Is having sex with a ptostitute considered cheating?

Anonymous

If a man has been married for 20 years.

Has not gotten sex from his wife for the past 5 years.

Can't remember what a pussy looks like.

When he asks for sex she's never interested.

Like most women she complains about how men are such sex crazed animals who always obsessed with their disgusting "sausages". Also that there are "much more important things than sex in a relationship".

In this case is it okay for the man to seek out prostitutes without telling his wife?

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kbharadwaj3125 Xper 6
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I don't consider it as cheating. 5 fucking years no sex. And they are married for 20 years. How many times did he ask her about this topic how many times did he got rejected. And his wife doesn't even care about his needs. May be its not okay but married for 29 years and she is not saying or thinking anything about his husband is kinda unfair. Or may be he done something bad and and found out later. Can't say anything. But there are no male sex toys I guess to relieve sexual pressure. And at that age he would be too emabarassed to ask and use it. What else must he do. He must apply for divorce and get a new girl? Would he get a new girl? And everyone is talking here it as a cheating. What if a girl does this shit? She can get away with this coz his man is not manly enough that old guy is an idiot and she would get all the support.. Its totally unfair to call it cheating
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vittle1999 Yoda
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Why wait the 5 years is the first qn. Second qn is has the man n his wife talked about why no sex ( is there an inherent problem being faced by the wife, is she just lost her sex drive etc). Have they gone to counseling. What has the guy done for 5 years to quench his sexual appetite. Does his wife care whether he gets sex or not elsewhere? Lots of factors will determine what's to be done next. ( I haven't answered the question because it's unknown at this point what's transpired already).
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alisonbaker332 Xper 4
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Sex is important to most women. I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship if my boyfriend wouldn't want to have sex. I think it has more about to do as when a woman gets older maybe she doesn't feel as sexy? Maybe her body has started to change and she is really insecure about it.

And ofc having sex with a prostitute Is cheating
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- Asker
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  Sex is an afterthought to most women.
- alisonbaker332
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  Honestly no, most just wanna make it seem that way to men. Like trust me, me & me girls definitely don't see sex as an "afterthought"
- Asker
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  I really doubt that.
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- alisonbaker332
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  Well you're a man so
Belorum Xper 6
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If you aren't satisfied with your wife and unhappy about that, then leave her and you are free to fuck around as much as you like. But when you are in a relationship, at least if its not an open one, it doesn't matter if you pay for sex or not, it is still cheating.
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- Asker
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  But if sex is not important to most women I don't see why prostitutes are a big deal. The man wouldn't be starting a relationship with a prostitute and moving her into the house, he just pays her, fucks her, and she disappears forever.
- Belorum
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  Yes, but it doesn't change anything about the fact that it would still be cheating. Or would you be okay if your wife would just hook up with a random guy for a night? It doesn't have to be a second relationship to be considered as cheating. I do not think that sex isn't important to MOST women either... probably after they are already on their menopause or asexual, but definetely not for women in general. Just because most of us do not have the same libido as a guy has, it doesn't mean that we do not have any at all.
- Asker
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  It's not about libido. It's in a part of the brain which tells you what's important and what it isn't, in men's brains it's riggt beside life and death, in women's brains sex is right alongside clipping toenails.
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- Belorum
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  Where did you got that from? o. O Sounds like a pretty random claim for me.
- Asker
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  You just don't understand how a man's mind works. For example if a man had his penis cut off most women would thinl it was funny cause to them sex isn't a big deal, but most mem would see it as worse than death, and they'd often kill themselves. Men and women perceive sex very differently.
- Belorum
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  Where did you met any woman who would find it funny? How sadistic has a human being to be to find that funny? I'm not laughing about women who had their clitoris cut off either... And I would say that sex is pretty important to me, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship without sex. o_O
- Belorum
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  By the way, why do you think that you would understand how the mind of a woman works? A little bit egocentric huh? ^^
- Asker
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  https://youtu.be/kkmanLIAdXI
  
