that's her choice not my life. Millions of people's daughters are porn stars why would i care. Only gross if i watch it. Also if she makes bank off it then she has just women the free pass to life.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I wouldn't try to talk her out of it, but I would warn her of all of the pitfalls that she can run into, and hopefully she's resourceful and intelligent enough to lead the life she wants and find her own happiness. I wouldn't love that she's doing it, but at the same time, I'm no saint and have no right to judge her choices.

[dandiecandie]

I would ask her why do you want to be a porn star? What is attracting you to porn? What do you like about it?

[Walt832]

I would tell her did you lost it yet or no. Cuz I swear porn is the most stupidest thing to do to lose your virginity unless this people willing to pay you a FAT amount to break that 🦀. Otherwise keep your legs closed.

I can't stop you but at least be aware you are just one more female to be used as an object just to make the producers more richer and helping the rest of the humanity to treat females like some piece meat. If you are horny as hell how about I buy you some dildos from small to big and some dildo machine I don't know. I watch porn with your mom and I swear if we come across, you become some super porn star. Family reputation will be in the line. Make a choice and I am done talking.

I swear I WANT TO SLAP THE SHIT OUT OF HER. Bring that porn demon out of her. She can keep the horniess but porn hell no.

[Agape93]

I wouldn’t care. It’s her choice and life.

[LiyaArgent]

I applied my thoughts to myself as I was planning to do it.
It is a short career for girls
The ones who make a long term living from it are very rare and they do have other skills. These same skills can open many different career.
So for me now, It is best to focus on studying.
I do only private amateur porn for the fun not as a job.

[Benjamin_HM]

Yea. Don't ever choose it as a job. Limit it to private amateur porn. Study and find a respectable job rather than playing porn movies.

[LiyaArgent]

@Benjamin_HM this is not what I said...

[Benjamin_HM]

Okay.

[dantheman1118]

If I had a daughter I probably would have had the angels take me long before 18 years of it. I think I would be way to stressed about everything and probably die while driving to therapy one day thinking about what would I do if she came home right after she turns 18 to tell me she is doing porn? BAM!!! My heart attacks me while I'm driving and I die. If I somehow lived to see her on her 18th birthday, I would look at her in the face and whisper while not breaking contact "porn kills. Don't do porn." BAM!!! I shoot myself right in the face all while not breaking eye contact. I'll try the creepy "dad shoots himself in the face to stop her porn career" technique. You know what they say "70% of the time, it works Everytime."

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would warn her, what she gets herself in, she can get herself out of it too what people don't know anything dealing with porn, can lead one to get into a life of human trafficking, prostitution, exploitation, etc... Yes got watch what choices you make in life

[JosyJosy]

I'd support it. BUT we'd go through every little detail there is to know about it, not just the pros that she sees but also every... single con.

[Ripper_E]

Her life. I won't like it, but it's her life.

[Nik1hil]

I would say, go for it, you will suffer the consequences later of the choice you are making..

[elizamichale1]

I would be happy for her n will provide her the best guidance i can

[FakeName123]

Time to commit seppuku

[RobieMon]

Lol I told my mom that I may become a stripper and she was so supportive.

[chriscdi]

id whoop her until i get arrested

[Massageman]

No. Why? Because we know you better than that!

[_SOARER]

I would, prevent her from doing so. It would be a terrible decision. Most pornstars have tremendous regret afterwards and its a terrible way to live. There is an insanely high suicide rate for pornstars and most amatuer porn actresses also suffer from depression and mental illness.
I wouldn't allow it.

[Oeuvre]

good job girlie

[wondering_guy]

No parent would like that for their daughter but even if i said no she'd prob still do it so I'd ask the reason why first because if she became famous guys would only visualise her that way. If she's doing it because she loves sex and empowerment then fine, if she's doing this because of any negative experiences in the past then she shouldn't.

