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Is being a female virgin at 22 really that shocking?

A guy recently found out that I am a virgin at 22. I don’t even know how he found out, but it does not really matter.
He said that he thinks it is shocking that I as a female am still a virgin at 22. It would not have been shocking if I were a guy ( his words not mine).

I know it is uncommon, but I would not call it shocking. What is so shocking about being a 22-year-old female virgin? I am just a late bloomer and demisexual.
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In the comments I read that a lot of Americans lose their virginity around the age of 16. I am Dutch and here the average age has been rising since 2012. The average age in early 2020 was 18.6 but will probably change because it is now even more difficult to date etc. I have found a graphic from 2017 and this were the results when it came to losing your virginity: (Between) Age 12-14: boys 3% & girls 2% Age 15- 17: B 23% & G 28% Age 18-20: B 56% & G 67% Age 21-24: B 78% & G 85%
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I don’t know if anyone is interested in the article I found with the graphic from 2017. I will just post the link in case. If you don’t understand Dutch you can probably translate the article via Google Translate 😊

www.gratisdatingtips.nl/leeftijd-eerste-keer-seks/
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  • No it's not shocking at all as a matter fact I think it's pretty cool the part that I like about it is because you are 10 times stronger than I ever could be the other part is if I ever dated a girl it was 22 it was still a virgin I would tell her I'm really really into sex I really love it I'm very passionate about it but at the same time I respect what you doing and I will help you do that but you have to at least allow me to please you somehow but with no penetration and there's many ways to do. The part that I feel bad for his when you do decide to do it it's a moment where it needs is a big deal and the guy that you pick if he does not know how to please you are please anybody except for himself you're going to have the worst experience and I hate that because my first three times I say all three were terrible the girl told me that they were good really good but I didn't see that. That the four time we both stopped fireworks and she couldn't believe that happened because she said the first three were outrageous good but the first time I learned something I made it all about her so that's what I hope for you I really hope that you get to experience Something Beautiful the very first time because it is unbelievable beautiful

    • I have just started dating a guy, but we are in the early early stages. I do not know if he is a virgin but I have a feeling he might be. For me the first time does not have to be special (I mean it is not a requirement but it would be great) as long as I can trust the person and it is not something casual.

    • Well I hope the same thing for you I just heard too many stories and where the girl has waited and waited she finally find the guy that she wants to do it with but he's selfish he does it just to get himself up and the girls pissed off because she lost her virginity and it wasn't any good that's where I was to but I was disappointed in not seeing fireworks the very first time and I didn't see him the first second or third time but the fourth time this beautiful is great and I learned a lot from that from that day to this day I always make it about the girl I don't care what is happening I make it about her I want her to experience Something Beautiful I want her to just totally fall in love with it and want to do it again and again and again just take your time make sure it's right I mean there's ways to go about it where you'd both enjoy yourselves and still keep your virginity

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  • No it does not matter, it’s a personal thing.

    It’s up to each individual how they view virginity.

    Also I fully understand the Demisexual side of things it makes things for us just a bit more complicated in getting partners (even within demisexuality it really varies between individuals).

    also I I know the Netherlands have changed a lot of last number of years, the UK and Netherlands did at one point flip flop on who had highest teen pregnancies. A lot of work was done over there to sort that and it has also had a positive impact on when girls first start.

    So yea, it’s an individual thing and your body your choice, doubly complicated with being Demisexual. Not really a surprise and good luck.

    • @ Pretty Pink Anon thank you most appreciated

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  • I was 22 and a virgin for a while. That's actually how old I was when I lost my viriginty. I was really religious but eventually gave into the temptation of it. Wish I would've waited and not given in tho.

    • I am not religious. Why do you wish you would have waited? Because of your religion?

    • I wish I would have waited because of being religious and also, I wouldn't have done it with the guy I did it with. I wasn't really even attracted to him, we didn't have any type of connection either. I just wanted to know what it felt like so I gave in.

  • I don’t know which country do you live in. But in some countries people lose their virginity in early age so He can think that you lose too. For me it is normal everyone have their preferences.

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  • i mean, it seems pretty standard for a lot of high school girls trying to become the village bicycle (where everyones had a turn) but there is plenty who do not.

    • Yeah you are right that does seem to become the standard.

  • He probably means girls have a lot more options than guys when it comes to getting laid. If we compare an average girl and an average guy, you'd also agree that the girl could sleep with a lot more guys.

    • Yeah I don’t understand why guys think that. Do we really have much more options?