  Also jusy cause I'm a man doesn't mean I can't understand how women think. Women can understand how men think too.
- Belorum
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  Oh wow, a bunch of feminists is now representating for all women out there?
- Asker
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  They're not feminists.
- Belorum
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  Pretty much sound like some. haven't watched through the whole thing though, I just skipped and it made me cringe.
- Asker
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  I've seen women on facebook and other social media laughing and cheering at this too, and many of these same women were right-wing, posting stuff everywhere from "You PC libturd" to "Islam is cancer!". It has absolutely nothing to do with a woman's political orientation. It's biology. That part of the male body is in women's minds the most useless and unattractive part, so they don't understand what the big deal is if it's cut off. Hence the laughter.
- Belorum
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  For me neither a penis or a vagina are pretty to look at. But it doesn't mean that I do not realize that they are important and I for sure do not think that they would be useless. The women you're talking about for sure aren't representating the whole popolation.
- Asker
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  Trust me. I've seen countless videos other than this one and thousands of facebook comments, 90% of women are like this. You're an exception not the norm. Also about the other comments to do with lesbian women being different than straight women, there's something about the video above. If you watch it you'll notice out of all the women in the audience and panel who were laughing and cheering, the only woman who called them out and said it was not right to laugh was Sara Gilbert who just so happens to be the only lesbian in the panel. So perhaps lesbians do think differently than straight women, i. e. sex is important to them like it is to men hence they don't find this type of thing funny whereas straight women do.
- Belorum
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  You know, it isn't hard to find thousands of videos on youtube of men who are hating women. Who are saying that ALL of them are golddiggers without any exceptions, that they would only use men etc. But it would still be pretty stupid to believe that these men would represent the average men. Its just the fact that all the women and men who aren't into hating the other gender just do not create any videos about that matter, and if they do there aren't lots of people who watches them. Just as a newspaper doesn't write about how pieceful and quit a town is, they would rather concetrate on the more extreme things somewhere else. The "extremes" just happen to be more "interesting", thats why they stand out most.
- Asker
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  How exactly does men saying women are golddiggers compare to women laughing at penises being cut off? The only comparison is if you could find an audience of men laughing at a woman who got her breasts cut off which wouldn't happen in a million years. It's imply cause men don't think that way.
- Belorum
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  So even if there is only 1 of one thousand women who is like the women you described, she would be the only one you'll notice, because she would be the loudest. Thats the whole point.
- Asker
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  You're just assuming women are not like that cause you don't want to believe it. I didn't want to believe it either until I discovered the internet and found that 90% of the time whichever place I look I'll find every woman laughing and cheering at it.
- Belorum
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  Do you believe that all men are womenhaters? Its absolutely the same thing. You just see them because you're looking for them, thats all.
- Asker
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  A man can be a womanhater but he will still empathize with a woman if she got mutilated and will never condone that type of act no matter how misogynistic he is. It's because he would see the part of her mutilated as important to her hence his human nature takes over and he shows empathy. You're assuming most women think it's funny cause they hate men. That's not at all the reason at all. I already told you it's cause in a woman's mind the penis is not at all important, they equate it with losing a fingernail. If it's not a big deal in their minds then it becomes funny.
- Belorum
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  In the mind of women who are hating men a penis might not seem important. But most women are emphatic enough to know that this isn't funny at all. And just as I told you before, how do you want to know how it looks like in a womans mind? Do you have a secret vagina hidden somewhere between your balls and dick?
- Asker
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  Again you're assuming all these women hate men. Most these women are in happy marriages and relationships. They don't hate men. It has nothing to do with hating men.
- Belorum
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  If a woman is in a happy relationship with a man, why would she want him to have his penis cut off? o_O And as far as I know, cutting off penis or testicles is only done to pedophiles and only if they agree with it in order to go out of jail early on. I highly doubt that this is a usual practice somewhere else, we aren't living in the middleage anymore...
- Belorum
