In sex, do guys prefer getting pleasured OR do they prefer pleasuring the girl more?

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thomual · Accepted Answer

It is difficult for guys because stamina is a very big challenge. Guys experience intense pleasure very quickly and constantly. While women have to engage mentally and surrender their hearts and minds to have full pleasure, guys have to actively disengage mentally and take breaks to last longer.

Most guys find it tedious, difficult, even painful to hold back their passion for the females benefit. It's not like they aren't interested, or that they dont want to pleasure her. Its just that doing so excites them even more, and drains their stamina 5x faster!

There are exceptions and tricks to work around this problem. But I've come to accept (after about 20 different partners) that pleasing a woman is 90% in her own mind, and unique to each individual and the relationship. Technique, desire, effort, attention, and even stamina have very little to do with her experience.

This is why to truly romance a woman, a guy has to engage her mentally both in and out of the bedroom, grooming her for the ideal intimate experience. But there are many obstacles preventing that from happening in many people. Most of which are false expectations of what is best for both men and women.

ThomasAndrews · Accepted Answer

Both them are. But there is a certain reality. Men get a psychological pleasure from the pleasure a woman gets as the penis penetrates the inside of the vagina. This is the joy of being a man. On top of that, if the penis is large, it doubles the psychological pleasure. There is an approach to power and power in the structure of men. This is true regardless of sexual orientation. Finally, men love the pleasures of themselves. As the penis pierces the inside of the vagina, the male sub-ego feels a freudian pleasure from the naturalism of manly performing his sexual duty. This is just a male pleasure.

SamtheDnDgirl · Accepted Answer

I've met both, the guys, and girls, who want to give and the guys, and girls, who only care about how they feel during sex and don't care how their partners feel. I prefer the former and I am someone who prefers to be giving.

MrOracle · Answer

Pleasuring the girl is pleasurable for me, and the process of pleasuring her is essentially going to ensure my own pleasure, so, it isn't either/or to me, it's both.

Hawner · Answer

I kinda like more pleasuring, although being pleasured is also very good.

ThomasTKay · Answer

I prefer pleasuring the girl. I love to see a woman so orgasmic and inside out. I love to see her body lose control and aroused. I love to see her eyes role into the back of her head.

Madhatter920 · Answer

Depends on the person. Some are givers, some are selfish, some balance out.

ThiccBoai · Answer

Since a man is easier to please I prefer to please the girl for a while first

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Usually they prefer both

normalice · Answer

Sex - mutual pleasure. Oral sex - getting pleasure. Anal sex - pleasuring her.

Glenn603 · Answer

I get more turned on when i`m pleasuring a girl than when they are doing it to me

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

I love giving, don't get me wrong getting isn't bad but knowing I'm causing someone to feel good, is a better thought.

Don-_-Don · Answer

I would think that most guys like both equally, I know that I do.

kemo56 · Answer

Both! Her first, most of the time... I know selfish, but can't help I like the results of starting with her!

Ripper_E · Answer

Depends on who the girl is

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I get pleasure from knowing she's getting pleasure

magiusX26 · Answer

i have a somewhat unique perspective on this. am empathic meaning i feel some of the emotions of most others. so because of that i get both from pleasuring her and getting pleasure.

es20490446e · Answer

I prefer pleasuring a girl slightly more, cause for me it's important that the girl perceives sex as a two ways road.

_SOARER · Answer

I like pleasuring the woman more. It feels good to see them enjoy themselves  If I can accomplish that it means I get to pleasure myself more with her! It's a big win-win

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Why not both? Primary focus is on her, then on me.

TonyT1986 · Answer

Both

dac91 · Answer

I feel like most prefer to recieve I like recieving but if In the right circumstance occurs i love to eat out

oncpl · Answer

I keep both in mind.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

Pleasureing girls is turns me on cause I like to give pleasure to girl and yeah boys also want some pleasure. I think giving pleasure to girl is good because girls has so many ways to get pleasured. So I like to give pleasure ❤

BloJo · Answer

Everyone likes to receive pleasure. Love is about doing what your partner wants. If both are trying to please the other, the experience is phenomenal.

skunkbeard68 · Answer

I get pleasure from pleasing my partner, otherwise why bother.

Dragan · Answer

Pleasured and pleasuring the girl. Both is important.

Pighttussy · Answer

I try to make us both cum at the same time

Reputon13 · Answer

I prefer receiving, but giving is also good.

X9MikeHoncho · Answer

When a guy is young and immature, its getting pleasured, when they mature its both.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I prefer a partnership for us both to get off and have fun.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

depends on the guy, he could prefer one or the other

Nigjt · Answer

Well for me I'm a Man an I found out that if I get the Women off a few times she is going to want to get me off a lot more then I did her so my thing is to get the Women off 4 or 5 times then let her go at me 😀
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Jerre · Answer

Pleasuring the girl turns me on, pleasure for me.

ND4SPD31 · Answer

If he’s a true gentleman, he’d please u (the girl) first and then worry about him.

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

I deprive pleasure from giving pleasure

abc--123 · Answer

Love both but definitely prefer to receive

SomeOther · Answer

Pleasuring the girl

B2281 · Answer

The more pleasure I give her the more I receive.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Women rather get the pleasure. Men rather give the pleasure.

Waz2020 · Answer

I prefer pleasuring

Yellovv · Answer

I want to make girls cum first, because I like when they shaking and orgasm front of me.

jon28805 · Answer

I prefer giving the pleasure.

flashgrandad · Answer

Pleasuring the girl more

luvgirlfarts6969 · Answer

I love eating out

SomeGuyOverThere · Answer

girl more

D3b1t0 · Answer

In the first case, pleasuring the girl.

jusukmeoff · Answer

I believe in mutual satisfaction

Ace200 · Answer

To me it wouldn't really matter.

Thespegg · Answer

I prefer pleasuring...

Anonymous · Answer

Like with women, it goes both ways. Depends on the person.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't speak for other guys and don't want to but for me it's pleasuring the girl rather than receiving

Anonymous · Answer

It’s probably selfish but I like getting pleasured , I always please them anyway but if I had the option I would like it more

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer giving, I’m normally a lady’s first kind of a guy this is the exception to the rule

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the type of guys you go for.

Anonymous · Answer

I personally prefer giving pleasure.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer going doing on a girl I love feeling her surge and moan

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