    • I think it depends on the girl. Maybe not a lot more but more than guys for sure yes. Are you good looking for example?

    • I would think so. Beauty is of course in the eye of the beholder. I can describe myself if you want?

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  • Not at all. Just wait for the right guy at the right time in your life

  • Nah. I don't know why so many guys think ALL girls get easy sex ALL the time

  • I would say not so shocking, but a little rare.

    • It is uncommon for sure but I recently found out that it is not as uncommon as I initially thought 😊

    • You are certainly not alone :)

  • If I couid do it all over again, I wouid stay a virgin until marriage. I wouldn't hesitate! I desparately wish I could articulate this successfully to you, how wonderful, exciting, how spiritual, how right it is to wait until marriage. Something that incredibly special, deserves an incredle event to share it with. I hope you take it to heart. You deserve it. Also, I could take a small crumb of responsibility to bring enormous joy.

  • It is not shocking I only lost my virginity when I was 26.

    • Oh ik blijf me verbazen hoeveel mede Nederlanders er op deze site zitten.

    • Ik kom nooit een Nederlander tegen😂

    • Heb je er behoefte aan om in een privé gesprek over dit onderwerp verder te gaan?

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  • Why does it matter? We all have our reasons. I myself am there.

  • It is pretty shocking. With that said, "GOOD FOR YOU YOUNG LADY", you are a rare gem and it gives me hope that this younger generation is not completely messed up. I wish more young men and women would wait before having sex.

    It would be interesting to find out how much social media you consume and how much time you spend doing activities other than on a computer.

    • Are you asking me how much social media I consume and or spend time online? Well I am not going to lie. I am addicted to music so I love spending time on YouTube/Spotify. I do use Snapchat, but I do not use Instagram, Twitter and Facebook because I feel like it has a negative impact on my mental health. I have never used Tiktok.

    • Thank-you for answering the question about your social media intake, it will help in my research.

    • For my data I do not care about music or movies as they fall into a different bracket. Snapchat, however I would like to know how many hours a day you are on that site, since you do not use any of the others on my list.

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  • It honestly sounds quite common to me...

    • Really? Where are you from?

    • Scandinavia

    • What is the average in Scandinavia to lose your virginity?

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  • Depends on your country, in America it seems most girls lose their virginity by age 12, not including rape, incest. Just seems like I read these things in the paper more and more.

  • Nope. Not for me. But depending on where you are from it might. But it shouldn't have in my opinion.

  • As you said, just uncommon, both to boys and girls

  • No. Those who get shocked are crazy. You do you. Who says there is the need to have that 3 letter word action? It’s dumb for people to expect everyone to have had it by a certain age.

  • My longest relationship was with a 24yr old virgin. That being said, it's usually the religious women that hold out til marriage and she was one too. So not surprising to me.

    • She didn't even do anything sexual with you?

    • @hoipotti She wanted to wait to do vaginal sex but we did other kinds of sex. Handjobs, blowjobs, etc.

    • Did she get naked and even allowed to get oral?

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  • Nothing. It's admirable. You have more self control than most of the young women on this planet

  • Not shocking, but rare in this day and age.

    • Yeah it is uncommon but I do know multiple women my age who are still virgins so maybe not as uncommon as I might think 🤔

    • That's cool.

  • I think it was becoming uncommon but now is becoming common once again.

    Study after study comes out that generation z is doing things later and later than previous generations like driving going on first dates having sex etc..

    • Yeah that is true. The average age people lose their virginity in my country is now 19 and it used to be 16/17.

  • with women's irrational demands and expectations getting higher and higher it will gradually become less shocking until it's the norm. I have met 50 year old women who rigid virgins afraid to even touch a guy and they were still coping at that age, telling me how they wait for the perfect rich man to show up and how they will give birth to his children. At the age of 50+. Women are never willing to compromise and trade one thing for something different. They only increase their demands.

    • For me, I simply was not ready in high school. I had a lot of issues at home and I did not even have the time to think of boys. I do have an ex but I was not ready to go all the way with him. I do feel like I am ready now.

    • yeah yeah the usual bullshit. You were not ready, you needed space, you needed to think, you weren't sure and all these dumb castration excuses women come up with. Once the guy of your irrational expectations shows up you're ready to get fucked doggystyle without protection and without even knowing his name. All these dumb excuses and rules are for your thousands of white knights orbiting around you.

    • Okay wow nevermind

  • Not shocking. Wise, even. I would probably date a woman like you.

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