In the current climate is it weird for a white guy to put his black girlfriend in bondage?

Question

I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and one thing we have in common is that we both enjoy bondage and other related activities.

We are about to turn things up a bit and buy a proper spanking bench which is basically where the sub is restrained on all 4's with their ass in prime positionto be spanked, whipped etc.

On the weekend we found our way to a shop that sells such items and the girl there was super weird about it and made it super awkward.

She basically made lots of comments suggesting that because my girlfriend is black that i should not be whipping her butt.
To be honest i never really thought about it because she's my girlfriend and we are both really kinky.
Does anyone else think its a problem?
Surely its our business what we get up to?
What do you think?

wankiam · Accepted Answer

the only thing weird about this in 2020 is that you feel the need to ask... if she is black, white, or bright orange colour should have no bearing on what a couple get up to in the bedroom and the very suggestion that bdsm may carry racist overtones is ridiculous in itself.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Not a bit. I might suggest you let her put the word out that that's what she wants beforehand.

purplepoppy · Accepted Answer

If there was a problem your girlfriend would tell you.

NamerOfStars · Answer

If you're doing it in private, who else would even know? What the heck does your sex life have to do with other people? More to the point, why does someone  in restraint implements shop  act so judgy?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If such decisions are made based upon the color of her skin, then that person would be racist. I'm so tired of people who have made it their job to be offended on behalf of others!

Berethor · Answer

You a slave owner, just admit it, anyway BDSM is always weird, if she was not black it was also weird, also the girl at the shop could also said that you a misogynist, and that a guy whipping is a girl is patriarchy symbol. :)

slatyb · Answer

Only two people get a vote. Enjoy yourselves. I enjoy dominating my wife but I'm not a misogynist.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

That's between them, none of our business. For the record I have even seen that slave-porn actually exists.

Camperliving · Answer

You asked this same question last year

ryancg · Answer

I think it'd be fine, you're both consenting adults, race only matters when you make it matter.

CharlesMannerson · Answer

Having a black girlfriend is degenerate, bondage makes it more degenerate.

Twalli · Answer

It's more a situation where she's your girlfriend who is kinky like that first and foremost. She just happens to be black, but she could just as easily be white. Her skin color shouldn't even be an issue.

Guanfei · Answer

People should shut the fuck up and don't mind other people businesses. If your girlfriend and you like it, then do whatever you like.

wiredpantyboi · Answer

It is if you make it about race. Bondage is actually one of the more common kinksd.

CubaPirate · Answer

100% agree

rames54 · Answer

Its your bussiness

Anonymous · Answer

As long as you don't make her call you Master, it's all good.

Anonymous · Answer

in my opinion, the history of slavery just makes it even hotter

Anonymous · Answer

Stop being weird. People don't like racist white people. Nobody cares if you and girl are kinky. It's actually better if you have a black girlfriend you get a pass for the most part