Imagine you are dating someone new and these are their safe sex “demands”. Would you agree or not?

[Anonymous]

- using condoms if the partners have not been tested yet (this includes using flavored condoms during oral sex).

- only ditching condoms after both partners have been tested, you are in a committed relationship and -if it is a heterosexual relationship- the girl is on birth control.

- communication about safe sex and getting tested yearly is important.

- if one of the partners does not agree, the couple does not have sex and try to find a solution or break up.

[Lliam]

I would more that willing to go down together and get tested before having sex. I've done it before with girlfriends. It's easy, and I respect a woman to values her health.

As a guy, I would add one more thing. She needs to be on some form of birth control

I will say that I don't like using condoms. I want to feel her juice and bare skin sliding on skin. With a condom, all you can feel is snugness and warmth. You miss half of the experience. I honesty wouldn't put up with wearing a condom for long.

[HugoThe2nd]

I wouldn't agree with those requirements.
I would rather date someone whose lack of trust doesn't cost me $400 a year.

If they are ok with no sex until they are ready to have sex without condoms, and only one STI test initially, once things are serious, I would agree to that.

[Asker]

Oh you are probably American? Testing is obviously not free or inexpensive for you. That must suck.

[Asker]

But wait you can still use condoms until you have both been tested🤔 Condoms are really inexpensive even in America.

[HugoThe2nd]

Herpes, syphilis and HPV all transmit via cell shedding, meaning condoms do little in preventing those. I have contracted herpes before I had any sex. The only way to be safe from STIs is to not touch other people. So unless they are not tested, better not touch them, right?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Condoms for blowjobs are a bit much.. But the rest sounds reasonable. I would agree to it.

[Asker]

Only before getting tested. You can still get infected through oral sex, so that is the reasoning behind it.

[summiter]

They all ar every reasonable to me! Before I got married I slept around a lot but I always used a condom every time unless we had been tested and she was on birth control.

[Sweepthelegjonny]

I wouldn't agree to it. I wouldn't be able to date a woman THAT high strung. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and relaxing. I dont think that woman knows how to relax.

[Asker]

So what would you do? Not use condoms? Not get tested?

[slatyb]

That seems pretty basic to safe sex.

[ronw235]

The best option is yo do the safe thing unil everyone involved is completely comfortable.

[Nik1hil]

- communication about safe sex and getting tested quarterly is important...

I would prefer if we got tested quarterly or if one of us get physical with someone else.. Except each other..

I would be angry a little if she got physical with someone else...
But if she hid it and gave me the STD from her random hook up..
I would be Insanely mad.

[Asker]

I personally think getting tested quarterly when you are in a committed relationship is a bit much. It shows that you don’t trust your partner. I think yearly or maybe every six months is enough. If you have multiple partners maybe every three months.

[Nik1hil]

I have no issue with multiple partners... As long as it's a closed circle of clean people without STD.. Quarterly means once every 90 days.. That's enough time to have sex 100 times..

[Likes2drive]

I would agree until then

[Twalli]

I disagree with regular testing. Everything else is acceptable

[Asker]

The reason behind regular testing is because sometimes it can take up to two years or more for a STD to show up during testing. So you could have gotten an STD from a previous partner, gotten tested with your current partner and receive a negative result even though you were already infected. Do you understand what I mean?

[Twalli]

Regular testing implies to me that unfaithfulness is expected.

[SHREYASH007]

Everyone should follow this, safe sex should be preferred always.

[Hanrej]

I'd agree. Seems reasonable.

[anylolone]

Why ever ditch condoms?

[Asker]

Once you have entered a committed relationship and have both been tested a lot people like to have sex without condoms. It is better/more intimate

[anylolone]

How is it more intimate?

[Asker]

Skin to skin instead of skin to latex

[anylolone]

But how's that more intimate, as in mucose-to-mucose compared to mucose-to-latex-to-mucose? Pulling out one's dildo is also very intimate, per frequency I'd say more intimate.

[Asker]

I personally don’t think the feeling must be that different but the argument that you often hear is that it is more intimate

[anylolone]

Yes. I hear that a lot but I fail to understand why without just taking at face vlue. Like "what's intimacy?" I understand the "feels better argument" because honestly "feels good" is something one can't take any other way but at face value, lol! There's even "intimate secrets" and non-intimate secrets. It's weird and interesting.

[MasterKS]

I hate condoms!

[Asker]

I think almost everyone does, but I would rather have sex with condoms and be protected than end up having an STD.

[MasterKS]

i do test before but won't go for rubber. its big waste.

[Diya010]

I would agree

[Anonymous]

Strongly agree. I'm a fan of condoms.

[Asker]

Really? You don’t hear that often

[Opinion Owner]

Better birth control than the pill when used properly, std protection, no risk of unpleasant side effects for the woman, no discernible difference in sensation for the man (I reckon guys who say otherwise are macho parrots), gives men some say in paternity decisions. (Ever watch Coupling, the brit com? Her to her friend, I've stopped the pill, I should be pregnant soon. Later husband to wife, How are doing on birth control? Reply: under control). It's a no brainer.

[Anonymous]

Didn't you ask this yesterday?

[Asker]

Nope was not me. I haven’t been online in a week so I have probably missed the other question 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️