She should do it for the right reasons and might not just be passionate or kinky. Some might be degrading too

[Ilittles]

Heavily discourage her from that. Explain to her she will ruin her life and it will be hard to find quality people to be with.
No one seriously thinks being a pornstar is cool or fun. It's lazy, you are an expensive prostiute

[nousername44]

Inform her of the health risks and that some ex-porn stars regret in their 30s or 40s having to live with the after-effects. But if she's a legal adult, it's her life then isn't it and one would be powerless to stop her from being an adult porn star if she's a legal adult.

[coolaboola]

Not sure tbh... but im a free spirit so i think id tell her go be careful vut follow her heart.

[AmeerX]

I would feel a bit upset. I mean I would tell her to reconsider it with all the dilemma associated with it for life.
Money is not everything you know. So why do it?

[skittles2017]

I'd tell her to watch documentary the dark side of porn and i would show her that porn is not as easy as she thinks
I'd show her all the downsides of it and let her choose

[apollo3000]

Well, that she will miss out on having a child/children and a loving family because of her obsession with pointless sex.

[dudeinohio]

I'd oppose it... but she'd be an adult, so I really cannot stop her.

[Gedaria]

Why, try and find out what she thinks it involves. It might look great in reality it can be something completely different. Also what money are they offering...

[Juxtapose]

I'd just tell her to go for it.

[AlwaysBelieving]

What @laurieluvsit said. In addition, I'd want to ask why she wants to become a porn star.

[Meatunnel69]

Just make sure his dick is smaller than mine sweetie

[coffeewithcream]

Disowned. Out of the family will. Out of the house. On your own. Call us in 20 or 30 years or so to let us know you're okay. If we still live in the same house.

[The_Sal]

Would you say that before or after you watched porn?

[coffeewithcream]

@The_Sal People watch porn?

[DianaWest]

i was gonna write that, but then i really thought about it, and changed my mind. can you really disown your baby? what if something were to happen to her? i. e. she gets killed, abused, stalked, etc? i would want to make sure she is safe (or as safe as she can be in such an industry).

[coffeewithcream]

@DianaWest You'd give her a second's thought after she was out of the house? You kind hearted thing.

[DianaWest]

yes, i mean, it is only instinctual and human. they are your baby after all. maybe once you have kids you'll change your mind as you see them grow. or do you already have kids?

[coffeewithcream]

@DianaWest I won't change my mind. They tow the line or they're out. Never mind all that emotional love-at-all-costs love-unconditional shit. My love is conditional. My house, my rules. if you don't like it, there's the door. Have a good life.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Tell her I raised her better than that. My kid will know better than to subject themselves to being degraded especially for me.

Porn stars are hookers on camera.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

*especially for money .

[COMMODOREII]

Id sit her down and have you do research as to why she wants to and the truth about it.

[jasco]

Welp thats what u want to be thats on u u 18 i wish you the best of luck now if she were younger i tell her you a idiot but she 18 so yea

[Kelly6]

I would sit and talk to her
if she’s 100% sure that what she wants then I can stop her.
And instead of doing this career secretly from I’m it’s better if she tells you and keep you in loop

[bamesjond0069]

Force her not to do it.

[TienShenhan]

Nothing, because that would mean I had already failed as a parent

[Sofie_8_6]

I’d help her to get her an agent to help her.

[mrkdvsn]

I would very strongly attempt to talk her OUT of it. And of course I'd be very disappointed in her

[asshole_]

I would say, no

And she'd do it anyway, because well, she's a girl, right?

[mfate76]

It's really shit money 500 dollars average a movie

[mfate76]

Also there is current news of a famous pornstar Mia Kaleeyfa who is in a battle with search engines to have all of her content removed from the WEB. She felt it was a bad decision to act in porno and only recieved 15,000 dollars to do numerous films.

[Guardian45]

If that is your pic, I would say you could be. But I would want to know, why would she WANT to be pornstar?
ANY profession one chooses you must be prepared to make sacrifices and endure failures and porn Industry is NO DIFFERENT than any other, except is some places its illegal, carries a stigma to it, and potentially a fatal disease. Is that worth it?

[Omar5881]

I wouldn’t want anything to do with her

[emperor90]

No way