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  And if its something which has to happen due to a sickness (cancer or similar) it isn't funny either, the woman would maybe tell her partner that this isn't a big deal for her presonaly in the hope that this would make him feel at least a little bit better.
- Asker
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  Cause to her sex is not important and the penis is just some ugly thing attached to him which she'd rather he didn't have. They did do a study in germany I recall. They placed 5 men and 5 women next to eachother and told them of a real story of a woman who cut off a man's penis (I think the crime happened in Frankfurt-Oder). The men were visibly horrified but the women started giggling. When asked why they were laughing the women said they were laughing at how the men were making such a big deal about their weiner.
- Belorum
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  You are telling the same bullshit over and over again... A woman who is in a healthy, happy relationship and who isn't an asexual would never said that sex wouldn't be important. And no one besides of someone sadistic would want anyone else to have any part of his body amputated, it doesn't even matter if its the penis or "only" a finger. Maybe the women were immature, maybe they thought this wouldn't be a real story. But do you really want to tell me that a "study" with only 10 participants would be representative in any matter? Thats not scientific at all. Only if you could show me a study with 500 or more men and women with the same result, I would believe you.
- Asker
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  Well you think they're immature and a minority, and I think it's just a highlight of the difference between how men and women view sex. Let's just agree to disagree.
- Belorum
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  And also only, if these men and women would be picked fully random. I highly doubt that you'll be able to find any study of this kind which would prove your point.
- Asker
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  You'd be surpised.
- Belorum
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  Well, I'm wainting. Come on, surprise me.
- Asker
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  Such a study doesn't exist to my knowledge, I just go by what my experience with the wonderful internet tells me.
- Belorum
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  Okay, have fun with exploring the internet while wearing blinkers and only noticing people who are proving you're right :D
- Asker
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  I really don't wear blinkers. I did desperately want to believe most women weren't like this cause I didn't want to see women as being sadistic or anything like that. Then after I couldn't find a single place where they weren't laughing hysterically, I eventually realized their laughter wasn't out of malice or hatred of men, they genuinely just can't see what the big deal is in losing that part of the human anatomy. I realized God had created men and women very differently and I'm fine with that. Men and women are special in their own way.
- Belorum
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  Obviously you are wearing some, but probably without even noticing it. Just look at your reactions here to everyone who told you that your opinion about women just doest represent the reality. You just disagreed with them and thats it. I guess thats the same reaction which you are towards about any other woman out there which doesn't act like you would expect her to. I do not believe in creationism by the way. Men and women are differently, sure, otherwise we simple couldnt mate with eachover. The differences are required. Being an asshole on the other hand isn't genderbound.
- Belorum
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  And yes, my English is kinda broken atm. Deal with it XD
Richareens Editor
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It's cheating if your wife doesn't know about it and also will have a negative reaction to it. Do both of you a favour and file for divorce if you are really that bothered by lack of sex and she has already said she doesn't want anything to do with sex.
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- Asker
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  Why would anyone want a divorce and ruin their marriage? Maybe the man likes living with his wife and talking with her everyday and doesn't want that to end? Maybe the man doesn't want to lose his house and half his bank account? Why can't he satisfy his need for sex in secret?
- Richareens
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  Because that's automatically cheating if his wife doesn't know. Be a man and tell her at least instead. It's unfair for her.
- Asker
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  So is it cheating if he buys a gum without letting her know? If sex is not important to most women then I don't understand why it suddenly becomes important if he has it with another woman. It's not like he's starting a relationship with a prostitute, he's just paying for sex then kicking her out the door.
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- Richareens
