In love with best friend's boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My best friend has been dating this guy for about two years. They started dating a little before ourJunior year. Well they had a great relationship in the beginning. But eventually my friend did wjat she always tends to do in a relationship, she cheats. He's never actually found out she does that, and even though I wanna tell him I haven't.
But to get to my feelings. We became good friends last year. And we talk a lot, which has increased to calling or face timing every night, sometimes all night. Well at some point I ended up falling for him, and he did me as well. A month ago she threw a party at her house. Well me and him ended up kissing and almost having sex during this party. We only didn't because I didn't want him to cheat on her with me. Well the next day he broke up with her, and wants to be with me. Which I definitely want... but am worried she'll be pissed

[Kenneth14621]

Who gives a fuck. She blew it. Harder said than done I know. But you only find a one that likes you a few times in your life. So if you find one you'd better hold on to them with all you got. So. Start staying in contact with him and tell him we can't tell her. And then you can have this whole secret relationship with him and she will never know. Got to try hard to hide it though. But that will be the fun part. Your friends will wonder why you have this love smile on your face. Be like "Why are you beaming so hard?". It will be great.

[Asker]

She already wonders why I've been smiling a lot on the phone or when someone text me. It's been hard not telling her I have feelings for him

[Kenneth14621]

GIRL. I am telling you. You do not find someone who you can go out with very often in this life. If you come accross someone you need to hold on to them with all you have. You don't realise this because you are young. But when you get past like 28. You will have a long dry spell in your life of about 10-15 years where you will not be able to find anyone. And you will have to settle for a person you really don't like. Because most people get married in their early 20's. at least anyone worth having. He is worth having. Don't wait till you get old and there is no one worth having anymore. I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 28. And I got lucky and found one. I had to get a young one. And tears streamed down my face I hadn't had a girlfriend in so long. And I am handsome. Think of the best things in the world you can tell him and tell him. Don't BS him. Be straight up. Try hard. Don't take him losely. Or you will regret it.

[Kenneth14621]

It had been over 10 years since I had one. But since I had one that makes me feel like the one I do now? It was way back when I was like 22. If you have one that makes you feel like that. Tell him the best stuff you can think of.

[Asker]

I don't plan to give him up

[NarutoUzumaki007]

you should tell him , not because you have a personal agenda , but because that's the right thing to do

even if it costs you your friendship with your friend.
you shouldn't be friends with a cheater anyway. They are morally bankrupt and good for nothing.

So tell him and save his time. Maybe he will like you or not that's upto him. Your job is to tell him since you know something like that. You said he is your friend too so it's what friends do

[NarutoUzumaki007]

he has broken up with her? good. you should say yes to him and break friendship with the cheater girl

[Asker]

He does like me a lot already

[AustinMan]

If she gets pissed, ask her what she expects when she cheats on every guy she dates. Give him a few weeks to get over her and then go for it.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Oh, she will be pissed

[casserolie]

don't ruin a friendship over a guy. just don't.

[Asker]

I've already decided to be with him, and to let her know about it tomorrow.

[casserolie]

he cheated on her with you, what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you? friends are their for life- i really hope you don't regret this in the future 💛

[Asker]

Because I know he won't. What happened that day wasn't meant to, It's why we stopped before anything further happened.

[casserolie]

cheating tends ti always be excused that way

[Asker]

I know what happened was bad, but I also know why it happened. That's not an excuse but I know he wouldn't do it to me.

[JPrez]

She will be pissed and maybe not talk to you for a while or ever but if you want him bad enough I’d say go for it and be with him since they broke up.

[Asker]

I really wanna b with him

[JPrez]

You only live once and maybe he’s “the one”. Trust your gut and go be with him and never look back.

[bowenw]

Your friend will likely be pissed, but you have to do what's best for you.

[Wise4myage]

If she wasn't your best friend, then Id say go for it. But is it risk losing a best friend over this? You always just ask her, but that might not be a good idea either.

[Wiredone]

I would not date him right away. Let some time elapse before you start dating him so it doesn't look like he dumped her to see you. I think she would be less upset then and it wouldn't ruin your friendship. After the time elapse, before you start seeing him you might want to give her a heads up that you were thinking about seeing him. see how she reacts.

