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My sister recently had a baby with a gang banger. Why have a baby with a druggie? She said that she didn't really need a father to be around. She just wanted a "Latino" baby. Knowing from the get go that her druggie hookup Dad would never be in the picture, she chose to have the baby anyway.
About 99.% of my friends are women. My best friend is a girl and we were talking about sex. She tells me, "You I am 31 years old now. I feel like if I was having fun with a boyfriend and my birth control didn't work..I would have the baby anyway. I can take care of myself. When will I have a kid or get married?"
I was recently dating a single mom. She tells me, "I never really thought I wanted to have kids. But when I got pregnant I went along with it. The father didn't want it. But I went along with it because I wasn't sure if I'd get the chance." Later it was revealed that the father was just a hookup and had started dating a different girl. This was the loop in draw.
We live in a society that marginalizes the role of fatherhood. We have women that are intentionally having broken families.
There are women who have every access to adoption or abortion and other means of not having a child. But they are choosing to deny a child the right to exist in the world without a father.
Fatherhood matters. Fathers are crucial in a child's life. Yet, the idea of fatherhood has become a form of blackmail in relationship disputes. It has been relegated to the role of sperm donor.
It seems that women are choosing to have babies selfishly without even considering the consequences and impact that no child will have on a father.
Not having a father scars a child for the rest of their life and slows their development compared to secure families.
The responsible thing is to have an abortion. Wait until marriage to have a child. And give your child the blessing of a planned pregnancy where both parents are fully invested and in the picture.
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23 36Yea it's selfish... but it goes back to lack of knowledge and bad experiences... in saying that society really poisons the minds of people
I've spoken to many single parent women who wanted to date but denied the dad wanting anything to do with the kids and i thought, that how the woman feels about the man and chooses to alienate him from his kids. I tried to knock some sense in their head to encourage the father but the bitchea only wanted what's best for them. So i refused to date any woman with them type of intentions.
Hum, what about homosexuals? You do realize that kids raised by homosexuals are absolutely fine, right? If you're implying that they should not have kids, then you're disgusting.
99% of homosexuals have planned pregnancies because they can't have a baby by themselves. It seems you are entirely missing the argument. The point is not about whether people should have babies or not. The point is babies should be brought into the world with planned intentionality of a two parent household. Now I think what you meant was lesbians rather than homosexuals. And again. a child needs to parents.
I'm sorry but your title states "fatherless" child, not what you're saying here.
My child is intended for heterosexual couples. You are the one interjecting a completely different dynamic. A child needs a mother and a father. Period.
I am not against gay or lesbian parents. But a child needs two parents.
I really don't understand you. You say a child needs a father and a mother. So two lesbians having a child together would be 2 mothers. How's that not being against homosexuals? It makes no sense
Adoption as an alternative yes, but not abortion. Abortion is what it is (MURDER) despite what leftist claim, adoption should be the only alternative. As far a donors, men are getting wise due to the red pill and MGTOW. Soon there won't be any men willing to get women pregnant or be a donor. All that is going to dry up firmly soon. MGTOW covered the donor situation in the UK last year, no men are donate anymore those banks are drying up. I would adopt myself if I could adopt a girl, but women have fixed that so that men can't and their karma is just beginning with no men willing to procreate with them anymore.
I had a drug addicted father. My mother stayed with him for our sake, but I would've been better off without him. I have major issues now.
I would prefer a good father over none, but none over a bad one.
When you say just abort it, that raises controversy. You ruin the chance at giving someone life. What if you were an abortion? Would you take that over being fatherless?
Even bad fathers matter. I work with clients whose fathers are in prison. We are encouraged for the sake of the child's development to ensure the father has a role in the child's life. You are talking to someone who was abandoned by his mother and father. But dont you understand the point I am trying to make? Mom should not be having babies with a drug addicted father. The point is to wait to have a child until a good father is in the picture. Not to get knocked up with a bad father. THat is THE ENTIRE POINT of the mytake! Not to be means but you should exist but mom should not have created you until it was with a stable father. technically you should have not existed to experience that pain.
I agree. My dad wasn't drug addicted until I was a child though. So I can't really blame my mom. But, if I were to chose this life over not existing, I would chose not to exist, because abuse led me to horrible decisions. So actually, I see your point. Just not sure if other abused people would agree
Then your situation is completely different. YOur mom didn't do anything wrong. I know what i said was controversial. But that is the point. Have the guts to say soemthing controversial even if it is true is my mantra. I once worked with a 6 ft 3 inch man who was a "thug". He punched a wall at this restaurant because of the shit in his family and screamed, "Man! SOmetimes I wish I was never fuckin born!" I myself sometimes wish I was fuckin aborted. Or didn't exist. I am happy I do. But If I was aborted early on I wouldn't feel pain today. I would take that over being abandoned for sure. The idea of not existing is really a neutrality. Because you are a fetus. It isn't like executing me now that i am born.
I agree and when you don't exist, you don't feel pain. You don't feel pleasure either, but if you have no pleasure in your life, why exist? When people act out like that guy in the restaurant, people blame them and think they should just "get over" the abuse. But abuse changes your brain chemistry and gives you psychological damage that can't be easily overcome if overcome at all.
Father's suck dick
The ones that do are usually in prison.
That's western society, soon the it will perish just like past civilisations because family value has been destroyed
Having a male figure in a child's life can definitely add some "stability." How the child turns out is a matter of how the kids is raised. What parental methods were put to use in application.
