No… I do not understand this at all. Physical harm to one’s self or others to the point of bruising or drawing blood should not be seen as pleasure. How is this not self harm with help? I feel like I would ask them to see someone. I’m not trying to be funny. I would genuinely be concerned.
It falls under masochism. This is not an awful read.
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Some people also answered this on quora.
www.quora.com/BDSM-How-can-I-differentiate-between-possibly-being-a-masochist-with-a-history-of-self-harm-for-pleasure-stress-release
There is a difference. But it *is* dangerous and it must be practised safely. But it can be practised safely and the intentions can be pleasure or closure in a D/s dynamic. You can read about D/s if you want to understand it. It's a bit too long to describe and explain here.
I'd rather not with how women are today and the world in general I'd rather not because it could easily get me mistaken as an abuser or worse and thrown in prison or jail.
Either by her if I pissed her off or she got mad or having the cops called on me because some random woman or guy saw her legs and thought I was beating her or something. I mean how is she supposed to explain her bruises and scars to people?
To many risks especially here in the US.
Completely understandable.
My ex once asked me to choke her, I kinda did it and she wanted more and at some point she blacked out for like 5-10 seconds but felt like the longest 5-10 secs of my life. So I'd rather do that, at least she cannot black out. Don't ask why not doing anything at all is not even an option
I've fainted before during chocking. Short time, like you described. You have to be careful when pushing her limits but sometimes these things happen. Overall, these *are* dangerous games. It's essential to stay vigilant as a dom.
My first reaction was JESUS CHRIST but I scratched my partner before so, what's the difference, sure if he wants me to actually bite sure
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I got a pet rattlesnake that will do that for free. The venom will give it a nice bruise type shading too.
No pain, no humiliation, and no men... ever. Those three rules have served me well.
Can you briefly explain me why its turn on for you? Is it the pain itself, is it feeling of primal animalistic feel to it or maybe just helps break out of social norm and thats what gets it?
It's partly a psychological need as a sub and I am also kind of masochistic. But it can give very intense sexual pleasure from pain. Of course, it's not your ususal, 3-minute-long pleasure. It usually involves the whole of your body and mind. Gratification is usually not too fast in BDSM either. There is a need for an altered state of consciousness. Etc.
The primal animalistic feel you mentioned can be a part of Dominance. The need for being completely dominated. It does exist, yes. It is a psychological need. In instills fear, which is one path to pleasure for a submissive.
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Does receiving pain give you pleasure? ↗
This article
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Authority, order, and punishment are quite present in BDSM. Also "bratty" behaviour, or rebellion against authority, which leads to punishment and pleasure (fun-ishment). But authority is a source of (prolonged) pleasure, not exactly something to break free of. I think kinks (at least some of them, as in D/s) go deeper than simply breaking free from sexual norms and status quo. It's about authority and power itself, the force behind all kinds and types of informal and formal control of behaviours, and creating a (functional) dynamic in which you feel happy with yourself and the authority itself, based on your needs and desires. We often think we dislike norms, but we usually dislike "someone else's norms", because they prevent us from establishing our own; to create the environment in which we feel at home. Rebellion is another thing. It's our never ending struggle with order and stagnation. It's about our need for change. In short, I don't think norms cause the pleasure one gets from kinks. In our languages, a "kink" is any act outside of the sexual norms of a society. In one society, even fellatio could be kinky. But breaking that rule wouldn't necessarily be the cause of pleasure, but it could make it a little psychologically intense for the first few times until it becomes your new normal. The same way, pleasure from pain could be a need. The taboo aspect can increase stress related to it, and maybe make a situation where you and your teenage boyfriend are playing games, more intense, as you fear your parents catch you tied up. But it doesn't cause the pleasure itself.
Thanks for detailed reply I appreciate it. I like domination/submission stuff, I have developed my own understanding about this topic. Basic principle I look at is sexual tension and orgasm as sexual tension release. So from there i can make my own moves to make it work because to be dominant is to lead and not follow. Often mistake if sub says to for example to hit me harder or do whatever harder, If i do then im following and not leading thus sub actually becomes dominant as she's telling me what to do next and loses that sexual tension, then often she might think that harder or more roughness is the answer but i question it. And thats where when pain thing comes up it makes me wonder hmm is there connection. Obviously this is room for exploration to understand it in better detail and im open minded enough to give it a try with the right person.
No, I wouldn't. That's creepy to me.
That's a hard pass from me. I'm not into that kind of stuff.
Yes I’ve done it a number of times, bruising mainly, but also bit more…
She looked fairly much like that.
over body not just legs.
Heil Chris. 🙋♀️😃
@mia-wallace lol thank you. I am not sure many will do this. It’s fairly mild unless most of body is bruised…
Yeah, I understand. I mean, I know. 😄 And you're welcome.
No. Not into vampire crap.
But this is still a better love story than Twilight.
Sure! Biting is fun!
I don't need the paperwork... absolute trust... I prefer
What if she got rabies and turned mad? 😂 I mean... you never know.
the rabies would have caught madness from me... lol
I wouldn't want to do this no.
I bite all the time during primal play, never once drawn blood through biting, a few times from scratching.
I could do that. It's easy enough to leave a lasting mark from suction. I would be pretty of biting through the skin for great of causing an infection.
I have no opposition to it. Although i am the one who likes to be a masochist myself.
Biting neck is fun tho, so i can imagine it be the same. One time i had a massive bruise all down my neck, ah such a lovely time that was.
Yeap
But... she would scweeeaaam.
Thats fine by me. She asked and will receive. As sketch as it sounds, screams and blood don't inherently bother me lol
Very nice. 😊
Yes, but not every time we bang.
NO because if she got pissed at you.
I’m sure you know what could happen
I sure would. Also have done it.
Nice. 👌
Umm... no.
Understandable.
Her orgasms are so intense with me... she bites and squeezes and scratches and leaves me bruised and bloody... and has no memory of it.
Of course. I have a favorite picture of mine with a girl's legs COVERED in bite mark bruises.
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