If your father was a horrible person, can you possibly inherit some of those bad genes?

I've been raised by my mom and stepfather (but he's my dad to me) all my life. My bio ''father'' was my mom's rapist who took her virginity long ago. She was barely 18 at the time. I hate that fact that I don't even look like my mother nor anyone in my mom's side of the family. Physically (his color, green eyes, facial features, even tall height, etc) I'm a carbon copy of that sick bastard.

I've learnt the horrible truth years ago during my 1st year of college. I felt so enraged and at the same time depressed what my mom went through. She found trust again within my stepfather and they ended up getting married and having 3 more kids (my half siblings; 2 women and 1 man).

I just had an awful dream a couple days ago. In the dream, the bastard was much older, raping another girl and then his expression changed into a younger man, into me. But I would never do such a horrible thing. No one ever deserves getting raped. Can you still inherit some of those bad genes if your father was a horrible person?

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I don't consider that scumbag my father. He isn't my father to me. I hate him. I hate looking like him.
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  • Been there. My dad was a child molester. Molested my sis. Worked for Child Protective Services n God knows how many victims. I went into profession working with children and was always concerned might get his genes and sickness. I feel contaminated and worry if I did pass it on to my kids. Several mental breakdowns, Rx's, therapy I've done it all. I hate him and am glad he's dead. He should have been left in a room with all of his victims and every conceivable means of torture humans have dreamt up. No you can't inherit that sickness but you can inherit but various types of mental illness do have some genetic linkage. I would recommend counseling or therapy but I would do that for anyone because I think everyone should have a therapist that they can talk to.

    • OMG what a detestable and horrible person he was. I hope he's rotting in prison for a long time. The inmates hate child molesters so much. Going to therapy might be a good idea. Just like you, I've felt so dirty upon finding out the truth about my birth. What added more salt towards the injury is my physical resemblance towards him. I wish I didn't look like him but can't do nothing about that. Sadly.

    • Same here. It sux but if there is a hell I hope he is in prison down there with a bunch of the most hardened, soulless, vengeful, immortal rapists with access to every torture instrument ever devised to put him on excruciating everlasting pain. In a just world anyway...

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  • I might've gotten some of his genes of that sort but, I don't suppose I'll never know. He was kind of a tyrant to me, growing up but, it looks like I'll never have kids of my own to find out if I DID get those genes, too! Although, knowing the way I am, I seriously doubt I would've.

    • I was close to getting married but my now ex fiance ended up cheating with her manager. I've dodged a bullet right there but yeah I don't know if part of his bad genes would've shown up if I had gotten married. I'll never know and I'm going single for a while now.

    • Geez!! I thought I wrote that!! I dodged a bullet, too! I was gonna get married `til the little mini-bitch started cheating on ME with her FRIEND, David!

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  • Virtually every trait is heritable. THAT SAID, every action is ultimately a choice. So there's a POSSIBILITY that you may inherit the impulse to rape. But impulses can be controlled and even eliminated. And you very likely won't get them at all.

    in my opinion, don't worry about it unless something comes up. That guy made his choice, and it has nothing to do with you.

    • I hate him and hope he rots forever. It's a miracle my mom still kept me. She could've easily aborted me or turned abusive for looking like him. That tend to happens in some rape cases.

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  • Nobody is born a rapist. People are shaped by the environment and life circumstances.

    • Yet not every child that gets abused or raised in a terrible household turns into a rapist. There must be someone seriously wrong (bad wiring in the brain) with the person too.

  • Nobody is born as a rapist

    • The dream scared the hell out of me though. I guess I've been stressing over this too much and it even showed up in my dream.

    • I doubt men who give/would give themselves permission to rape would stress to the point of having nightmares.