Insecure and depressed about lack of sexual experience?

I’m not a virgin but you can damn near say I am. I’ve only had sex twice , with the same person, 2 years apart and obviously for a number of reasons, it wasn’t “mind- blowing”. I’ve only experienced oral with him those 2 times but again, still not a “mind-blowing” experience.

Why don’t I try having sex with just anybody? Because I’ve tried that... didn’t work and didn’t like how I was treated so I’d rather wait till I have a boyfriend but I don’t really have the opportunity to meet any guys right now.

Thing is, for 1. I’m insecure about my lack of sexual experience. Everybody is so hung up on sexual compatibility and expect sex instantly and I don’t have much to offer in that department compared to how much more experience most girls my age already have. I’ve already experienced it SEVERAL times where I wasn’t chosen or kept around long because I wasn’t putting out

Thing number 2: it kind of makes me depressed anytime I get online and see people talking about their sex life and their experiences. There’s damn near 13 year olds with more experience than I’d ever have. It just kind of sucks always having to self please when I’d like to feel “loved” by someone else as well.
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  • nothing be ashamed about lack experience i've only had sex once only reason i knew what hell i was doing because i been studying female anatomy for quite awhile incase i had girlfriend/mate. boys are like children easy please but selfish men harder please but want equal pleasure between you two. so don't be afraid if you get a good man and tell him you don't have much experience plus guys prefer females with few partners when i say guys i mean (men) not boys. he will teach you his kinks in return teach him your kinks so you two better understand each others sweet spots. sex just another way showing ones love by knowing about your lover. in this case knowing your lovers kinks and sensitive spots and how to approach those spots. like everything it takes practice

  • There's nothing to be ashamed about. I bet there is more to you that is interesting then just how sexually experienced you are.

    And once you find a guy and reach that part of your relationship i bet he is going to be more excited about you not being so experienced. So he's going to try to created the best experience for you. I know i would. Just don't beat your self up thinking about.

    • And to tell you the truth. I have only had sex with one girl so far in my life and i have been married to her for almost 10 years now this May.

    • Thanks:) and congratulations

    • I may be a different breed of man but im more interested in woman with less sex partners. That the one thing i liked the best about my wife when we first met.

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  • My guess is that you'll get a lot of private messages from guys who are intrigued by what you just wrote.

    Plenty of guys are attracted to women with not a lot of sexual experience. They like being able to guide or teach women. Plus, it's fun to explore territory that hardly anyone else has explored.

    When you find a guy who's interested in dating you, and whom you're interested in dating, be honest about your lack of experience. He probably won't care, and he might even be pleased.

  • I'm 24 I go through the same... But I'm not putting enough efforts cos I don't have any time... I have been diagnosed with a few mental disorders and I'm someone who craves for greatness... so I can't really be bothered bout this... But honestly speaking sometimes like u said when I go online and see posts I feel like what the hell I'm doing... Ur not alone

  • Find a guy who will teach you and learn from you,, , or ask an older more experienced guy for help

  • I’m kind of curious why you can’t meet guys right now? All it takes is using a dating app or just being proactive and asking someone out yourself. You’re right that a lot of guys expect sex right away and many only date to get sex. They aren’t really interested in a relationship. It’s why dating is hard but you have to put yourself out there and wade through the bad ones to find the good ones. Being lonely and unfulfilled isn’t a good alternative. If you want something in life, the burden is on you to make it happen. Your lack of experience isn’t a huge issue. Sex isn’t exactly rocket science. When a new relationship becomes sexual, it’s exciting and new and you have lots of sex. You’ll gain experience and confidence fast and he’ll be happy to be along for the ride. Trust me. Insecurity will hold you back every time. You have to cut that loose and live your life.