In a long term relationship of 6 years at the ages 18-24 is it normal to not be turned on when your partner is naked/showering etc?

Is it common for a guy not to be hard when he’s watching his partner he lives with get changed or is naked?

Or should he always be hard (seen a video this guy and his girlfriend say he is every time she’s naked and changes and all the comments were girls saying oh girl me too)

But when it’s not a fresh new relationship that isn’t really true is it? Or am i in a bad one?

Like me and my partner hug and kiss and he won’t be hard. He won’t be hard when I’m changing. But at certain times he will be. If it’s been a few days - week of no sex he is hard when we just hug. But 90% of the time when were just hugging he won’t be.
Normal not to be hard every time you hug/change
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  • It's a frame of mind thing.

    I could look at photos or videos of naked women, I could see attractive women in revealing clothing in the real world, I could see a naked girl in the real world and I can see my partner naked often... And not once in any of these situations will I automatically have an erection. Emotional connections or not are irrelevant.

    If I'm in the mood for sex and if the situation is right, I could trigger an erection based on visual stimulation alone... And at the same time, I can also not have an erection if I don't want one.

    Despite what some might say, we do have some control over it. (though sometimes it's not easy to control and other times it just happens)

    Also despite what some might say, we're not automatons that can flick on a boner when certain parameters are met.

    Men are generally more visually stimulated than women, where women are generally stimulated through emotional connections... But both genders still need a little work to be ready for sex.

    Do you instantly get wet when you see your partner change or naked? Maybe sometimes you do, but I bet you a can of coke it isn't every time. And I bet you don't get turned on or wet down there by seeing any rando guy change or naked. You have a level of control over that, just as we do.

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  • It's normal. Familiarity doesn't actually breed contempt, but it DOES kill novelty. Remember, too, that (when it comes to erections, at least) mental arousal usually precedes physical arousal; just because he's not hard doesn't mean he's not turned on.

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  • I love my wife more than my own life, and am very attracted to her, but I'm not gonna be sporting a raging boner every time I see her get dressed.

  • very fucking normal.

  • Probably normal

  • Perfectly normal.

    • I’ve requested to follow can i message you about this?

  • Naked and showering intimately? I rise to the occasion. Changing is just business.

    • Can you message me about this? I’ve requested to follow

    • I did. Been a while.

  • It's fine

  • Really?

    You should honestly only be worried about him being hard when you guys fuck.

    Some guys are easier to turn on than others like some girls are easier to turn on than others. Overtime you get more desensitized as well.

  • You can't except his little fella to be upball the time when you are around him, I'm sure with little stimulation he would be hard, but bot every guy get hard just from seeing a nude body, no matter if it was for the person he loves.