[Wiredone]

Be sure to update us again after you talk to your friend

[Asker]

I'll try to... I'm worried she's going to be insanely pissed.

[Wiredone]

If you tell her everything, I'm pretty sure you will lose her as a friend. Where are you going to tell her, in public or private?

[Asker]

At school when I get to see her

[Wiredone]

Don't tell her in front of a crowd. Take her to the side. Are you prepared for the worse but hoping for the best?

[Asker]

Sorta yes

[Wiredone]

As long as you are prepared you should be ok. I wish you the best of luck.

[Asker]

Thank you... I'm honestly expecting to lose her as a friend... But I can't help how I feel. I know I should never have let myself fall in love with him... But I did

[Wiredone]

Can you message me.

[Asker]

I'm using my sister's account and shed get mad if I do that

[Wiredone]

Ok. I understand.

[Asker]

I'm sorry

[Wiredone]

Don't be sorry. I just wanted to try to advise you in private that's all. I was just trying to minimize all the comments from the peanut gallery. If you know what I mean

[Asker]

Yeah. Is it ok if we just talk here?

[Wiredone]

Do you have any idea what you are going to say to her? Is the guy going to be there too

[Asker]

No he won't be there, when I saw him earlier I told him to not show up. That way it won't get as bad hopefully. And I plan to tell her everything, how we ended up talking, And how it ended up becoming more and we started liking each other. And yes I plan to tell her what happened at the party, And everything that happened today

[Wiredone]

Did you actually have sex with him at the party or did you stop before it got that far

[Asker]

We stopped that day. But we did end up having sex today when I saw him.

[Wiredone]

But he already broke up with her before you had sex. I wouldn't mention what happened today. Keep that between the two of you. Just tell her that you never slept with him while they were going out. Didn't you say she cheated on him?

[Asker]

Yes she's cheated on him a lot

[Wiredone]

But he doesn't know about her cheating right?

[Asker]

Correct. I never told him

[Wiredone]

It sounds like you know what to say. I hope all goes well for you tomorrow. I wish you the best of luck. Just remember, prepare for the worse response, hope for the best

[Asker]

Thank you, and I will

[Wiredone]

You're welcome. I hope I helped you out with your dilemma.

[Asker]

You have a lot

[Wiredone]

I'm happy to see you say that. Do you have your own account on here?

[Asker]

No sir

[Wiredone]

You don't have to call me sir, I work for a living. Lol.

[Asker]

Lol I do it for everyone older then me

[Wiredone]

You're very respectful and I appreciate that. Thank you. Enjoy the rest of your night

[Asker]

Thank you, and you enjoy yours as well 😊

[Wiredone]

Thank you 😃

[Wiredone]

I hope you are doing ok. How did the talk with your friend go yesterday.

[Asker]

She was pissed, slapped me and hasn't spoken to me since

[Wiredone]

I'm sorry that she slapped you. You did know that she was going to be pissed though.

[Asker]

Yeah I did. And I understand why

[Wiredone]

Are you ok with the outcome, besides the fact that she slapped you.

[Wiredone]

I wish you had your own account. I'd like to follow you. You seem like a nice woman.

[Asker]

I'm okay. I'm upset that she's mad at me, but I'm happy I get to now be with him

[Wiredone]

Did she say she doesn't want to talk to you again? If not, give her a chance to calm down and let it soak in. Then maybe give her a call. I hope he treats you well and you're both happy.

[Asker]

Yeah she said she hates me and doesn't wanna ever speak 2 me again And we're very happy lol

[Wiredone]

Well I guess you know. Good luck to the two of you.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Wiredone]

You're welcome. If you ever get your own account, follow me

[Asker]

I'll see maybe about making one over the weekend

[Wiredone]

Don't worry I'm not a stalker or anything like that. I'll always be respectful to you.

[Asker]

I know. I'm just not sure if or when I'll make an account

[COMMODOREII]

She will be pissed either way

[Asker]

I know... that's why I'm scared to do anything.

[Twalli]

She will probably be pissed. I would wait a while before you date him, so it doesn't seem like he left her for you.

[Luckycharms12]

Of course she will be pissed

[Valnac]

Just be concerned about what you want and have. Stop worrying how she will feel.

[TruthHurtshaha]

Don't. Please don't.

[Asker]

Why not?