Is 2 and okay body count for a 23 year old woman?

[Anonymous]

[Sarah_Abbs_93]

Body count doesn't actually matter at all. I get where you're coming from. I went to co-ed Christian primary school from kindergarten to grade 6 and had purity culture pushed on me and then I went to a single sex girls Christian high school for high school. I ended up losing my virginity when I was 18 a few months after high school graduation to a guy friend the same age that I'd known since we were 16. We were both virgin's and lost it to each other as friends and then we went on to date for 2 years and broke up when we were 20 on mutual terms. I was then single for about 18 months after that and slept with about 4 other guys all on different occasions during those 18 months and then I met my now husband. I'm 29 now and my husband and I have been together for over 8 years, married for 3 years, built a house together, have a healthy relationship and a great marriage. I don't have much to do with my biological mother as she put me through so much and I went and did therapy for years as an adult and got on medication to help me. I have also had some religious trauma. I'm a registered nurse with a nursing science degree now and I'm doing post-grad study in mental health nursing now so I can help others. I also have 3 younger siblings, 2 brothers and 1 sister. My brothers are 25 and 23 and my sister is 21. My two youngest siblings still live at home and my husband and I try to be a really positive connection for them. My husband knows I slept with other guys before I got with him and he is absolutely fine with it. Before he got with me he dated another girl for 4 years and he also eat eat a couple others when he was single and no judgement. You are human. Just be safe, condoms, birth control, STI tests, etc. Have fun.

[Cherry234]

I'm glad not everyone cares about body count.

[Shamalien]

Low body count often indicates self control which smart men value in their women

[Chlo3_2001]

I'm around the same age (different age than what shows on my account). My body count is also 2 people and both of them were from former relationships. I want you to know that body counts don't matter or change your value. All that matters is you're safe, responsible and it was all consensual. I get how you may feel though, I grew up with and had purity culture pushed hard on me as an adolescent and it actually still mentally messes me up to this day. Hugs. ❤

[Asker]

Thank you so so much for this. Made me feel at ease and with some clarity and peace:) it’s definitely difficult especially growing up with a religious parent who pushed me to wait for marriage but really sex is nothing to be ashamed of as long as it’s safe sex until you share that emotional connection with a person you love and trust to proceed further.

[Chlo3_2001]

Hugs ❤❤

[Logan_V96]

Yes, the lower the better, in my opinion. Sex is supposed to come with an emotional connection; it shouldn’t be a leisurely or recreational activity—in fact, the last three consecutive decades of scientific literature points to high body counts being directly correlated with increased likelihood for divorce, depression, and infidelity in relationships.


My body count is only two and I am 25, I’m quite proud of it.

[Zolly99999]

And you should be. You are a good girl..

[Zolly99999]

That is acceptable in my opinion.. To me if a girl had more then 2 people before she finished highschool that's too many .. By 23 3 would be max in my opinion..
The higher the count the lower the value in the dating market..

[AwesomeCookie]

Like a murder body count? If so, no, not okay...

[DizzyDesii]

I think thats a good body count for anyone. More than a handful is when I’d start to worry. But oddly enough, my body count is 2 and i hate it because i never wanted to surpass 1. But since that happened, I won't allow myself to surpass 3. The first time wasn't exactly by choice. The second was a regretful choice. Im very careful in who i give myself to as a 3rd and final partner. I would really prefer he at least be a fiance or husband and not just a long term boyfriend

[Jamie05rhs]

What's the difference between a fiancee and a long-term boyfriend? Just curious.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs a fiance has proposed and is actually trying to move to the next step. Longterm to me can be 6 months to a year or more. A fiance is often a year or two of dating and then he proposes, you stay engaged 3-6 months, maybe a year, then marry.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. I just don't really take engagements seriously these days. Most people who say they're engaged are full of sh*t. They really have no intention of marrying. It's just an excuse to move in with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs which is why i said 3-6 months. I refuse to live together until engaged and i refuse to stay engaged longer than a year. I will leave him if he tries to turn us into one of those couples

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay; that's good!

[Daniela1982]

If someone says it is will that change your ways any? You should go with the "don't ask - don't tell" idea.

[ChrisMaster69]

Who really cares, those who care are likely control freaks and will hit 30 single.

you live once, enjoy life and leave judgmental arseholes alone.

Also you can happily fuck 500 guys and say it’s 2, they would never know.

[DizzyDesii]

They wouldn't know but she would. God would. Its the guilt of disappointing yourself or him and having a lack of morals. That can eat away at a person. But if she doesn't believe in him then i guess thats an afterthought

[ChrisMaster69]

@DizzyDesii the same God that lets young children scream for him in the dark as they are tortured and abused?

[DizzyDesii]

I hear you and I won't speak on that matter exactly because its about children. But in general, we all have free will. Some of us put our selves in a dangerous situation whether its on purpose or by naivety. Either way, God may not come when we want him, but he's always there when we need him. And he won't give us more than we can handle. Of course i dont want to see anyone get abused. But i also believe there's a way out of every situation and if not, the Lord may present a miracle when one least expects it. So i’ll leave it at that. I didn't come to preach a word that won't be received. My point yesterday was that others may not know but she would. If she can live with what some of us feel as a part of a guilty conscience/conscious, then kudos to her

[summiter]

Don't worry about the numbers just enjoy the fun times and the good orgasms.

[Crazycookie23]

Yes. Perfectly fine

[DonkeyDan]

It's not anybody's business whether that is an acceptable number or not it is only your business.

[The1Girl]

Lol 'body count', what made you kill those people?

[modeve]

Definitely.

[Cherry234]

That's fine.

[Dargil]

I think it is. I accept a little trial and error but please avoid much more of it. As they say in the sales field: "Qualify your prospect before you do the deal."

[Gwenhwyfar]

Totally okay

[Drumlin2001]

Perfectly OK. So is zero, and so is 20.

[exitseven]

Yes, that was my body count when I was 23.

[MrtoddsWildRide]

Whatever body count you feel comfortable with is okay. If it's two or twenty or twenty two or zero, it's okay.

[Luopio27]

I aprove your bodycount.

[Yourfriend2021]

2 is fine, lots of women have a much higher body count.

[Jamie05rhs]

You shouldn't be focusing on "body count.". You should be focusing on developing a relationship with someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

[vald9inches]

No it should be way more yolo

[jahaims]

For me it is more or less what the encounter was. Two people while being in a serious relationship not a big deal really. Two one night stands is a no go for me.