Intimacy with lights on or off?

Do you like to have sexual intimacy with the lights on or off? Why do you like it the way you do?
Am I weird for liking the lights to be off because I’m insecure of my body? And by body I don’t mean being skinny or overweight.. I mean with how my body is exposed and naked.
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Superb Opinion

  • Unless 'spontaneous' YOU set the lighting to be flattering... when lights are off you are denying you BOTH one of your six senses!
    Now... SOME prefer to be blindfolded making their other senses a higher priority BUT... unless its 'group sex' YOU ARE the 'main feature ' Star-of-the-show' and your companion is 'the LUCKY one'. Unless you're 'into' being demeaned, ... if your partner treats you OTHERWISE, get up and leave... or throw them out! You EACH, deserve each other's 'best' efforts to make memories you'll later savor!

Most Helpful Guy

  • to me, the brighter the better. but if my partner wants the lights off because it would help them feel more comfortable, then we're turning off the lights or at least dimming them to the point where they feel comfortable because, at least to me, if they aren't enjoying it, then I'm not enjoying it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It doesn't matter to me. Feeling comfortable when you are naked is fundamental to sexual intimacy. You're a beautiful woman. You should have nothing to worry about. remember that intimacy is about connection, not perfection. Seeing your partner’s reactions catching those little expressions of pleasure can be incredibly hot and motivating.

  • There's no one-size-fits-all answer, babe! Some nights, lights off create a cozy, sensual mood. Other times, having a little light can be playful and lets you see each other. The most important thing is to talk to your partner about what feels good for them. Trust me, open communication is way more romantic than any lighting setting.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I don't care if all the lights are on, if it's broad daylight, moonlight, dimmed lights or a couple of candles, but not dark. I want to be able to see her. That's half of the pleasure.

  • whatever works for us and meets the mood...

  • Not pitch black, not laboratory white, but just right.

  • I don’t like with lights off. I can’t see anything.

  • Lights on. Or some light on. I want to see her. Men are very visual. We want to see the woman and all the parts.

  • I don’t mind usually, it’s only if it’s a really glaring bedroom light, as it’s bloody annoying. The main reason I don’t mind having sex with the light on is I also have sex during the day when that big light in the sky is on.

  • Dim lights/or off. Lights on are blinding and uncomfortable to have sex that way

  • On for anal off otherwise.

  • on so i say the right name!

  • I prefer dim light , just enough we can still see each other

  • Either is fine. Sometimes it's nice to see what we're doing with each other, and sometimes it's nice to have to feel your way around.

  • Lights on low. Makes for a better mood.

  • I prefer the lights off or at least dimmed because I’m self conscious.

  • Lights on for me because I wanna see the beautiful art in front of me so it serves me as a constant reminder of what I’m missing when I don’t have access to it

  • I've only had sex in the daytime so I don't really know 😅

    I'm guessing I'd enjoy having sex in the dark too :)

  • Lights on

  • I lukeclights out. There is still enough light to see what I am doing

  • Dim lighting feels the best to me, but it also depends on the circumstances. I prefer to see my partner as it feels more intimate and their body is a turn-on, rather than just a body in the pitch dark.

  • We burn candles.

  • Dim lights

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