Is he trying to get me pregnant?

So my boyfriend is 30 and I’m 21. He’s a good boyfriend and treats me well. Sometimes I overthink and try to leave him over small things and that’s my bad. Anyways my boyfriend and I are having unprotected sex. We were gonna use condoms but he said he doesn’t wanna use condoms. So he’s supposed to just pull out but he hasn’t been pulling out lately. I've already expressed that I think the thought of him cumming in me is hot. I've joked about it but told him don’t cum in me. I’ve joked about wanting to have all his babies. So last night he told me he came in me and he said “yeah u should definitely be pregnant now cause I came in u a lot” . He didn’t think I paid attention to what he said. But like y would he say that? So later on he came in me again and I low key think it’s hot so I let him but then I mentioned getting a plan b and he acted like it wasn’t even necessary. He said I don’t need one and told me to just lay down and relax. I asked him what if I get pregnant and he started saying “ I thought that was what u wanted. “ I couldn’t tell if he was joking or bullshiting with me so I laid down. But I kept pressing the subject and I asked y he didn’t think I really needed a plan b. He said because he came in me a lot other times and I didn’t end up pregnant those times. That’s his reason! He doesn’t seem worried about if he gets me pregnant at all. He said I don’t need a plan b but if it makes me comfortable he’ll get one even tho he really doesn’t think I need one. I finally agreed that maybe he makes sense because yes he did cum in me before and I didn’t get pregnant. So we ended up not getting the plan b. Another incident is he jokingly mentioned how he can’t wait for me to have kids so they can drive me crazy and we just laughed it off. But I kind of get a feeling that maybe he’s a little bit serious. Am I overthinking this? What do u guys think?
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  • You are walking on VERY thin ice here, and you have HUGE questions about things you really need to KNOW the answer to, because sooner or later (and probably sooner), your life is going to be looking at a huge change in your life (because you'll be pregnant).

    It MIGHT be that he wants kids with you and wants a life together with you forever, but is afraid to bring that up. BUT, having seen this a lot, I have to be honest and say it's far more common that he just doesn't take it seriously, and assumes that YOU will deal with it (whether that's Plan B, or an abortion, or adoption, etc.) and that somehow he'll be off the hook. That's the kind of guy who will be out the door and down the road the minute he's got to be responsible in any way.

    Right now, you have no idea which of these two he is - though the odds are him being the latter type - and that's a VERY dangerous place for you to be. But this is YOUR uterus at stake here, and YOU are the gatekeeper of sex, so YOU need to take some action to protect yourself, one way or another, from an unplanned pregnancy with a man who likely isn't interested in being responsible for such. If you don't start taking some control, YOU will be the one who suffers the most.

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  • Well he may not think the 25% chance of pregnancy is high but I would. Sperm make their way to the Fallopian tubes and you - the girl - nourish them there till you ovulate at which time your body sends them a signal "WAKE UP BOYS. Go for it!". Sperm are viable for 5 days so two shots a week should do it.

    It is possible none get through your cervix; it can be blocked by mucous. So if you (collectively) don't want condoms or oral maybe get yourself checked for fertility on the off chance it may be unlikely.

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  • It didn't make much sense to me that a man who didn't propose would try to get her pregnant. I think she just likes to do it and thinks that because you haven't gotten pregnant this way before, she won't get pregnant in the future. However, so that you can better understand his motives, trick him into saying "I'm most likely pregnant" and gauge his real reaction.

    • I knew a girl who thought she couldn't get pregnant if she didn't enjoy it or so she said. As it turned out she could get pregnant even though she didn't enjoy it.

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  • To begin, do you really want a baby?

    If yes, easy. Keep fucking bare.

    Otherwise I suggest test and if negative, insert IUDs. It's quite effective.

    There's a saying "there's a word for those who use the pull out method: parents".

    Hence, while your question is important, what's of concern is whether you want a kid. If no, you must protect yourself.

  • Based on the info provided , I think he is " that it as it comes guys " ( literally ) , I think he is happy to get you pregnant , not too concerned if he does , and is probably not worried if he doesn't also..

    So , I guess you need to think about it?

  • I think you are going to get pregnant, have the baby, and then discover that your boyfriend is too immature to be a father and you will raise the baby alone.

    • You’re wrong because he has children already and he’s an amazing father.

    • So he has children with a woman or women he's no longer with?

    • Yes he does

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  • Whatever his intentions, if you continue to allow this you will likely be pregnant soon if you are not already. So decide what you want and act accordingly.

  • I mean… you’re kind of overthinking things, but it’s not like this isn’t something you should take seriously.

    if you don’t want to get pregnant, you shouldn’t let him cum in you. If he does cum in you, you should be taking BC. This is pretty simple. The guy isn’t trying to get you pregnant, but he doesn’t care if he does.

  • In all seriousness, sounds like you need to have the serious conversation about whether it's okay for him to get your pregnant or not. Like the joking has to end here. If you are not taking birth control and letting him cum inside it's a shared responsibility at that point.

  • Ok you want to know what I think? I think if you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex because you and your boyfriend are both irresponsible. He knows you're not on birth control yet he cums inside you. You know he's not wearing a condom but you let him cum in you. Most likely you are pregnant already. If you find out that you are and you tell him, he's going to be like dust in the wind and you'll never see him again.

  • You forgot to add the picture of the chocolate and the tampon to your post.

  • So you like the idea of him cumming in you and getting you pregnant, but you don't want him to. You're sending mixed signals.

  • you guys are idiots. Have a fkn conversation about it

  • You're underthinking. Let that sink in.

    And I gotta say you're sending VERY CONFUSING signals. Personally, I think your lack of concern indicates you wanna get knocked up!

    STOP having raw sex without BC if you DON'T want to get pregnant!