I don't understand how some women want to have kids before they are even ready. I have to concur with what you said regarding unplanned pregnancies. If the guy wanted to have a kid (s) and the woman didn't, there's something wrong with the picture because it almost seems like a forced act on the man's part. However if the woman wants a baby and the man doesn't --- it's fucked up when she goes and creates one DESPITE the man not wanting. That's the fucked up thing I do not understand.
It's almost like the guy is always at a big disadvantage with that kind of stuff. And if the man were to supposedly wise up and wants to be in the child's life, the woman will probably deny him from seeing his offspring due to various reasons.
The modern day hookup culture surely fucked things up regarding the natural governing laws of life.
Nowadays somr girls want to have mixwd race babies just because they see them on music videos and it makes thrm look cool lol
That is a huge problem today. Everything is about likes to people and also victim points, you see celebrities adopting black kids because of it and white women having a kid with some black hookup so they can tell everyone how much of a victim they are.
I'm near shocked there hasn't been a full outrage yet at the sheer mention of abortion as an option so that's a start. And I agree 100%. I don't see guys going out of their way to take care of a kid on their own unless unplanned. So what are the real intentions behind purposely raising kids with no father? Well, if my men/masculine = libertarian leaning and women/feminine = authoritarian leaning by conditioning/nature theory is correct, I think perhaps the child is not born to be loved or because of "a want to be a mother." At least likely not in the way it sounds. I think perhaps a child is born partially in order to make the parents feel like they finally have their own clone to boss around and do as they say.
In colonial times, children were often born to help with work as soon as they were old enough, not as special individuals brought into the world with love. The goals to me from having a child seemed like 1) Have cloned slave of yourself to help make money 2) Extend the family tree. 3) Have somebody to help when you grow old.
I think this thinking is authoritarian in nature by no coincidence and still is plenty present today. Kids even as they grow older are still pushed to be like proud property/trophies for their parents.
I suspect too this is why so many kids go through a rebel phase, because of course, usually kids can only take so much of being told what to do and how to do it, eventually striking back and this is the only way the parents get through their skull that the kid wasn't born to be their slave clone.
Exodus 21:16
https://www.youtube.com/embed/1hUQ53Oxu7sanyone who kidnaps shall be put to death
your sister is risking her life
I'm not sure if it's selfish so much as just epically stupid. I mean c'mon people--it's fucking 2020! You SERIOUSLY don't know how to fuck without getting knocked up? You're a goddamned moron if that's the case. And it's not the fault of society, religion, schools, Donald Trump, or whomever you usually like to blame for all the ills of the world.
If you don't know how to fuck and not get knocked up. You. Are. A. FUCKING. Retard.
It is crazy how many women have no issue with having unprotected sex during hooks today. I stopped with hookups because most guys I matched with didn't even bother bringing condoms because they never have a girl ask.
@Hannahm67 Well, I guess it could be that on the first hookup the guy doesn't necessarily expect it to end in full sex, but rather some naked fun time that might get as far as oral. Could be that anyway?
No, they expect sex.
In many ways yes.
Your sister, no offense, is a perfect example. She wanted a Latino baby. Are there no decent Hispanics in your area? When you say she had a baby with a gang banger what comes to mind, again no offense, is that she's got drug problems. Or she is incredibly promiscuous and doesn't care who she fucks. Most decent people, after all, don't associate with gang bangers.
She isn't just raising a fatherless child but she's raising some gang banger's kid & that alone is going to carry a stigma. That the child's mother was so desperate, so gutter surfing, that she couldn't even land a decent man to be the child's father she had to fuck the dregs of society. Your family knows & likely your neighbors know & by the time the child makes it to school that entire area will know and she/he'll be bullied for having a useless father that's in and out of jail (if not dead by then).
No one is intentionally not trying to have a father for their child no one wants to go through it alone. But I don’t think it should stop you from having a child at all.
Read my examples above. They are clear examples of people I personally know who have intentionally done this. including my sister. People who simply dont care about whether a father is in the picture. Women say this all the time. "If I get pregnant I can raise it on my own. I dont need a man."
The thing is we will always need a man but there have been countless times were women raise their children on her own and they’re just fine
But y’all are not taking the blame for the men that don’t want to be there who aren’t active no it’s just going to have an abortion
The reason why fathers aren't in the picture is because women are forcing a pregnancy that isn't planned. When a woman has sex with a man outside of marriage she knows that the man is having sex for fun and for pleasure... not with the intention of having a child. Yet the woman, knowing this, opened her legs and had sex with the guy and yet punishes the child and the man? When two people have sex there is an agreement there that its just for fun. Whether it is a boyfriend or on a date or whatever. What women are doing is violating the unspoken agreement. I mean, unless you are married or have had deep discussions with a man about having children in the future... under no circumstances should a woman be opening her legs and allowing a man to be inside her and then turn around and move forward with a pregnancy. The woman bears responsibility.
Wait whoa no so you’re saying if a person is in a relationship with the same person and he says I want you to have my baby that’s all for fun? And what is the child fathers dies During the process that’s what happened to my friend. Now she has four kids no father not intentional. Why are you mad that we want children?
Women who choose to have a fatherless child are every bit as selfish and despicable as fathers who abandon their child.
I agree with that, but what can you expect when most men don't want to get married and have kids anymore? especially that the hookup culture get over this generation which kills the commitment
I think you bring up a good point. It sounds like that would be a good mytake question. What can make a man want to get married?
The main reason many men don't want to get married and have children is because women either don't know or completely ignore the things men want from having that.
*ahem* looking to breed
it mostly due to Divorce rape, and lack of Female commitment to marriage
It’s harsh but government should not give single mom money. The government isn’t the father. Only then will women be more careful who they fuck. I will vote down everything like childcare, more money to poor families etc as they should not have children.