Is cheating really THAT horrible?

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Why do people think it’s that horrible of a thing? Thoughts?

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Because you have claimed you cared about a person then immediatley betrayed their trust for something that is rather trivial. What you have said is their love, their emotional well being means less to you then a fuck.

You are saying that this person you love is not as important as sex with another person that they are that meaningless to you that you wouldn't even bother to show restraint. If that is coming from some one who claims to care about you and they don't even care about the impact their actions have on you, you must be pretty fucking worthless (at least that is how they see it).

So if you cannot control yourself even for some one you claim to care about what good are you? Seriously think about that, if your willing to destroy the emotional well being of a person, destroy their perception of them self, risk the destruction of that relationship, the destruction of all you have built with that person for an orgasm (which you could get from that person so your not even sacrificing anything here), what the fuck are you willing to do to a complete stranger to get what you want?

If you cheat you are worthless, less then worthless to be precise because you can't even care about some one your suppose to be close to so your a danger to society and any one who gets close to you. Thats why its so bad.

As to why its horrible on a social level, for men its because he has to invest all of his time and money and energy into you and the only thing your giving in return is sex. So when you give that to another person for free what you have done is you have robbed him, robbed him of all of that time he spent on you (those are hours, days, months, years of his life you just took and threw away), all of the money he spent on you to give what you were suppose to give to him to some one else. You conned him, you lied to him, and you exploited him. He saw you as some one important to him, some one he cared about and you saw him as a paycheck, a tool to be used and discarded.

As for why its horrible on a biolgical level, a man has to invest substantial resources time and money into his wife and his children. When she goes off and fucks some one else he is losing out on those resources, he paid for something and some one else was given it instead, for free. In addition a man can not know if his child is actually his so when she cheats on him he is now stuck potentially raising a child that is not his. That is quite literally the most expensive thing time, money, and emotionally you can do and now he doesn't even know if its his kid, if he has even reproduced, his relationship with that child could be a complete lie and he will never really know (again historically speaking).

If you cannot understand why this is horrible you should never ever ever be in a relationship, you are probably hyper impulsive and potentially sociopathic with very little capacity to empathize with others so maybe see a psychiatrist about that.

RemoErdosain · Accepted Answer

I think you see what's wrong about it easily. If it is not a terrible thing, why do it behind your partner's back? If your answer to this is "because I know they'd be upset", how do you know this, if it truly "surprises you" that it's a terrible thing? Shouldn't you then assume that there will be no consequences, and then just treat it like something normal? Nobody likes being lied to, nobody wants an unnecessary risk of catching STDs, and nobody wants to be regarded poorly socially, and most people want to feel like the special person for their partner, not just one of the many people that they're intimate with, or the one who helps pay their bills and raise children: Those are the main reasons why cheating is considered a bad thing, but I'm sure you didn't need such a breakdown

Addicted2u · Accepted Answer

You’ve fell in love with the man of your dreams. He’s handsome, sexy, smart, funny, caring, and so much more. You’re in a relationship with him for 3 years as everything is going fine. You’ve got your ups and downs like a normal couple, but overall, you feel your bond is stronger with time. Then all of a sudden he starts to change his attitude. He seems distant. Starts criticizing you for everything, starts fighting more than usual. Hides his phone, staying out longer. No longer makes you his priority. You have no idea why and you try to change yourself. You have talks but they seem to go nowhere. This person who loved you and you love is slipping away. Then one day, while he takes a nap you notice his phone light up next to him. You notice a message on his screen that says “When can I see you again?” You snoop. You realize he’s been talking to someone else. This person who was all yours. The one who you wanted to marry someday. Raise a family. Go traveling with. All gone.

Jemini_Crocket · Accepted Answer

It is because it's a betrayal. You love someone, think things are going well, trust them completely and then boom, you find out they have cheated on you and you feel devastated.

All the trust is gone, trust issues rise up. It is horrible.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Because it is betraying the trust of your relationship partner
Because it shows you don't love them as much as you love another
Because you don't even tell them you are doing it

So yes, it is bad, if you want a relationship then you should be dedicated to that one person.

