Is asking for nudes or sexually provocative pictures appropriate? What makes you ask for these?

So I post on my private social media quite a lot and it will show some skin depending on what I wear - now I’ve never posted pictures in a bikini or anything similar - mainly I’m either in my working out clothes or wearing a nice dress kinda thing.

Now I’m having an ongoing argument with this guy because he asked for a picture of my cleavage and I got offended (like wtf do you guys really do this and think it’s normal?)

I said to him:

“It’s cheeky and disrespectful of you to even ask me that given that we’re not romantically involved”,

and his response is:

“Your pictures show your cleavage so you can’t be annoyed at me for asking”

Like wtf? None of my pictures shows off my chest, but being a girl with a well-endowed chest I can’t hide it and I shouldn’t have to, I genuinely don’t understand how anyone can justify this?

“Offending” picture attached below:
Is asking for nudes or sexually provocative pictures appropriate? What makes you ask for these?
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  • Well he shouldn't be asking unless you guys are romantically involved or at least flirting or whatever, but at the same time, he's not wrong-- you are just showing it off to everyone because you want attention so he just wants some personal attention. Again though, it's pretty lame and rude of him to ask for the personal stuff unless you guys are flirting or something.

    • But I'm not showing anything off - it is literally a pic of me, and if I was to go out everyone would see exactly the same. I haven't pulled my top lower or done anything to give off a hint like that.

    • Fair enough.

  • So there are like variety of people some women like it as well and they feel they are appreciated and are desirable now it is like chance and success women want attention men want visual aid if put it in polite manner, even women asks for nudes lol it's the new trend kinda thing i guess people are more lust oriented and attention seeking and I say this in general understanding

    • That's a fair point, but surely there would be something hinting towards that. I have not conversed in any way with that guy to even make it look like I'm interested.

    • Nobody can geuss if you hinted without talking as I said he took chance bc he was interested in you he took chance on you by asking to see if you would do so but got rejected so it's just that, like unless he stepped boundary of haressment many would just reject or accept its kinda like dating so were one thinks is suitable the just try but how they handle rejection is in them tbh you have the power in reality men can only try but you are the one to accept it or not

    • That's just wrong to do then. I've never had someone ask me to my face for a nude or sexually provocative pic, so why do it online? Rule of them if you won't do it to my face then don't do it. Also not only did he not accept the "rejection" he then tried to justify his behaviour and proceeded to send a dick pic... he took more than just a chance in my opinion.

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  • This isn't appropriate, no matter how obscene the site can be. Besides, it's much more kind to actually work for the nudity, especially in person, rather than the nudes.

  • The guy's request is odd and weird at best, and your picture is PG-13 at the worst.

  • I don’t ask for nudes

  • The rule of thumb is, if a girl really likes you she will send you nudes.

    If you ask her, she will get angry.

    Never ask for nudes

    • Blocked the prick :)

    • Took your time

    • I know, I give people chances and I get dick pics thrown my way 😒

  • The level of desperation is scary. The internet gives opportunity to those that wouldn't normally have it.

    • Exactly. I hardly doubt he would ask the same in person!

  • It’s called porn, pornhub is free, any guy that wants to see women go there. Yes it’s inappropriate and the only time pics should be exchanged is when they are offered up.

  • He's just a butt hurt soyboy yes man. Fuck him and ignore his ass.

    • Yep blocked him

  • Let's reverse your situation. Imagine there's an attractive and muscly guy who is does not know you, posted a photo of himself wearing a bottomed up-shirt. All you'd do is maybe give him a like.
    Now if the same guy posted a photo of himself unbuttoned the two buttons of his same shirt showing a bit of his shirt. There's a high possibility of you or other different girls would start flirting with him in any way and would ask him to show you/them a shirtless photo of himself; especially if you have So much crush on him to a point where you whisper to yourself you wish he was there with you now and you'd just shag him.

    No one will ask you to send any photo if you take a Christian photo not showing any cleavage shown or some revealing part that is sexy. If you do like this pic, you will need to accept some guys will ask you. Because you k iw guys are attracted to seeing girls nudity. 99.99 percent of guys do. And you know that.

    Some girls seeking attention amd validation seeking by raising out what you raised.

  • Its only appropriate if you think it is, or if you've discussed it prior to being asked. I get the feeling he had you mixed up with another girl, but I do see a tiny hint of cleavage in that pic.

  • sending nudes is the norm today. If you don't do it then you're a turn off. This is the age of tinder, instagram and Onlyfans. If you can show your naked body to your thousands of thirsty followers then you should have the common courtesy of sending some to your partner.

    • I don't like this, I should have been born in the 19th Century or something

    • yeah I wish that too. Life is a bitch.

  • Asking for nudes=unchristian and inappropriate.

  • A lot of guys are like that on the internet.

    It's the crowd and social groups that will or will not say those kinds of things. Guys can surely be like that, though.

    • It's so gross. I just think if you wouldn't ask for it to my face what makes you think you can do it online!

  • That is tricky. One needs to be careful, know the other person and have a good sense of humour. There needs to be an element of trust too.

  • i didn't noticed untill i read to the end... and well i have to say.. there are some animal men out there.. and its not all of us. dont treat us the same with that guy..

    also dont get involved into argument.. block and move on.

    • I realised that I was wasting my time arguing with him. All blocked and swiftly moving on now haha

    • good :)

  • I mean if the other person consents then its not awkward but if they don't it is.

  • depends on who it is, For me if its my bff i dont feel bad about it cause i am half playing around half hoping she gives them to me so i can make fun of her for it haha,

  • Yes, it's inappropriate but it's a sad reality of the world we live in:

    Is asking for nudes or sexually provocative pictures appropriate? What makes you ask for these?
    • I'm glad you think the same way!

  • Appropriate is entirely situational. Most things can be appropriate depending on the circumstances. Though it's not something I'd ask someone that I'm not already involved with.

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