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  If your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you anymore and it's important to you, I don't know why you're still with her. If you know she would hate it if you engaged insexual relations with others, no need to be that asshole who cheats. Be the better person. Clearly you're unhappy with lack of sex, so tell her. If she doesn't give a fuck, then you're incompatible no matter what you say. Tell her you're bothered by no sex for 5 years and that you have your needs. 5 years is a bloody long time. If she calls you out, then obviously you two are in deep shit. If you still want to go ahead and do so with a prostitute without her consent, do it. If you really loved her and cared for her, you wouldn't but whatever it's your relationship. I don't have much say anyway.
Anonymous
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Yes, it is cheating if you are doing it behind your wife's back without her knowing. If you want to fix your sex life, go to a couples therapist; don't look outside the marriage, unless you are willing to end it.
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- Asker
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  Sex therapists are joke. A male sex therapist would say "Do not touch eachother for 3 months then come back here. Trust me I've seen it work." A female sex therapist "Do you cuddle and kiss? That is sex already! What are you complaining about? Sex is a lot more than just genitals and orgasms! You men are so obsessed with your disgusting sausages! 300 dollars pls."
- Opinion Owner
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  How do you know what they would say if you've never been to one? It seems like you are not wanting to fix your sex life, but rather are trying to justify cheating. Besides, couples therapists act as mediators in order to foster communication between a husband and wife; something you are clearly lacking in your marriage. If you are not open to getting help for your marriage, get a divorce.
- Asker
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  I've seen what they say cause they write articles on the internet all the time.
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- Opinion Owner
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  Yes, because everyone on the internet is exactly who they say they are... except they are not. Again, you don't sound like you are even open to the idea of fixing your marriage. Why are you even asking the question if you are probably going to go do it anyway? It sounds like you are looking for validation more than anything else.
- Asker
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  Why are you against sex with prostitutes? If sex is not important to a woman why does it suddenly become important if her husband has it with someone else?
- Opinion Owner
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  I'm not against it; as long as the wife knows and is consenting to it. And saying "sex isn't important to a woman" is complete BS. Women value sex just as much as men. If a woman stops having sex in a marriage, there is usually someone physiological cause, just like a man who struggles with impotency. Sex is part of a healthy marriage. If there is problems, than the marriage has problems. Either fix the marriage or get a divorce, because what is the point of being married if neither partner is happy?
- Asker
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  "Women value sex just as much as men." Hahahahahaha... no.
- Opinion Owner
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  "The study, in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, asked 229 hetero couples (average time together: six years) how often they want to have sex, as opposed to actually have it. The startling conclusion: Women want sex just as much as men—but men consistently misinterpret their signals, taking any turn-down as disinterest in sex in general, when it’s really just disinterest right then" There is scientific evidence showing women like sex just as much as men. You are just making BS generalizations. Good luck even finding a woman who will marry you with that attitude.
- Asker
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  Another myth of the "sexually liberated" west. I think the the people we call "backwards" had it right along. Men takes sex and woman gives sex.
- Belorum
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  Wait... so a study with 458 individuals is just a "myth", but one with only 10 claims the truth? If you are only willing to agree with studies which prove your point regardless of if its a scientific one or not, it doesn't really make any sense to discuss with you. You will just block away any other opinion without thinking about that for even one second. Why are you asking others in the first place? Just talk to yourself, thats gonna have the same outcome.
- Asker
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  @Belorum I think you are misinterpreting that study. Just cause a woman claims she wants sex doesn't mean sex is a physical need to her like it is to men. When she says she wants it she means in the same manner she feels like putting on colorful nailpolish.
- Asker
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  @Belorum I'm sure many of the woman in that video would in that study say that they want sex ad much as men too.
- Belorum
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  ... And how do you want to know how a woman wants it? Believe me, having sex is in any way not similar to putting on nail polish XD And of course do women have a physical need for sex, have you ever heard of a female libido? Our BODIES do want sex too, not just our minds. :) And just because a lot of women do not want it AS often as men (like not everyday but only a few times of the week for example) doest mean that it is less important to them.
- Opinion Owner
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  I love these guys who rant on and on about how they have women all figured out, but yet are unable to give evidence of their claims.

