Is dryhumping enough for guys?

I (18f) have been dating my boyfriend (22m) for 3 months, he's my first relationship, but he has had other girls before me. I masturbate pretty frequently but I haven't really been intimate with him beyond kissing. Lately I've been dryhumping with him a lot, it feels good and it's normally how I get off on my own, so it feels the most natural. I managed to orgasm from it the last time we did it, but I don't think he was even close.


Part of me feels really quilty about all of this, we agreed to wait until I was ready at the start of the relationship, and he hasn't asked since we discussed it. But I know he wants to go a lot further with me. I feel like I'm with holding something from him since I can get off from it but he can't, and the only reason is because I don't want to have go further.

Like am I doing something wrong and that's why he can't get off? Should I maybe just compromise a little and try to go a little further? Any advice

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  • Dry humping should be enough to get him off, and by the way, 'dry humping' IS sex, and it doesn't have to be penis in vagina to be having sex. It depends on what you are wearing also, since jeans are 'thick' and don't allow much friction on his penis although you can feel it on your clitoris enough, I suppose.

    Try dry humping in your underwear, (if you are not afraid he will try to 'stick it in" while dry humping. I always liked dry humping a girl that I had just met while out driving around in my teens, to the local drive-'ins (when they were in 'vogue"

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  • Dry humping might seem nice at the moment, but you are literally torturing each other. There will come a time when it won’t be enough for you either and then the clothes come off and you find yourself going against your own commitment to yourself. Me and a girlfriend about 10 years ago when we started dating made a commitment that we wouldn’t have sex until the time was right. French kissing eventually lead to making out and dry humping. After many nights of dry humping it became too much, the clothes came off, and the penis went in. And it happened very quickly. So unless you’re ready for sex now, I would suggest backing off a bit and not making things more difficult for each other.

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  • Men will eventually want sex.. at least most will but if he cares enough about you he will be patient.

  • No. Don’t compromise. If you’re not ready you’re not ready.

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  • he'll need blowjobs very soon.

  • Yeah sometimes it’s enough. I typ. get off dry humping in underwear, but it feels more like masturbation

  • I’ve never understood the appeal of that. It would only leave me sexually frustrated.

  • Does he get a boner when you do it? It is fun but I have not orgasmed from it also. Would you be willing to give him a handjob... guys love that if you are not ready for sex yet?

  • You worried about losing your virginity? he already used for more, so it's not enough for him.

  • He may need more stimulation than just dry humping, but he can wait. If he is a gentleman/good guy, he won't pressure you and let you take the lead on what happens in that regard.

  • It would help if it was in underwear (not a thong, of course.) It allows you to wet him a little and get a shallow bit of penetration which doesn't affect the equipment if you are a virgin. It is the head of his penis which gets pleasure. Doing that will give him pleasure.

  • Dry humping is so much more fun then actual sex! He might not cum from it, but believe me, its deeeply statisfying to have a woman dryhump me and orgasm from it! Maybe he just loves it this way, too!

  • He should be able to get off from it although he may be reluctant because of the mess it will leave in his pants/underwear.

  • Try giving him a hand job.

  • That’s hard to say. Now being older, not it’s def not enough. But if I was younger around your age again, it was ok, and I’d respect that.


    But I’m curious since you masturbate and you are really comfortable with that, is that something else he can do with or to you or you can do with each other (like would you give him a handy?), can he give you one, or is that off limits too? Could he use toys on you?

  • I never once complained out dry humping. Even if I didn't finish from it, which I usually didn't, I still thouroughly enjoy dry humping. It is tricky to get it to feel really nice. Just have to keep at it.

    I don't know if you two are still fully clothed when you're doing it but it feels a lot better to dry hump in underwear. Some of the hottest and most memorable encounters I've had were just dry humping sessions. I do genuinely love to do it. Even after going all the way with an earlier partner.

    At some point it will eventually lose its charm. By then I suggest trying to give him a handjob or, if you're feeling bold, a blowjob.

    Biggest thing is if you're not ready to have actual sex then that's 100% ok.

  • I'd love the hell out of that if my girlfriend did it to me!😍

  • no its not enough, I would say there is other things that you can do to make him cum other then full sex.. like a HJ or BJ if you are up for that

  • Unless you are a virgin planning on saving herself marriage, you are definitely doing wrong by him. Either let him smash or go down on him.

  • What are you wearing when you do it? If there are jeans or too many clothes it won't be as good for him. Try just panties rubbing against his underwear. If he doesn't cum, give him a handjob at least, or suck him and let him cum in your mouth.

    • I'm usually in legging or sweats, I'm just nervous about going that far

    • Well leggings should be thin enough, is he in his underwear?

  • Yeah maybe try dry humping with just him with just underwear or or one of you naked and the other person with underwear on. Or if you wanna really make him happy give him a handjob or blowjob so he can get off but don't make him pressure if you don't want to.

  • I think you are doing the right steps by communicating with him and letting know how you feel. And he is respecting that too my wife was the Sams that you are when we first started dating now she has sex with other people infront of me.

  • Sounds like foreplay, sparking that fire but eventually you'll have to get frisky or else frustration will seep in

  • Nope

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