Lliam · Answer

Yes. Cheating is lying. Anyone who cheats can't be trusted. They only consider their own appetites in the same way a thief only thinks about himself. They know what they are doing is wrong or they wouldn't sneak behind their partner's back.
If a person wants to have sex with some else, they should tell their partner, not sneak behind their back and lie.
If a girl ever cheated on me, we would be done. I would never go near her again.

Flower7 · Answer

Only a cheater would ask something like that.

Hangry22 · Answer

Well choose a really bad guy who's a serial cheater. Then date him, love him, make him an important part of your life. Once he cheats on you, you will get the answer to your question. Maybe you don't value loyalty and likes sharing

ohshee · Answer

If you take the word cheat out of it THEN it's not,,, when 2 people fall in love there is a bond a connection with each other and thst love grows in to respect, trust,, and honor, commitment ,, and when you have that it's an understanding I don't need to be with anyone else they complete you they are your every desire and fantasy,, and friend and when all the above is in place it's always growing and becoming better and become your partner your best friend ,,, and when 2 people have this together it is beautiful. And when one of them CHEATS OR GIVES THEMSELVES to someone else it's messed up because the respect trust the bond you have spent years building has just been destroyed broken it was a waist of time it was Fake all a big lie

Berethor · Answer

Men are less forgiving for slutiness and cheating and there is biological reasons for that.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

You did it behind their back, thats betrayal. Ofcourse you can tell your boyfriend, hey i want to sleep with Steven is this ok? And he will tell you where to go. If you dont know this value then you're not suitable for dating relationships and marriage and should just stay single forever.

wankiam · Answer

cheating is more about lying and a betrayal of trust... i have no issues with partners sleeping with other people if they are honest about it but i can't stand liars

BeMuse · Answer

Yep, being able to trust someone and knowing they respect you is pretty important...

Kaamraj · Answer

Traditionally and biologically relationships are a compromise where the woman promises her sexual exclusivity and the man his resources and companionship. If a woman has cheated on me, I would be very angry and I'd leave.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

Let's count the trouble...
Lying (I'm faithful to you)
Betrayal (doing something behind the back of someone you say you love)
STD's (AIDS, HIV and Her pies for starters)
C-19 (well I didn't have it and I stay safe at work using gloves, mask and sanitizer so you're the only way I could have gotten it) since semen and sperm as well as saliva and blood contain C-19

Dargil · Answer

It is as deep as betrayal can be. In Latin cultures, it can end up in a crime of passion. Tom Jones' song  Delilah  is popular in those cultures because they understand it.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

It's a betrayal of someone who trusted you not to hurt them. It severely damages their ability to trust you again, or future partners if they leave. It makes them feel unloved, and stupid for not realizing it sooner. Not to mention you run the risk of contracting an STD and giving it to your partner, which could be something permanent like herpes, or life threatening like HPV

Rexos · Answer

Depends on how important it is for your partner. If you want a relationship, but at the same time you want to be sexually free, you can find guys out there who would agree to some kind of an open or partly open relationship. Don't do something like this behind somebody's back, there are too few people who would like that or not care.

Not_Average · Answer

It says a tremendous amount about ones character. My girl is a clinical therapist and has shared stories with me. The emotional impact that this sort of betrayal puts on a person can lasts decades. It’s devastating for the victim, and if you’re willing to do that someone you love and who loves you, then your morals are shit in my opinion.

Tea-Spaghetti · Answer

Yeah maybe

Angelo75 · Answer

YES!!! If someone do it to you, you'll see how bad it feels. Just don't. It leaves a mark that never gets healed completely.

chriscdi · Answer

cause its unloyalty, it shows a lot about the person

Browneye57 · Answer

Yes, it's really THAT horrible. You put your trust and faith into your lover, you adore them and covet them, lay your life down for them. And then they fuck somebody else? It's the ultimate betrayal. Of EVERYTHING in your entire being.

Please don't ever marry. Don't put some guy through all that. You'll ruin his life.

winterfox10 · Answer

Yeah, it's pretty horrible. Especially when the person is cheating in their marriage, and destroying lots of people's lives in a shortsighted attempt at short term happiness.

When you get right down to it, with very few exceptions, cheating is never really warranted or appropriate. Like... if someone's spouse is in a vegetative state for years with absolutely no chance of recovery... I feel like that's not really committing adultery.

Is cheating really THAT horrible?

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