Guys, Is a girl being 30 and a virgin a dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

I have had guys in my life but never felt enough to have sex. I want to be in love and feel safe It might be stupid

[DaveJord]

For me it is a deal breaker... I am not comfortable with being with a virgin at my age. I am not saying there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 30 years old, but honestly, it's an issue to me. I don't see it as being virtuous honestly... I have a lot of experience and I want a woman that has some experience of her own. I think at some point being a virgin limits your emotional growth, and ability to be in a truly emotionally fulfilling relationship in which you have that special bond with someone else.

Even you just said; "I want to be in love and feel safe..." So why by the age of 30 has this not happened for you? Is it really about all the other people, or it is possible there is some deep-rooted insecurity issue here? I really do not know, but at 46 I am not willing to find out... it's a Red Flag to me.

No, I do not think you are stupid but given my life experiences I honestly just think we would be worlds apart in the relationship department. It like saying you made to 30 years old without having a serious and fully committed relationships... even if you think you have, if you're a virgin then you have not committed to sex... and for me that mean you have not fully committed.

I get nervous when I meet a woman at 40 years old that have never been married and have loads of sex... just means that they might have some emotional immaturity issues... that prevents them from having long lasting and full committed relationships, and the same may be true of a 30-year-old virgin. I don't really know for certain, but I know what I want in woman. I want woman that has had some success within a meaningful relationship and knows what it is to be in one. It just too far of react for me to make to view a virgin as ever being in a truly intimate and meaningful relationship if they did not feel safe enough or comfortable enough to have sex.

[shanshu]

Not at all but even if you find the guy you feel safe with it doesn't mean the sex will be. Plus if you wait too long for this perfect person you may end up in your 40's before you know it and miss out on what you could of experienced.

But 8f being a virgin and not getting close to anyone until you feel safe and comfortable then do so, don't be pushed into anything you are uncomfortable with

[Lliam]

Depending on her reason for still being a virgin, it might not be a turn off at all. But if she was intent on remaining "pure" until marriage, I'd have to move on.
I place zero value on virginity and would never marry someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible.

[MCheetah]

No, not at all.

[godfatherfan]

I would really be worried. Why is that necessary? I would assume she is a religious fanatic. Sex is not that big a deal, there is no reason to wait so long. I think you will be sorry you did once you start.

[Berethor]

The other way around, virgin girls are best, but what was you doing with those guys?

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/no_hymen,_no_diamond

[Summeroflove]

Nope. You have morals and I like that. I’m a Christian who wants to save myself. If she’s 30 I’m a bit younger but I wouldn’t be opposed to dating if I really liked her and she liked me

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Well, I'm 31 and a virgin, so I'd be all for it!

[SlothySlob]

I'm gonna be 30 soon, so it really shouldn't be for me.

[tfan1]

Not at all. When I got married we were both virgins - she was 29 and I was 30 🙂👍

[call_me_scar]

Nope as long as we most importantly got each other and preferably had similar kinks then that's good with me

[JPresidente]

For some guys no and some yes. Hard to generalize.