Im a virgin how can I make the first time not BAD for my partner?

Whats bad sex even? I know i should be worried about myself but im a people pleaser. I won't have fun at all if he doesn't. He has had a lot of experience.

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  • Okay time out wait a minute just because he's experienced doesn't mean anything there's lots of guys out there that are are experienced

    There's experience and there's a qualifications now if they only think about themselves they're going to last 2 minutes and be done roll over and smoke that cigarette call their friend and say yeah I just got done f****** so and so no she didn't know what she was doing I had to do everything blah blah blah blah blah

    Now I know in your case the last part's not there but the first part the two minute guy he can be there you never know his experience should be he needs to make it all about you he needs to take you to a world that you never ever been to before and then back again

    If he can do that you don't have to worry about anything just go along with the ride push and pull as you feel slow him down and slow motion I mean in slow slow motion or speed him up for a good pounding but it's all in his touch it's all in the way that he is going to know you if he can melt you you don't have one thing to worry about if he cannot melt you well send me a message and I'll tell you how to make him so he does melt you

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  • Oh wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong!

    So much had been spoken by others. And I'll join the chorus.

    1) he being experienced doesn't mean he knows how to please his girl.

    In fact, it's so difficult to get a girl to cum that "Foreplay 101" is a 6 month course, with daily lab hands on.

    2) sex is almost never bad for a guy because we're so simple: poke into a vagina, thrust and get the orgasm.

    Yes, we can cum in under a minute, especially if the girl is hot.

    Hence don't worry about BAD SEX. That's his duty, not yours.

    3) don't call yourself a people pleaser. In the bedroom, call yourself a great lover.

    Great sex is about seeking each others pleasures, bringing each other to orgasm (or multiple orgasm for you, his duty)

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    Now the basics.

    A) he's a guy. And us guys are carnal animals. We like to see naked girls. Especially the nakedness of the girl we love.

    So lights on and clothes off.

    Then be natural. Smile sweetly, flirt, tease just like when you're fully clothed.

    This is Seduction 101. All you need to pass is to put aside shyness, embarrassment and awkwardness. Then show him everything.

    Yes everything.

    Bend over, spread your legs. Let him see your butt hole. Turn your head and establish eye contact when he's drooling.

    You've got him.

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    I write too much already. Follow it and the rest will be him. He'll sure enjoy the sex. But you may likely not.

    Be prepared for sharp pain like the cut of a knife. And blood. And then regrets. And (sorry but possible) he left after taking your virginity.

    But hey, it's sex. And you become a woman. After recovery, sex will just get better. Much better.

Most Helpful Girl

  • First time is not always enjoyable, also this is not the time to be a people pleaser. This is your first time. He needs to be the one to make the effort as you are giving him your virginity.

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  • Buy a dildo, pop that hymen yourself. With all the damn gender-bender stuff being pushed on kids like chopping their junk off or their tits, you'd figure they'd have a simple procedure to remove the hymen. without all the pain and blood.

    But I'm a dude, so I don't really know what it's like for a woman. I have taken virginity before and all the drama around it (pain & blood) really sucks the fun out of the sex... and again that's from my male perspective.

    When I'm going for sex my goal (obviously) is to get off, but at the same time my outside-of-me goals are to really make her feel good, and her enjoying herself is really important because that's a return customer. Again the pain and blood, the drama around it... it really puts a damper on that objective.

    Im a virgin how can I make the first time not BAD for my partner?
  • Your first time should be all about you not him. There is plenty of time to please him. He will still get a good orgasm or two from it. Maybe give him a good handjob before sex... he will love it. Have him go real slow, use a lot of foreplay, lube also helps and do not forget to use condoms or some birth control so it is one less thing to worry about. What are your thoughts?

  • Have enthusiasm, communicate your needs, and do your best to just relax and enjoy the experience.

  • He should be making it “not bad” for you.

    • He can only cum once or twice. You can cum 20 times in an hour. He needs to earn you

  • The first time with anyone isn't necessarily great no matter how many times you've had it in the past. It gets better over time as you learn from each other what they like. You'll be fine

  • First times are always kinda bad and usually pretty awkward and uncoordinated. There's not a lot you can do about it. Other than practice of course.

  • The more special the better. However you feel it would make it special for you. Think about it, and vocalize it to him

  • There's no way to make it bad unless you aren't enjoying it.

  • be open minded, enthusiastic and relax

  • he will enjoy it definitely ur giving him ur virginity ✌️

  • Tell him it's your first time, if he's married enough, he'll go slow

    If you ain't comfortable at any point, just voice out

    If you guys couldn't reach the end, just make sure you do good foreplay, cuddling and more stuff

  • Then it's up to him to lead and for you to follow his guidance. Stop worrying, that's what ruins sex.

  • Finish with a blowjob and swallow his cum