Is it a bad idea to sleep with a guy if you like him too much?

If he's only looking for casual/friends with benefits
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Superb Opinion

  • I think it's a bad idea because the sex is likely to just make you like him and be with him even more and if all he wants is casual/friends with benefits then what's most likely to happen is that you'll end up with problems because you'll want more than he does and at some point he'll end it and you'll get hurt.

    And if you're married (which your profile says you are), then it's an even worse idea because having an affair when you're married is likely to be a much greater level of trouble. You should separate from your husband first before considering sleeping with someone else.

    • I'm referring to my past..

Most Helpful Guy

  • As someone that's been in this situation before, yes it is. Because your feelings are going to slowly grow for him over time with the more time you spend with him (and you likely won't even realize it until it's too late). And his feelings may not change at all, and you know what a mess it makes when feelings become involved right? Then it opens up the door for the all too common ghosting that people do these days etc. My advice is to end it now because I think you're going to not only like him more and more over time, but eventually want more from the "relationship", even if you don't think you will right now.

Most Helpful Girls

  • i can't comment because it really depends on the guy, if he'll talk and he's just using you that will be a problem

    but that said, i always thought it was fucked up for guys that girls who like them would rather opt in to fuck a one night stand or someone on tinder rather then "ruin" things with someone they like / care about.

  • If you do choose to see other people as well because he will see other girls

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If you have feelings for a guy (i. e., if there's ANY chance you'd ever want to have a romantic relationship with him), then you should NEVER become friends with benefits with him, because that will almost always ensure that you'll never have a relationship with him. You need to figure out what you want with a person AT THE BEGINNING, and pursue only that outcome.

    Is it a bad idea to sleep with a guy if you like him too much?
  • It depends on if you can keep a romantic distance once you've been together.

  • You are setting yourself up to be hurt. I would not recommend it. Even if you want to sleep with him, that's not what you really want. You want something more. Something will always be missing, and you won't be able to fool yourself.

    You have to make a clean cut, because there is no future in it for you. Straight sex will be no substitute for what you really want. So don't torture yourself.

  • One month from now, how will you feel towards him? How will he feel towards you?

    You can answer this question for yourself but I suspect you don't want to hear the real answer.

  • I guess that depends on how mature each person is I think if you talk about it and come to agreement how much dressing you might want to go and I think it's alright and sometimes it's the most beautiful thing and sometimes it's not but if you get that out in the open and communicate about it it can be very hot and very good

  • If he is looking for just casual, and you like him so you sleep with him...
    You will be the sad one when he has sex dates and you are hoping he will come back around to you.
    Plus, if he does not like the sex, then you will be even more hurt when he does not want to have sex with you.
    Basically, it is a bad idea.

  • I personally think it could be, it could damage you romantically and emotionally. I suppose you could be callus but that would also hurt your future real relationships too...

  • Of course not... not at all

  • Yes. It will end in sorrow.

  • Yeah

  • Yeah your heart will get broken

  • Yeah, that's a terrible idea.

  • 😠😠😠 Ask your husband...

  • Not as long as you both use for the same

  • Yes because that’ll end up hurting you emotionally after

  • It's a bad idea if he's going to use you just for his pleasure.

  • Yes.

  • Bad idea

  • Yes and he’ll end up losing respect for you

  • If he only wants one night stand and he's made it clear and you like him want more he may like you more as he gets to know you so you could give it a go. It's worth a go you could get him or not its worth trying I think.

    The commitment is a risk is he decides after he doesn't want anything further. So I'd suggest if you do try don't keep trying several one night stands with him if you try as you'd be emotionally hurt and get too emotionally attached if he didn't want more. So if he says after he wants it to stay just one night stands. I'd recommend leaving it there and have only one

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