Is he selfish or just insecure in bed?

[sexyeyes1983]

I’ve been in a sexual relationship with this guy for about 3 years now. At times the sex is good, but the majority of the time I am left unsatisfied. He literally cums in 3 minutes (last night felt like 30 seconds smdh) or less. After cumming hard he lays in fetal position for 30 seconds, cleans himself off, holds me, and then passes the hell out (snoring and shit lol).. And I’m laying there like, ummmm wtf was that? We talked about it once before and he even asked what I like, which is oral, but that’s something he’s not willing to do. I’m just at a point where I’m ready to move on!! I know that sounds petty!. I would talk to him about it again, BUT I think he may be a little insecure, as he gives me this look of shame after sex (like a sad puppy dog) and stares at me to see how I am going to respond. I’m not a rude person, so I try not to go there, but damn!! Is he selfish or just insecure in bed? I thought about bringing toys in the bedroom for my pleasure, but I don’t know how that would make him feel. To be honest he’s not the first guy who has done this. My pussy has been described as tight (not too tight but has good grip), wet, and warm. So I don't know if the guy I’m dealing with just gets super excited or what!! We are very attracted to one another. He travels a lot for work, so we don’t have sex all the time, as in weekly, maybe every few weeks or so. Anyway, I’m sexually frustrated!! sigh... Am I tripping?

[bowenw]

You have every right to be sexually satisfied and it's not being petty. If he hasn't ejaculated for a couple of weeks he simply may not be able to last more than a few minutes. Is he the same if you have sex the following day? To delay ejaculating you could try desensitizing lotion on his dick. A cock ring may also help. If you're especially tight that may also lead to a quick release. If that's the case, try different positions where you're more open such as missionary with your legs spread wide. If that doesn't help, try some lube so there's less friction. If you can tell that he's getting close to cumming, take a break for a minute to let him settle down. Also consider doing things to make yourself cum sooner such as fingering yourself or using a vibrator during intercourse. If nothing changes seeing a therapist may help.

[naturalgirl]

@bowenw I’m sorry can you respond to my message it’s urgent please

[sexyeyes1983]

Thanks but I have good grip, but I’m not overly tight. And I get real wet. No lube necessary!! I squeeze him and he also squeezing himself, but before you know it, he lets loose. I think he tries to last longer, BUT it doesn’t work out that way all the time. Yesterday I was just really horney and woke up frustrated!! Yesterday was a quickie because my teenagers would be home soon, so that likely added to his stress.. but anyway there was plenty of time for round 2. I just don’t think he can hang to be honest. We were in missionary for 2 minutes or less.. no time to change into positions. We haven’t seen each other in a few weeks.. so I don't know it’s just annoying as hell. I have no issue rubbing myself but I can do that alone.. I love penetration!!

[sattii1987]

I would say, now that you know the timing mostly, just stop him by yourself around the time, else you try positions that keep you in control like cowgirl

[sexyeyes1983]

@sattii1987 I’ll try that more

[sattii1987]

Since we shifted to cowgirl both of us started enjoying much more

[Caliguy88]

It happens I guess. I’m pretty good at controlling so no real complaints. But I have finished first and my girlfriend will straight up be pissed. But that’s like once every 3 or 4 months... I can’t imagine a girl putting up with that. See a dr or try some products that claim to help. If anything I get complaints I last too long.

[sexyeyes1983]

He thinks he can make up for it in non sexual ways. But it’s a wrap for me!!

[Caliguy88]

Well we all bring something to the table! Glad it’s working out!

[sexyeyes1983]

Lol it’s not working out, but thanks!!

[alleon]

You’re not petty! He’s being a selfish lover and using you to masturbates in by the sounds of it. I’d set him down say look this has been.. whatever it’s been but I’m not getting what I need from you even after letting you know what it is. This sexual relationship has been all about your needs for 3 years. Wish you good luck. Byeee

[HugoThe2nd]

Selfish, any guy can learn how to last more than 3 minutes.
If they are that age and can't, it's because they either never, ever bothered to learn (doubtful), or they in fact can but simply aren't bothered to make that effort.

My bets are on the second option.
Any average guy has wanked plenty enough to come to understand how their tools work.

[Browneye57]

Consider a sit-down adult conversation. And not in the bedroom.
This is what mature adults do.
Or cut him loose and find a guy that blows your doors off. Your choice.

Oh, and it has NOTHING to do with your pussy. For gods sakes.

[genericname85]

what the fuck xD get him to eat you out or finger you first so you at least get off once before he does his solo-player 3-minute-sprint xD

or maybe train him in controlling his orgasm, telling him to stop and take a break before he cums. edging makes shit besser anyway, so it's a win-win.

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

I will say that men are like cars, if you aren't satisfied with the current one, I might suggest that you check out a new one.☯️

[sexyeyes1983]

Yessss I’m definitely at that point!!

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

You know that if I was in your current beau's place, I would most definitely do my best to bring you to an orgasm before my orgasm.☯️

[ND4SPD31]

Time to get a new ride. Lol.

[sexyeyes1983]

Kmsl

[ND4SPD31]

I don’t even know what that means lol

[JamieLoves]

Yes it’s selfish!!!
I always get the girl off first ! Always!
Ding a real man!

[In_Trance]

Seems like a communication issue

[sexyeyes1983]

Right!!! I’m struggling finding the words to say “fuck me better 🥴”

[In_Trance]

So... say that

[sexyeyes1983]

At this point I am.. was trying to be polite BUT

[In_Trance]

Clearly being polite isn't getting you anywhere

[DaMack999]

No you have a good point. If a guy was in your shoes he would dip as in leave you after 3rd bad sex. Men can't sleep sexually frustrated.

[sexyeyes1983]

My point!!! I’m not saying the sex is bad every time, but I want an orgasm every time, just like him.. he knew when he left, I was feeling a little upset about it..

[Veegmiester]

I say move on he seems selfish at the least, and poor in bed

[sattii1987]

It happens, men under stress cum as if they got a flight to catch.
I lick her till she orgasms so that she doesn't feel left out ever

[sexyeyes1983]

Lol @ “catch a flight”...

[sattii1987]

Yeah it's the stress dear something else on his mind is the worst while making out

[sattii1987]

I can't explain more here can tell what we went through in direct messages if that's ok with you

[sexyeyes1983]

That would be great and maybe I can add a few missing details to my dilemma 🤦🏾‍♀️

[sattii1987]

Sure can you message me, the xper level isn't allowing me to

[sexyeyes1983]

Me either.. says I need Xper level 2

[sattii1987]

That's too bad, I can clear stuff here till it gets cleared I guess

[sexyeyes1983]

Ok well I added more details in one of the replies if you want to chime in 😞

[Anonymous]

He is an insecure male.

[sexyeyes1983]

I have this suspicion too. Not to mention he’s very jealous