Is it a bad idea to perform fellatio and a handjob on a first date?

Question

And how should I go about it if I want to do it?

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Well, if being a slut or a prostitute is your goal then you go girl!!!

If you want someone to fall in love with you and ever consider as a long term girlfriend or wife and to commit to you... you've made things very hard that he'll ever see you that way.

Here's the kicker... we know and he knows he isn't special to you. He's not the only guy you've done that to. A girl who is so conditioned to do that on a first date and can so easily do something so graphic and intimate with a relative stranger... we know she's done it TONS of times on other men already.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

If you are just looking for casual sex from this guy, then, yeah, sure. If you think you might ever want a relationship with this guy, then it's probably the worst thing you can do. Most guys don't commit to girls who are quick to have sex with guys, because they can't trust such girls, so while he'd probably let you do those things, he'd also immediately and permanently demote you from "potential girlfriend" to "for recreational use only."

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Nope. If the chemistry is right and you both are in the mood than be safe but have fun.

RobT312 · Answer

No why not. Not a bad idea. If 2 people are into each other, why not let it happen….. but don’t force it

summiter · Answer

It is your body and your choice. If you had fun and there was good chemistry all guys love a great handjob!

slatyb · Answer

Whatever you both want is fine.

Dargil · Answer

I think hand play should come with fondness and fellatio shouldbe preceded by cunnilingus and not in the same session.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If you want to then do it. Just speak to your partner.

RavVid · Answer

It depends on what you want. Quite obviously he will assume he is not the only one who has got fellatio/handjob on a first date.

elizamichale1 · Answer

No not at all

Alexz0 · Answer

No... It's normal!

DerekC321 · Answer

It's fine if you both want it.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have had some great handjobs on the first date and they were incredible. They always feel so much better than when I jerk off solo.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I have never thought of girls as slutty for wanting sexual play anytime. I don't really know how a female would initiate other than to say to go in for a kiss or undo his pants. For me what I generally do if we are alone and I'm getting sexual urges is to take my dick out and grab her hand or head and pull her to it. It's actually never been turned down but I guess it's because I'm pretty positive it's what we both want.

kellytheman · Answer

Depends how good the date is and how attracted you are to the guy. I think it’s okay but yeah don’t give up all the goods on the first date unless you can’t handle your sexual urges.