Is a handjob sex and does giving random guys handjobs make me a slut?

Back when I was 14, I became friends with a girl who is still my best friend today. She has always been very loose and sexual and it always made me feel like I was normal if I did crazy things. I have never had sex with or blown as many guys as she did. But I never had a problem with showing my body or giving a guy a handjob because to me it's not really sex. I got into it when I was 14 and me and my best friend would give guys from school handjobs in the toilet or in an alley. We even had some guys waiting their turn during breaks. In college, all the guys knew to find me when they wanted a handjob as well. Also now at work and at the bars I visit often, I've jerked off pretty much every guy that's at least a little confident.

It first started wit just jerking them till they shoot, but after a while you do something extra and it becomes normal. So now it's always like this: I get my tits out, jerk the guy off while moaning and giving him some dirty talk, and then, not always but most of them want to cum on me. So I often have to wipe off my chest or my face or even my ass.

I never saw it as if I was slutty by giving so many guys handjobs (it was at least one new guy every week) but now I have a boyfriend, and he really has trouble getting over the fact that so many of his friends and just guys around me have gotten a handjob from me, or have even cummed on my face. I never saw it like that since to me I wasn't fucking them, it was just whatever.
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The thing is, it were A LOT of men that I jerked off. Definitely a thousand guys over all these years and probably 200-300 have cummed on me... So it happens sometimes that we're in a bar and every guy there has put his load on my face, recently or long ago or pretty often. And yes, they joke about it, to him and me as well. I just laugh with it, but he seems to break a little every time this happens.
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  • Yes, anything that someone reaches a climax from the repetitive motion of contact or penetration is considered sex. Although very very mild. I don't think you a "slut" per say because you explored your sexuality... And you don't go about fucking guys are having then inside you.. so I think that's different. I do understand that your boyfriend feels some kind of way about having cum on your chest and face... That would be a little ify for me too... But if I truly liked you I would look past it... We alll have past. As long as you are not reverting to those bad habits... And only jerking and pleasing your boyfriend... It shouldn't matter.

  • You with the wrong guy been hearing guys on this foroum loving their wives fucking other men you should repost this at a night that seems to be the time those guys come around maybe you all can get together and have fun with each other leave simple people alone that wants a relationship.

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  • A hand job isn't sex, bit its sexual. And not gonna lie that sounds pretty slutty. You gave pretty much any guy who asked for it a hand job, I wouldve felt better about if you at least made them pay for it.

    Yeah I wouldn't feel comfortable of I dated a guy who basically fingered the whole town, or liked the dudes.

    you're just gonna have to find another like minded person, if this dude doesn't work out.

    • Taking it in the ass while giving A hand job, that's a slut.

  • Sure makes you popular for sure! Guess it depends on who you ask if it is sex or not. I use to hear a lot of my female friends say they didn't mind sucking a dick because it wasn't really sex. I however would sure consider it sex. I think many construed sex to be only if you got fucked.

  • Well it's a sexual act but it's definitely not sex. I don't like the word "slut" in a negative sense because if people do sexual things and it's safe, consensual & fun, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

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  • Well, if you're considered a slut, then be proud of it! Men LOVE sluts! Calling yourself a slut can and WILL get you more men who want to be with you (sexually) than ever. It makes it easier for men to approach you and ask you for sex. Which means, you will experience a whole lot more sex than most women.

    Look, at some point, years from now, your man, or you will loose all interest in sex. When that happens, all you'll have is your memories. So, get as much as you can now. AND... fulfill as many sexual fantasies as you can, NOW!

    Enjoy!!!

  • You are only a slut if you feel like a slut. In my book, it only matters how you treat me and in that case, I want you to act like a slut. I've had people say it's not sex unless it's intercourse. Who cares, a good hand job is GREAT!

  • You must feel really proud to win the "Ho of the Year" award. Just think, that every time there is a military parade in your town you have probably given them all a hand job. Your hand must be all callous by now. Make sure you use Jerkins, I mean Jergens lotion to smooth those mitts out.

    Is a handjob sex and does giving random guys handjobs make me a slut?
  • It is sex, but I don't see what the big deal is, since it wasn't vaginal sex; however, I think the problem from your boyfriend's perspective is that a lot of people he knows have gotten handjobs from you. Maybe he'a afraid they'll say something about it.

  • a handjob counts as sexual activity. if you are giving hangjobs to a lot of people and not being very selective about it then yes i would say it is promiscuous (aka slutty) behavior

  • Cut yourself some slack. It is slutty? Honestly yes but it’s also sexy and fun. Embrace your past

    • I agree! Years from now you'll be fantasizing about those moments.

  • A handjob isn't sex and is fun if you are dating a guy but not if you are randomly giving to guys.

  • Wow that is a brave man lol must be hard o him and yes it is seen as slutty if it wernt more people would openly do it

    • Because it's fucking embarrassing

  • Yeah, that's the definition

  • No offense but u're slutty. No shit ur boyfriend feels bad. You got no idea how much guys tease each other on shit they heard about each others girls... and now imagine ur boyfriend and his friends, in some ways they had the same sexual moves on you and they got it with no sweat, that means you slutty as hell... do the guy a favor, let him off easy, he deserves better. Stop jerking random dudes, thats mad weird. Ur friend is more of a slut than you are.

  • It's funny... the double standards we have. Had you been male with multiple females, we would probably be honoring you. Your acts are what we would call slutty, as there are a lot of guys that would automatically know that if they needed to get off, They could come find you. Being able to rely on you for that makes you slutty.
    It's understandable that your boyfriend is insecure as you could go out and resume what you used to do.

  • I think that it is great that you admit that you enjoyed it. You cannot get pregnant that way, and disease is not as likely. Smart move to do handjobs. The first girl who ever gave me onewould not even go under my underwear, but she was hot enough to get me to cum quickly. Even today, I still cum faster than with regular sex.

  • No such thing as a slut so no

  • It’s a type of sex if you enjoy it I don’t see anything wrong with it making a guy cum on your tits is pretty cool there not in your pussy so I wouldn’t have a problem watching you do that it’s pretty hot your boyfriend should not mind you doing that

  • Yes, it is sex.

    No, you are not a slut.

    Don't get taken advantage of. If you like giving HJ's awesome for everyone. If you don't like it, don't do it. Don't let them talk you into it.

  • Lmfao.
    You have a bf? What kind of beta cuck is he? 😂😂😂

    • What kind of reaction is that? Why is he a "beta cuck"? And what does that even mean?

    • Dude, get the fuck out of here. First of, this whole thing reads like fetish porn. So I don't even believe it's real, but I'll humor it. So, you gave your man the figure one thousand guys have been jerked or sucked by you and he didn't puke on you? Then you said possible a 3rd, but at least a 4th that thousand have cum on your face and he didn't feel repulsed? That makes him a cuck and a beta (that means a male that likes to be humiliated sexual and a lesser man respectively) Also, a hoe is 5 different guys you don't know have cum on your face. When you reach 1000 you're fucking filthy. And dumb given you could have made money in porn for it. But as I said, this is fetish writing. I'm sure you finger yourself to the idea of this or something.

  • I honestly think it makes you a slut... a sexual act is a sexual act... especially if you were cummed on the face.

  • am I the only one who got super turned on reading this post?

    • Yeah

    • I jerked off

    • Its nasty she was 14 a child making it illegal

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  • The fact that you were just 14 makes it even worse...

  • Yes it does. You are a slut.

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