In bed, is there something that you want from your partner but just can bring yourself to ask for it?

In bed, is there something that you want from your partner but just can bring yourself to ask for it?

I'm sure that many people will say that you "should" be able to ask your partner for whatever you want, communication is the key to a good relationship, etc. I don't disagree.

However, if you have had the experience of asking for something and getting a judgmental response, you may not be so eager to keep asking in the future. Once upon a time, I asked a girl if she would shave her pubic hair and she responded, "So you want me to look like a little girl?" Insinuating that I am a pedo is quite a bone killer. It made me more hesitant to ask for things in later relationships.

Is there something you would like to do with your partner but you are afraid that if the answer is "no," it won't be just "no" but something like "absolutely not! What a fucked up thing to want to do!" Maybe you want to receive oral sex from your partner, or you want to give them oral sex? Use a toy? Do 69? Anal sex? Threesome? Swap? Let someone else watch? What is the desire that makes you hesitate?

I want but haven't asked to give or receive oral sex
Vote A
I want to use a toy in foreplay
Vote B
I want to do 69
Vote C
I want to try anal sex
Vote D
I want to try a threesome, or swapping
Vote E
I want to have sex while someone else watches us
Vote F
Something else that I'll explain in a comment
Vote G
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  • I wasn't very open about what I wanted... I just did what he wanted to do...

  • I thought all guys wanted anal sex but my guy won't do it. :(

    • Has he ever tried it?

    • No, he thinks it's disgusting.

    • It's difficult to get people with that mind set to become an explorer!

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  • Nope. She's large personality in the cutest way but very submissive in bed. Highly active but "be the man" type.

  • I would like her to get me a snack.

  • in the past, for an actual partner to exist. saddly only ever found users instead of any willing to actually be a partner.

  • So come on here to tell everyone what you want really lol….
    Glad I’m single ….

    • It is a postive experience for many people on this site to use the cloak of anonymity and safely discuss heir feelns, desires, and fantasies. if you don't understand that, then you just don't get it.

    • It’s up to you really … And yea he should try it… It’s only tighter lol… 😂

  • I've pretty much done everything I wanted. I do have a threesome fantasy, but I don't really care if it never happens. If my girlfriend wants it with another girl, then I'd consider it seriously. I don't think I'd ever be okay if it was with another guy.

  • Nope, we are open to most things

  • Swapping.

    • Have you done that with another partner?

    • I've done threesomes with another partner and a few couples, but no swap. That's what I really want to try.

    • I am curious if your current desire is to find a permanent relationship. If so, does a LTR involve monogamy? I don't understand how people make this work.

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  • My ex was very adventurous, and I miss that. That's why dominant guys are in demand. They call the shots, so you don't have to.