In the relationship where you first started doing sexual stuff, how far into the relationship did the sexual stuff start and the first time of sex?

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bobair · Accepted Answer

This is a choice specific to each of us, there's no "normal" amount of time required.

Because sex is so dangerous, especially for anyone under 20, it needs to be taken seriously. And of course I don't mean all aspects of sex... because obviously just light making out and kissing isn't that dangerous.

But there are real dangers to consider...

Dangers like pregnancy, STD's and of course sexual violence.

Women know this most intimately because women are simply born smaller and more vulnerable to a man's physical size and aggression.

This is why it's so important for girls to filter our guys who are overly aggressive, who don't understand no well, or who are not good at caring for a woman's vulnerabilities. If your boy thinks it's okay to give you peer pressure, he's not going to listen to you when you're deep into a make out and you want to stop. If he never gives you pressure he's probably more trust worth in the bedroom...

But assuming the boyfriend is ultimately trustworthy, and has shown great patience and care with you, then the real issue is when YOU'RE emotionally ready to be vulnerable and naked with someone you like,.

If you're mentally ready to handle with getting pregnant or an STD... AND you're okay having sex and the next day he decides he doesn't want to see you anymore... and you're self confident enough to dictate the pace and not care about his expectations THEN you're probably ready to have sexy times!

If you're not mentally or emotionally ready to handle disappointment or sexual embarrassment, then don't do it. You're not ready.

At my age I have seen it all and I can handle it all. I'm obviously very careful with whom I get naked with... because I clearly don't want an STD, and I also consider my naked time valuable and only the most worthy of women deserve it. And just as I have to earn my way into a woman's inner juicy vulnerable true self, so does she with me.

With all of those things considered... If I've just started dating someone I will definitely have tried kissing her by the third date, even though I want to kiss her on the first. And we will most likely start some petting zoo make outs within 5 dates. And sex within 8 dates. That's been my experience, but that's also my comfort level, and every woman is different.

I'm curious to hear what others say.

:D

~ Robby

Davidwatts · Accepted Answer

Different for each relationship I've had, sometimes on the first date others weeks in. You should just choose when it's right for you, there's no right or wrong unless the guy only wants length of time

samantha_kendall11 · Accepted Answer

First time I met my current boyfriend was at a party where we hooked up but didn't have sex. And about two months into the relationship we started to have sex. I was a virgin before that, so it took a while

kevinsamduck · Accepted Answer

I started to date my current partner when we were 16. We would kiss but nothing else until a 1 later. We had sex for the first time 4 years into the relationship.