In a committed long term relationship , how many times a week is normal for sex?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been married for fourth seven years and I am as horny as I was as a teen.

[SueShe]

Sex is a triviality in a relation. Less than 1% single percent of an adult's life time is spent being sexual, yet it takes such an enormous importance in people's lives that it rules it.

People are total slaves of their sexuality and do murder, rape and steal for it.

Of course, there are a immense number of things that are way more important than sex in life.

You can live a totally happy life, filled with love without spending one second thinking and practicing sex. You are free of a number of issues that are associated with sex and that would be cheating and getting STD/STI from it.

Your mind is liberated from having to perform, to be always at disposition, to be demeaned and profaned, to have to deliver when the other wants it and to have to be subjected to a number of perversions and fantasies just for a few muscular contractions followed by body fluids messing you up.

No, sex is the least important of the bonds a couple can have but certainly the one causing the most problems in a relation.

But if you must have sex, then do it in full knowledge that it is probably not the one thing that keeps you together but only a very small part of the entire relation. Perhaps twice or 3 times a month would be more than adequate.

[PrettyPriya]

For myself and partner, it is a couple of times a week, if we are lucky. Without getting into too much detail about our intimate lives, it is relegated to the weekend. Weekends are pretty much the only time we have time to spare.

During the week, we are both busy, particularly my SO. He works all day and then finishes things up for work at home in the evenings more than not. I will be busy doing weekly chores.

By the time we are settled, we just want to relax. We often grab a glass of wine and cook together so we can chat about our day and stuff. Then, after dinner, it is just relaxing until bed.

So, doesn't leave a lot of room for intimacy during the week. Plus, we are both usually a bit tired. Weekends are different. Once we have run errands and got weekly chores done, we often do have time for that.

Basically, it is a part of our life but a small one. We don't let it dictate our schedule but do make time for it when the moods strikes.

[AviatorTom]

It changes over time. It starts out several times a week and slowly diminishes to a few times a month.

[Guy13]

At least 2 and sometimes 4

[dustybiker]

There is no normal. Everyone has a different level of drive. That often changes too. This is why waiting for marriage is a terrible idea.

[mandyfire98]

Depends on the sex drive of the people in the relationship.

[Avicenna]

Daily

[Msputiton]

There's no real answer.

Every couple has different sex drives and desires.

The biggest mistake that could ever be made is to compare what works for you to what works for others.

[EaterPeter]

As many times you want bruh.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have sex on average 2-4 times a week. However, there are occasionally weeks when we don't have sex (usually because of our schedules) and some weeks where we have A TON of sex (like when we went on a vacation for just the two of us a few months back. We were having sex over and over and over again that entire week. Haha)