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cuttl Xper 6
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It's cheating.
Unless they've agreed to an open relationship.

If there's not a really good reason not to, he should look into divorce.
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BigRayFromNC Xper 5
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If any man who is married and he has sex with another woman whether she is a prostitute or not is cheating.

As well any man who is married and his wife has not had sex with him in 5 years there is a major problem and he should have gotten rid of her a long time ago.

The best thing for the man to do is get divorced immediately then go out and bang whoever he wants.
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AzureGirl Master
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Having sex with anyone outside of your relationship is cheating.
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Zer0Ghost Explorer
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It's okay to seek out counseling, not prostitutes, you still made a vow, "better or worse" doesn't just mean "while the sex is good"
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ionooanaimouz Xper 2
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Yeah it's cheating no matter how you look at it.
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Goodwifie Guru
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the grass is greener where you water it.
could be all sorts of reasons why she is never in the mood for intimacy.
maybe he is a lousy husband.
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- Goodwifie
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  it is cheating
- Asker
  +1 y
  More likely cause sex is not important to women in general. It's not a physical need for them like it is for men.
- Goodwifie
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  no you need to put in the effort and not just in the bedroom. when a woman feels unloved she will not give love in return.
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- Asker
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  Exactly. You just worded it romantically, what you're actually saying is that a man always needs to earn nex. Sex is not something a man and woman "share", it's something a man gets and a woman gives. A woman only opens her legs in return for something else. In the case of prostitutes it's for a little money.
- Belorum
  +1 y
  By that logic there wouldn't be any sexual activities in a lesbian relationship. But what a surprise! There are... So woman do find sex important.
- Asker
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  @Belorum I don't know maybe homosexual women think differently than heterosexual ones. Ypu have to remember sexual orietation is decided in the womb when the brain is still in the early stages of developing.
- Belorum
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  Really, I have no idea what women you met before in your life. If they were all asexuals or old grandmothers. For most women sex is pretty important for sure though. And because you claim the opposite, let me tell you that you have no idea how a womans mind works, even if you seem to think that you would. You just dont.
- Goodwifie
  +1 y
  in relationships you need to both put in these three things. attention, affection and appreciation. note to all the unhappy husbands that are not getting laid foreplay shouldn't just start in the bedroom. my marriage has been completely turned around by treating each other better and for the first time in many years I noticed by my husband. does my husband have ask for intimacy NO, actually I initiate it most of the time. it's not boring sex either 😉OMG a rollercoaster ride every time.
Cammy137 Guru
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It's cheating
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madgoat Guru
+1 y
This woman's argument is self justifying, and her decision apparently unilateral. So while it would be cheating to use a prostitute, she's put the guy in a very difficult position.
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BoyIfYouDont666 Xper 5
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First of all. Yes it absolutely is cheating. Second of all who the fuck does not have sex in 5 years and still stays?
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- Asker
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  "who the fuck does not have sex in 5 years and still stays" Most married men.
- BoyIfYouDont666
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  Source?
UrsTrulyKrish Xper 4
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No man you can't do that
It's cheating
There are so many techniques to get into mood
Watch intimate scenes together in a mve
Start your work
But don't show your emotion is to do sex
Go with the flow
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bekkesmash Xper 5
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I would divorce her if it didn't make me broke
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Hispanic-Cool-Guy Master
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Of course it's cheating.. lol what you think it is?
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Juxtapose Guru
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LOL don't get married! That being said, if my partner wouldn't give me a lay at least a few times a week then I'm out.
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- Juxtapose
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  I see the downvotes. Hey ladies, I'm just telling it like it is. I know there's plenty of you out there who'd not consider me because of my low income or because I'm two inches away from being six feet tall.
jaystr Xper 2
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Usually no but 5 years damn... maybe yes?
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foxsquirrell Yoda
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Yes it is. Even if she has a medical condition she must understand that a man is a man and that it is in his nature that he wants to fuck a woman. Feel his cock going inside a girl's pussy.
If she does not have a medical condition her denying sex is grounds for divorce all in your favor. If the law is not such, then who written the law is a faggot.
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Anonymous
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Nah, he should leave his wife if she's cuckolding.
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Anonymous
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Kinda complicated because the man only do that to relieve sexual desire but maybe it's also considered as cheating.
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